THIS WHOLE BEAUTIFUL BODY

We sometimes forget how amazing, how beautiful, how mysterious, how wonder-full the whole of the body is.
This body of ours, from the tip of our fingers to our toes to the top of our heads is an endless word to discover, explore and experience.

WHAT MAKES A CONSCIOUS SEXUAL EXPERIENCE?

We talk about Conscious Sexuality, and Conscious Experiences.
What makes a Conscious Sexual experience?
What makes it different from a ‘normal’ sexual experience?
And why would you want to have such an experience?

THE RITUAL OF UNDRESSING YOU

The ritual of undressing you is so simple
Taking your clothes off
And with a breath
And an expanded awareness it becomes a ritual of deep richness

THE BEAUTIFUL EYES OF ORGASM 

The eyes of orgasm are the eyes to the heart
The eyes of orgasm are the eyes to the soul.
The eyes of orgasm are the eyes of intimacy
The eyes of orgasm are the eyes of knowing.

THE OPENING PLEASURE OF THE HEART TOUCH 

I talk about The Heart Touch, touching with love, touching from the heart.

It’s something I share at pretty much every workshop.

Eye-Gazing from the heart, kissing as an expression of your heart.

Going deeper, sex with your YoniLingam connected to your heart.

Penetration of your heart, penetration with your heart.

MAKING LOVE WITH YOU, ENDLESSLY 

One of the most beautiful, one of the most powerful, one of the most intimate, one of the deepest experiences we can share, is to make love with a woman slowly, really slowly. Gently, really gently.

THE CONVERSATIONS OF PLEASURE, LOVE AND LIFE

A while ago I was giving a talk at an event and a woman there said, ‘I could never have that kind of discussion with my partner.’
And this was a comment on a piece I shared a while ago, ‘And sadly enough it’s so many of us are struggling to open up to people we love the most.’

WELCOME TO PLEASURECRAFT, FLIGHT 2025

Welcome to PleasureCraft, Flight 2025

This is your captain speaking

On this journey we’ll be cruising at various altitudes that will take us down into the underworld and up to the heights of ecstasy

We ask that you begin by loosening your body and opening your mind

THE POSSIBILITY OF THE PATH OF PLEASURE

A while ago someone asked me why I was, in their perception, ‘seemingly obsessed’ with pleasure.
Now most social media comments can be taken with a pinch of salt, I gave this some thought.
On the surface that’s what I do, I teach about pleasure.

THE SENSUAL YOGA OF YAB-YUM

And in all the ways of touching there is something so simple, yet so deep.
So simple that we often overlook it.
So simple that we bypass it to get to ‘the good stuff.’
Holding.
Holding another.

THE CONVERSATION OF THE BODY IN TOUCH

One of the most beautiful expressions of touch, of conscious touch, is connection.

To touch as an expression of connection, an expression of intimacy.

To touch with the intention of the conversation of our bodies.

THE DIVINE POSSIBILITY OF YONI OPENING

At the moment many women are reaching out with a desire to have deeper, more fulfilling experiences.

For some women it’s about being able to have sex without pain.

For some women it’s about having an orgasm.

For some women it’s about feeling desire.

HEALING THE WHOLE (SEXUAL) BODY

I work with people on journeys of sexual, sensual, erotic healing, learning, exploring, growing.
I’m interested in depth and connection on these journeys rather than quick-fix, surface answers that so much of our world looks for, and so much on the internet promises.

THE MEDICINE OF THE PLEASURE TOUCH

Once you’ve experienced The Pleasure Touch

Once you’ve experienced The Conscious Touch

Once you’ve experienced Sacred Touch

You’ll know

You’ll know the medicine of this touch.

THE SENSUAL TOUCH OF GENEROSITY

I’ve been teaching and doing massage, touch, bodywork, in many ways for over 25 years.
I’ve also been thinking about, writing about it. And in this time we get to deep places, subtle places, we get to the qualities of touch.

FIRE SEX

I was thinking about Hard Sex and Fire Sex.

They’re not the same thing.

Fire Sex is presence.

Fire sex is my entire body, my eyes, my mouth, my throat, my voice, my heart, my belly, my Lingam, my pelvis, my legs.

SOFT-C&CK S*X, SOFT HEART S*X

We’ve been talking about Soft-C&ck Sex, and something emerged as I was thinking about this. 

Soft-C&ck S*x, Soft-Heart S*x.

And this doesn’t necessarily mean not having an erection.

THE POWER OF MEN RECEIVING, GENTLY, SLOWLY

What I share, I share from what I experience in my work, in sessions and workshops, the questions that people ask.

I love the discussions, and what comes from them, the work and workshops, the practices, and more and more I see the invitation in these.

THE DELICIOUS FREEDOM OF SOFT-C&CK SEX 

One of the most limiting definitions of male sexuality and male pleasure is an erection.
The bigger the better, the harder the better.
And women have bought into this as much as men.

IF YOU WANT TO GO DEEP, GO SLOW 

If you want to go deep

Go slow

If you want to go deep

Go soft

If you want to go deep

Stay there

If you want to go deep

Let it flow

From your heart

A SOFTER WAY OF PLEASURE 

Opening is expansion

Softness is welcoming

Gentleness is tender

Intimacy is vulnerability

Breathing into the heart

Consciousness is presence

Energy is flow

THE IMPORTANT PRESENCE OF PLEASURE 

‘I wanted to thank you for taking the time with me yesterday. 

Half of my problem is that I know I take long, and I shy away because I feel no one will want to put that effort in for me.’

YOU, YOUR YONI, YOUR LINGAM, DESERVE MORE

Your Yoni or your Lingam, you, deserve more.
They deserve more than simply being rubbed, by ourselves, by others, mostly hard and fast to the orgasm of release.
Your Yoni/Lingam deserve more than simply penetrating, being penetrated, to the friction, to the orgasm of release.

4 SECRETS OF SENSATION

As a sex educator and healer, a workshop facilitator and massage teacher there’s a question I get asked lots.

How do we have better sex?

Now what better sex actually is is its own discussion.

SACRED YONI, BEAUTIFUL YONI, YONI WORSHIP

For most of my life, most of this journey, which has been more than 25 years, I have worshipped Yoni, worshipped Women, loved Yoni, loved Women.
Goddess.
All of you, whether you know it or not, whether you’ve lived it or not.

THE EROTIC POWER OF A WHISPER

I’d like to share an erotic possibility with you.
I use the word possibility because it’s not a technique, that would reduce it to mechanics.
Maybe experience would be a better word, but I still prefer possibility because of where it can take you.

SEXUAL AWAKENING, LIFE AWAKENING

Recently I’ve been doing a lot of work with people, men and women, whose sexuality is waking up.
This isn’t something new, I’ve been doing this for a long time and I’d like to share some of the elements of this with you.
Sexual Awakening is stepping into the field of possibility.

THE LIMITLESS WAYS OF MAKING LOVE

I love to love, and I love to make love.
One of the understandings on this journey is how many ways there are to make love, and what amazing, limitless doors of possibility this idea opens for us.

Many of us hear that phrase, making love, and our minds go to something genital, something penetrative, something with an orgasm, hopefully for everyone involved…

THE MAGIC OF THE MYSTERIOUS, EXPANDED YONI KISS

A long time ago I came across an old book on sexuality, I used to collect them.
There was a claim in this book, based on ancient knowledge, that after an hour of oral stimulation, Yoni nectar became a magical elixir with all sorts of amazing, magical properties.
Being a dreamer and a romantic, I loved the idea.

BEING A GOOD LOVER IS BEING…

There is a really interesting aspect of being a good lover that we don’t always connect with sex.

Almost everyone who shares a healing and growth with me at some point says that they’re amazed at how it has everything to do with sex and nothing to do with sex.

This is the same.

THE SACRED TOUCH OF SERVICE

So much of our touch wants something. 

So much of our touch is for something else, leading to something else.

So much of our touch, even subconsciously, has an expectation in it.

So much of our touch is for a reaction, a response.

And because touch is a language of the body, the body, even subconsciously, picks up what’s in the touch.

THE TOUCH THAT SEEKS TOUCH

There is a touch that seeks touch

There is a heart that seeks another

There is love that seeks love

There is pleasure that seeks pleasure 

There’s a beautiful concept that what we seek is seeking us.

THE HEALING OF THE DEEP EROTIC SPACE

The Deep Erotic Space is an experience of energy, sexual energy, vitality, life-force.

It’s a space of the connection between the body and the heart.

It’s a space of deep relaxation and release.

It’s a space of softening and opening.

THE MEDITATION OF TOUCH

There is a touch that is slow, so slow.

There is a touch that is gentle, so gentle.

It comes from the heart, an energy that flows through your body into your hands so that your hands become your heart.

It comes from your breath, aligning your resonance.

THE INNER (SEXUAL) JOURNEY TO THE HEART

A while ago I shared a piece about a massage threesome, something we do lots, a deep and sensually sacred experience.
After that I received a lot of messages about where people could have this experience.
In conversation it emerged that most people were interested in this purely from a sexual space, an arousal space, a ‘getting off’ space.

LESSONS IN SACRED SEXUALITY 6

Look into my eyes
She said
Look into my eyes
As you enter my body
That you enter my heart
That you enter my being
That you enter me

TO KISS, SIMPLY FOR THE KISS

Mostly, everything we do with a lover is because it’s about getting to the next thing.

We kiss so I can touch your breasts. I touch your breasts so I can touch your Yoni. I touch your Yoni so I can be inside you. I’m inside of you so I can have an orgasm.

CLITINTIMACY

The other day I was doing a clitoral massage. This was in the space of healing, of pleasure, of energy, of sensation. It was about her receiving in a space of deep relaxation, breathing deeply, slowly. The touch was very, very gentle, very, very slow. It wasn’t about orgasm, if that happened it happened.

THE SPIRAL OF THE DIVINE PLEASURE PRESENT

Something fascinating changes when we shift perspective from having sex to experiencing pleasure.

Actually, a lot changes.

But recently something came to awareness that I’ve never thought about before.

Here’s what it is.

We stop going in straight lines.

LESSONS IN SACRED SEXUALITY 4

Our sex, our touch, our pleasure has so many dimensions.
One of the these is the conscious and subconscious intentions we bring to our experiences. And an element, a strong element of this is our need for our partner’s to be a certain way, react in a certain way, respond in a certain way.

THE SUBTLE POWER OF STILLNESS

In the conversation we had last night, it’s on my page, Christos and I spoke about the power of the subtle.

There’s a thing with sex, as soon as we’re inside someone, or someone is inside us, to move.

It’s almost as if our pelvis has a life, a will of its own, as if we’re programmed to move.

Stop.

THE POWER OF MEN RECEIVING

I’ve recently shared a few pieces on male sexuality and sensuality.

I share from what I experience in my work, in sessions and workshops, the questions that people ask.

These pieces have sparked some beautiful, deep and challenging discussions, questions and conversations.

I love the discussions, and what comes from them, the work and workshops, the practices, and more and more I see the invitation in these.

THE ACCEPTING, LOVING SPACE OF A LINGAM PUJA

I have been doing some very non-traditional Yoni and Lingam Puja experiences. 

This week I shared this space with a man.

Here we sit, 2 men.

2 naked men, looking into each other’s eyes.

FALLING IN LOVE WITH YONILINGAM

How different our pleasure would be, how different our sex would be, if we were in love, if we loved, our lover’s YoniLingam.

LESSONS IN SACRED SEXUALITY

One night I asked her how many lovers she’d had.
She teased me first, do you mean men and women, she said.
I was shocked at the number she told me.
How can that be sacred I asked?
She nodded, that’s an important question, there’s a lot to understand about it.

AND YONI SPOKE TO ME

As we free ourselves from patterning and conditioning, from inhibitions and shame, we open to a fuller life.
As we become more aware of the vitality, the creativity, the force of our sexuality, we are able to change so much within ourselves, our lives, our world.

THE PENETRATION OF THE LIMITLESS POSSIBILITIES OF PLEASURE

I was thinking about penetration, penetrative sex, and I was thinking about how narrowly we see that.
Firstly, for many of us the definition of sex is penetration, Lingam in Yoni, penis in vagina, or anus.
And for many of us, without penetration, there’s no fulfilment, something lacking, the experience is incomplete.