Author:Jonti

Cold Coffee and the Facts

Last week I had coffee with my social media coach, Bronwynne. (By the way, she is fantastic, if you're looking for help with social media, I'll happily connect you.) I showed her what I'd written...

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Expanded Energy Orgasm

There is such power, such possibility in being relaxed, deeply relaxed, in pleasure. The body opens, energy begins to flow. From our sexual centre to the heart, and higher, spreading through the body. A wave...

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A Conscious Mouth

This idea arose from a place of deep pleasure, from a place of intimacy with my body, from a place of conscious connection and awareness with my body. For so many of us the relationship we...

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An Embrace

There is one thing we all need at the moment. Need. All of us, wherever we are on the rainbow of life, in every way there can be. Need. One of the effects of the...

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Being A Good Lover Is…

There is a really interesting aspect of being a good lover that we don't always connect with sex. Almost everyone who shares a healing and growth with me at some point says that they're amazed...

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Sexual Healing, Heart Healing

There is something that I have intrinsically known that has come to conscious awareness. So many of our sexual issues are heart issues. We heal them in the heart. Yes they're in our bodies, in...

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The Curiosity of Love and Pleasure

There's something I teach which is so important when it comes to pleasure, to sexuality, to sensuality, to growth. It's also such an important element in relationships. There's a progression, a journey that starts with...

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Breast and Heart Massage

Breast and Heart Massage is the space where healing, relaxation, acknowledgement, sensuality, arousal, love and nurturing meet. It's often an experience of deep emotion, bringing so much to awareness. For many women breasts are symbolic...

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Tears of Beauty

I am in an incredible position, because of the work I do. I get to spend emotional time with men, vulnerable time with men. And one of the most beautiful, one of the most powerful,...

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Clitintimacy

The other day I was doing a clitoral massage. This was in the space of healing, of pleasure, of energy, of sensation. In the moment something came to awareness in an emotional rush, deeper than...

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Healing Through Pleasure

When we work with expansion we become open to different ways of doing this, different perspectives. We come to see the patterns that we've lived with, that keep us doing what we do, and we...

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Healing The (Sexual) Body

The cornerstone of my healing work is patterns. The patterns are in the body as well as in the mind. And we can only change the body patterns in the body. Thoughts, ideas, perspectives, are...

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Find Stillness

For most men sex is about doing. Especially in the body. Your body moves, especially your hips. Moving, thrusting, rocking… Find stillness. ...

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The Intimacy of Healing

I love to teach. I love to learn, and I love to share what I learn, to understand it, to see where it fits, what it connects to. I've been listening to some great teachers...

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Quiet Lingam

Male sexuality has many different expressions, which sadly not many men get to understand and experience. For most men sex is genitally, orgasm oriented, and this limits the experience men have of their sexuality, of...

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Coffee, Banana Bread and…

Coffee this afternoon is delicious, with home-made banana bread that my daughter made. I've been a single parent since she was 4, we're very close, a relationship that we've nurtured, grown and developed over time. We've...

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Yoni Massage As Worship

Greet your lover as an expression of The Goddess. Greet her with reverence, with humility. Approach her as you would the Divine in a place of prayer. Kneel before her. Be open to serve her,...

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Women’s Day, Women’s Pleasure

Most of my work is with women, and for those who don't know me, I'm a Conscious Sexuality Practitioner. I'm based in South Africa, and I work with women, and men and couples, around the...

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Slow Subtle Super Sex

Yesterday's coffee was a cortado. The easiest way to explain a cortado is an intense cappuccino. And delicious cakes, and even more delicious friends. And what, you may ask, has that do with Slow Subtle Super...

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Friday Afternoon Coffee

Friday afternoon coffee in the delicious sun, and I'm thinking about the week. It's been a roller-coaster. Waking up a few mornings with an incredible bleakness. The image was of a vast concrete plain, grey sky, cold,...

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Conscious Sensual Massage

I love women. Most of my work is with women. And I must say that I love working with men, and I get so excited, I celebrate when men come to heal, to learn, to...

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Looking for Intimacy

I have had some incredibly painful, sad and deep conversations over the past few weeks. These have been with men and women, single people and couples. So much of it comes to this. We're looking...

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Conscious Sensual Coffee

I'm sitting in the afternoon sun with coffee It's been cold for a few days in Johannesburg, this is the first afternoon that it's warm enough to sit outside. Coffee is an important part of my...

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The Feast of Your Body

I love food, I love to cook, and I love to eat. There is such sensuality in food, and coffee, in every way, texture, taste, smell, the way things look. I also enjoy watching food...

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The First Step

I get a lot of calls, message, emails, from people with sexual issues. A lot happens before people make these contacts. A lot of internal twisting and turning. It’s a difficult thing to do. It’s incredibly vulnerable,...

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Teaching Massage Online

For a long time I have resisted teaching massage online. Firstly I held the belief that it has to be in the same space to get the subtlety and nuance. There's a transmission of a...

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A Tender Moment

I've had a lot of conversations with people in the past weeks. People in relationships and single people. Mostly people who are dealing with issues and problems, some struggling deeply, some hurting, and some people...

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Exploring Sexual Healing

There is much of our world that has taken what is sacred and made it dirty. There is much of our world that has taken what is light and made it dark. There is much of our...

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Exploring Healing

Many people come to a sexual journey looking for healing. There's a problem, an issue, a blockage,a pain, a hurt. That's where so many journeys begin. A lot of my work happens in this space,...

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We Need Touch

We need to touch, and we need to be touched. We need to hold, and we need to be held. We need to pleasure, and we need to be pleasured. These are needs. Not wants...

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The Love of Desire

I've shared with you that over the past year I haven't had a sexual encounter with another. For someone who has had a rich and full erotic life this has been really interesting. For someone...

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In Service to The Heart Touch

I have been doing and teaching massage and touch for almost 30 years. The past 20 plus years in the field of Conscious Sexuality, Kashmiri Pleasure Massage, Yoni Massage, Taoist Massage, Lingam Massage, Energy Massage,...

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The Conscious Cock

The Conscious C**k is an expression of the heart. It is a c**k of service, of worship. He has gone through and beyond performance. He has gone through and beyond need. He has gone...

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Devotion

More than a year ago my lover said to me that she thought devotion might be more important than love. We're not together anymore, and that line has stayed in my head. I've come back to it...

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Friction Sex, Energy Sex

Most people have what we call friction sex. It's friction, simply. One body part rubbing against another. It creates friction. (And as I write that something I've never quite seen before comes to me, I'll...

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A Soft Cock Conversation

So much of the power of a cock is in its hardness, in its heat. In its ability to penetrate, to open, to spread. So much of its power, and so much of its pleasure....

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My Nurtured Cock

There is a practice that I teach in workshops and on healing journeys. It's a practice of creating a conscious relationship with your genitals. The relationship most of us have with our genitals is, at...

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Exploring The Erotic Spirit

I was preparing for the webinar I have coming up on Thurs, Exploring the Erotic Spirit, with a smile inside. It’s based on a workshop I teach called Awakening the Erotic Spirit. For a while I’ve...

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Yoni Healing Massage Pt 3

Within our bodies is the most incredible wisdom. It's so incredible, it's Divine. This body, within us, has all we need to heal, to learn, to grow, to release. This body is sacred space, our...

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Where Are We, In Love?

I've been thinking a lot about what is, what is happening in our world. I don't know. I don't know what's true, what's real. Not a lot makes sense. I do know this. Our world...

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Loving A Woman

I love women. I love loving women. There are many elements in loving a woman, one of them is loving loving a woman. Loving to love her. Loving to honour her. Loving to revere her....

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A Lesson in Sensual Touch

These are my hands. For over 30 years they've been doing and teaching massage in many different ways. For the past 20 years they've specialized in sensual massage, sexual massage, pleasure massage, sexual energy massage,...

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Our Sexual Yes and No

I talk about that one of the reasons I do what I do is that it allows me to express so much of myself in so many ways. The same goes for learning. I learn...

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Better Sex, Different Sex

I was thinking about something I get asked a lot. How do we have better sex? It's something so many people talk about, and it's something so many programmes and courses offer. Better Sex. What...

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Sharing The Erotic

My journey into this world of what I came to call Conscious Sexuality began with massage. There's a beautiful journey of exploration that goes from curiosity to interest, interest to fascination, fascination to wonder, wonder...

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Be A Better Lover

I know that many people are struggling, and I know that many relationships are taking strain. I know that there is so much uncertainty, so much confusion I know that there is so much fear. I...

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The Mystery of Yoni Gazing

I love women, I worship Yoni. There is something I have learned about mystery. There's an inner knowing, an understanding that goes beyond words. It's nameless. It has no limits. There is an intimacy with...

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