Author:Jonti

Conversations With My Sexual Body

For the past 10 months my eroticism has been solo and inwards. For someone who teaches in sexuality this creates many fascinating possibilities. One of these has been the conversations I've had with my cock,...

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As In Sex, So In Life

For many of us sex is something very separate from the rest of our lives. Our sexuality is in a box that we take out in very specific circumstances, in very specific contexts, use it,...

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Sing The Song of Your Body

Sing the song of your body Sing the song of your life Sing your pain and your despair Sing your loneliness and loss Sing the tears you cry in the quiet of the night Sing the silent longing of your...

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Give Yourself A Gift

Give yourself a gift, the gift of yourself. All of yourself. Give yourself the gift of your life, of each moment, each connection, each relationship, each experience, each feeling, each sensation...

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The Healing of Being

There's a beautiful concept of healing that comes from a state of being rather than a doing. In the tradition of Tantra Yoga there's an understanding that we are whole. The experiences that we've had,...

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A Sexual Ritual of Acknowledging

I love ritual in sex, in pleasure. Ritual connects us to an intention, to a deeper energy and consciousness. Ritual brings us into being more present, more aware, more connected to ourselves, to the moment to...

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The Joy Of Sex

I was thinking about joy and celebration. I was thinking about the joy and celebration of sex, of lovemaking. And I was thinking that we don't often experience that. ...

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The Dance of Yoni Massage

Look into her eyes. Breathe. Just breathe. There are no thoughts in this moment. There is the opening to love. Breathe into your heart. Just breathe. ...

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The Massage of Making Love

Can you touch this body as if you were making love? Not making love as most of our world sees it. Making Love. Your hands expressing your heart. Taking care. Each movement gentle, slow, deep....

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Sacred Sex

I love sex. All of it. I love the touch, the taste, the smell, the sounds, the sensations, the feelings, the breath, the energy, the orgasms. All of it. I love bodies. The skin, the...

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Male Sexual Control

An important piece of this work came to me today. There are so many men who struggle with early ejaculation, and are silent about it. There is still shame, despair and embarrassment about it. It...

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Choose Pleasure

For so many of us living in a place of pain is easier, simply because we know it. We know it well. It gives us comfort, it gives us safety. When we choose to live...

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Men’s Work

On a Lover's Training Retreat I attended recently, amazingly facilitated by my friend Valentina Love, I worked with men as well as women. Most of my work has always been with women, there being a...

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Sexual Healing

There is a way of making love that is deeply healing. It has a breath, a deep, gentle breath. It's in the element of presence. It's in the intention of intimacy, of love. It begins...

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Heal Slowly

Heal slowly, for it's a journey to be savoured. A journey. Healing is a continuum, a spectrum, a place within us, a space in our lives that we come to again and again, in different...

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The 4 Secrets of Sensation

As a sex educator and healer, a workshop facilitator and massage teacher there's a question I get asked lots, as I'm sure many of my colleagues do. How do we have better sex? Now what...

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The Love Sex Expo

I spent four days last week at The Love Sex Expo in Pretoria, South Africa. I gave 13 presentations and 8 massage demonstrations. I spoke to so many people at my stand where we were...

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Come Home

Come Home Come home. Come home to yourself. Come home to your body, to your heart. Come home to feeling, your feelings, your sensations,your emotions....

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A Crazy Little Thing Called Love

Nobody prepares us for love. And maybe nobody can. But we can go beyond the illusion. Beyond what Hollywood and the media portrays love to be. Beyond the myths we're fed about love. Because love is messy. It creates upheaval....

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The Silent Suffering

For so many people sex is the place of silent suffering. For so many men there is still such a stigma, such embarrassment, such shame about having a sexual problem. For most men this is...

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Sensual, Erotic, Tantric Poetry

You open your body and you take me into you. You open more and take me deeper and even deeper into you. Space within your Yoni seems to be without end, boundless, as you give yourself to...

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Yoni Healing Massage Pt 2

I begin with guiding her through 3 breaths, each one deeper and slower. One hand in her heart, the other on her yoni. Connecting. Slowing down. Breathing. Then 5 points on the pubic bone. ...

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Yoni Healing Massage

Yoni Healing Massage and Yoni Pleasure Massage are not always the same. Pleasure massage, with a heart touch, and an intention of Honouring, of giving, of connection, will always have a healing element. Healing Massage is...

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If I Were To…

If I were to write something today about sex and energy I would write that sex changes when it becomes an energy experience more than a physical one. That the physical, our bodies, our beautiful...

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My Massage Journey

My journey in healing began with massage and I have reconnected with this in such a beautiful and deep way. Bodywork, touchwork, have always been a big part of what I do, from the understanding...

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The State Of Orgasmic Potential

The body is a field of possibility. By being more in the body we can access that field. Orgasmic energy is a field of possibility. Be being more in that field we can be more in...

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Yoni/Lingam Holding Healing

Before the movement there is holding. Before the stroke there is stillness. Before the caress there is quiet. One of the most beautiful and powerful 'strokes' of massage is not moving at all. It's holding....

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Sacred Erotic Massage

There is a world of experience where the erotic is an expression of the sacred. There is a touch that comes from somewhere beyond the body, from somewhere else in my being. There is a...

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A New Massage

It's always been my intention, in the 30 years, I've been doing and teaching massage, touch and bodywork, to create beautiful experiences. In this, the exploration has been endless, and I've often said that the...

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