I learned something this week. Enter from within. It sounds paradoxical, it is, as is so much of life, when we really see it. Enter from within. It's expanding inside of me, showing more every...
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A while ago I facilitated a Self-Pleasuring Experience. One of the first questions that comes up is how do you facilitate that, because I know how to do it? My answer is this, you know...
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I was thinking about all the massage experiences I teach and do. Conscious Sensual Massage, a vast field of healing and pleasure, Taoist Sexual Energy Massage, Kashmiri Massage, Water Flow Massage, Yoni Massage in its...
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Three things, just three things. And so much happens with these three things. They could be any 3 things, and today I chose these. Rope, a blindfold, a flogger. The strands of the flogger are made...
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We've shared a lot this year, you and I. Some in person, some on the other side of a screen, some reading what I write, some on my DVD's and programmes. I am grateful for...
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'My touch is the dance of my heart on your body.' I wrote this line and shared it in an image a few days ago, then I read it a few times. Earlier in the day...
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Let's start with this. What makes saliva sacred? Nothing, other than it's an element of our Divine body, and as everything, every bodily fluid, is part of us, in this Divine body. And if we were more...
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For a man to sit opposite another man and to look into his eyes is powerful. For a man to sit naked opposite another man is powerful. For a man to hold his hands out...
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I went to dancing on Saturday night, around the fire, with the wind and some rain. Sensual. And primal. Moments of just the music in my ears and my body moving, the earth beneath my...
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The Gates of the Temple. The Lips of your Yoni. Approach the temple with reverence. In your eyes, in your heart, in your hands. This is sacred ground. She is of the earth, of the...
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She got fire. From deep in the earth. From the volcano that burns in the deep of the ocean. From the stars that give birth to worlds. She got fire. In her eyes, in her words,...
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The next thing is that we're going to create a space within us for something to happen. In this space, which is a space of intimacy with ourselves, a space of awareness. A space of...
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There is a beautiful unfolding in the journey of teaching, which is the journey of learning. I talk, and teach, a lot about orgasms. I also talk, and teach, a lot, about how orgasms are...
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We have, us men, these Hearts. We have this energy of connection. We have this space to hold you in. We have this fire to heat you in. We have this roar to appreciate you...
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There have been a lot of tears this week. My tears, men's tears, women's tears. Tears of gratitude and celebration. Tears of hurt. Tears of what's been hidden, being revealed, and the lightness, the freedom...
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We're taught, from the time we're small, not to feel too much, too deeply. Or rather, we're not taught, to feel, to be with our emotions, to digest them, to learn from them. It's a...
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At the moment many women are reaching out with a desire to have deeper, more fulfilling experiences. For some women it's about being able to have sex without pain. For some women it's about having...
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We use the word Sensuality in a variety of ways. We use it connected to sex, as the foreplay, the lead up to sex. We use it connected to experiences of touch, of sensation. We...
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I would like to share something with you that is so delicious, so simple. And like a lot of simple things in the world of sensuality there is such depth, such subtlety and such nuance...
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In many of the workshops and lessons and experiences I've been facilitating lately, and over all the time I've been teaching, I've seen something in many men. Regardless of what the workshop or experience is...
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Connection. Flow. Natural flow. An invitation that opens in space. Possibility. For something to emerge, arise, from the unknown. ...
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There's an art of penetration that can deepen the experience incredibly for both partners. It's more about energy. About exploring sensation. About an intimacy, which is often lacking in friction sex. About the portal the energy...
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Recently I've been doing a lot of work with people, men and women, on sexual awakening. This isn't something new, I've been doing this for a long time, and over time the elements of this...
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The way most people have penetrative sex is what we call friction sex. That's exactly what it is, skin rubbing against skin. We generally do it harder and faster as the sensation builds to have...
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Touch is a language That goes deeper than words It's the language of the body That has a knowing That speaks to the heart To the places deep within us Learning to touch, to massage, is one of...
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I work a lot with men with 'performance' issues. And that's a big part of the problem. It's not a performance. It's not a race, a competition, an achievement. It's not something you have to...
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I was thinking about intimacy, sex, making love. I was contemplating a piece I thought I was ready to write called Foreplay of the Heart. That wasn't quite there, this was. Often, for many of...
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I’d like to share some really important sexual words with you, and then put them in a specific context and experience. Before you get all excited these may not be the words you’re expecting, and they...
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Over the past weeks, as over the years, I've had some conversations with women. These are women who are looking to heal, expand, change, improve their relationships. They'd like, love, want so much, to have...
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The first thing I teach everyone I work with, the first thing we do on all the workshops and retreats, the first thing on all the webinars, is The Heart Connection. When I started teaching...
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I started writing a piece on the shame of desire. This came up a lot in the past week with my students and clients. How we've been made to feel shame for the desires we...
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The freedom to feel is the freedom to experience, feeling, sensation, energy, emotion. It's the freedom to experience the moment, in the fullness of all that it has to offer. To feel this requires us...
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In pleasure we meet ourselves. In deep, conscious pleasure we meet some of the deepest parts of who we are. My teaching journey began teaching about pleasure, particularly women's pleasure. This included offering touch, massage...
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Intimacy is a state of being. It's who we are. It's within us. Looking for intimacy, which is what so many of us are, especially now. Looking for intimacy is looking for ourselves. It's a journey...
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This first came to me in the context of Yoni, and Lingam Massage. As I sat with it, exploring it, I became aware of how it extends to all erotic and pleasure experiences. Erotic Humility....
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I've been working in the field of Conscious Sexuality for a long time, teaching and doing one-on-one. I love the journeys I share because of the depth we go to. That's really what interests me,...
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On the wall in my bedroom is a picture of a Lingam, and a stylised Yoni. They were made for me by a lover. I can't share the Lingam image with you, it's been deemed...
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A while ago I had a 3-way touch experience that was so beautiful, so sensual, so intimate. It was deeply arousing, with no penetration, no orgasm. It was just hands flowing over skin, bodies touching,...
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Recently a few people, both couples and single people have come to see me because they're sexually bored. I've been teaching in the field of Conscious Sexuality for over 20 years, and this is a...
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Much of my work is in the world of sexual healing. At least that's where many journeys start, then they become more about learning, growing, exploring, expanding. These journeys also become more about life, all...
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Yesterday I shared a post that I wrote a while ago, called What's Become of Us. It's on my page if you'd like to read it. It was prompted by a few things. Many women...
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The past weeks have been difficult for me. I've felt a little lost, alone, down. I'm usually quite focused, I've been scattered. I've been thinking about where I'm going in a way that's not directed...
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Much of my work is, or begins with sexuality, the relationship we have with our sexuality is, of course, a large part of this. This relationship forms the framework of the journey, it gives it...
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Last week I did a rope workshop facilitated by a friend in Australia. It was a very non-traditional approach, that wasn't really about tying, knots, positions etc, which is often quite technical. This was about...
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Our sexuality is a guide, a teacher, a path of personal enquiry, a way to experience energy, a way to access deep states of consciousness, a way to become incredibly intimate with ourselves, a place...
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We talk about all the different kinds of orgasms women, and men, can experience. Many people I, and I'm sure many other practitioners, work with, come to learn how to have these different experiences. In...
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Yoni or Lingam Meditation of Gazing is looking with, through, the eyes of your heart. It's a meditation on loving, accepting, acknowledging, in the giving and in the receiving. It's a meditation on presence, sexual...
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