#femalesexuality Tag

Out of Time Into Pleasure

There is a beautiful unfolding in the journey of teaching, which is the journey of learning. I talk, and teach, a lot about orgasms. I also talk, and teach, a lot, about how orgasms are...

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The Heart of Male Sexuality

We have, us men, these Hearts. We have this energy of connection. We have this space to hold you in. We have this fire to heat you in. We have this roar to appreciate you...

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Precious Tears

There have been a lot of tears this week. My tears, men's tears, women's tears. Tears of gratitude and celebration. Tears of hurt. Tears of what's been hidden, being revealed, and the lightness, the freedom...

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The Art of Penetration

The way that many of us have sex, penetrative sex, is what we call friction sex. Because that's what it is. Friction. Skin rubbing on skin, building enough sensation until one of us, hopefully both,...

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The Penetration of Fire

There's an art of penetration that can deepen the experience incredibly for both partners. It's more about energy. About exploring sensation. About an intimacy, which is often lacking in friction sex. About the portal the energy...

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Sexual Awakening, Life Awakening

Recently I've been doing a lot of work with people, men and women, on sexual awakening. This isn't something new, I've been doing this for a long time, and over time the elements of this...

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Penetration of the Heart

The way most people have penetrative sex is what we call friction sex. That's exactly what it is, skin rubbing against skin. We generally do it harder and faster as the sensation builds to have...

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The Limitless Conversation of Touch

Touch is a language That goes deeper than words It's the language of the body That has a knowing That speaks to the heart To the places deep within us Learning to touch, to massage, is one of...

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Intimacy Bypass

I was thinking about intimacy, sex, making love. I was contemplating a piece I thought I was ready to write called Foreplay of the Heart. That wasn't quite there, this was. Often, for many of...

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She’d Like You to Know

Over the past weeks, as over the years, I've had some conversations with women. These are women who are looking to heal, expand, change, improve their relationships. They'd like, love, want so much, to have...

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Heart – Centered Erotic Touch

The first thing I teach everyone I work with, the first thing we do on all the workshops and retreats, the first thing on all the webinars, is The Heart Connection. When I started teaching...

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Soft Sex

So often when we hear the term soft sex we think about a soft Lingam. That can be such a beautiful experience and has some amazing possibilities. I'd like to share something different with you...

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Divine Desire

I started writing a piece on the shame of desire. This came up a lot in the past week with my students and clients. How we've been made to feel shame for the desires we...

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The (Yoni) Freedom to Feel

The freedom to feel is the freedom to experience, feeling, sensation, energy, emotion. It's the freedom to experience the moment, in the fullness of all that it has to offer. To feel this requires us...

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Meet Yourself in Pleasure

In pleasure we meet ourselves. In deep, conscious pleasure we meet some of the deepest parts of who we are. My teaching journey began teaching about pleasure, particularly women's pleasure. This included offering touch, massage...

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The Intimacy of Being

Intimacy is a state of being. It's who we are. It's within us. Looking for intimacy, which is what so many of us are, especially now. Looking for intimacy is looking for ourselves. It's a journey...

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Erotic Humility

This first came to me in the context of Yoni, and Lingam Massage. As I sat with it, exploring it, I became aware of how it extends to all erotic and pleasure experiences. Erotic Humility....

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My Relationship With My Yoni

On the wall in my bedroom is a picture of a Lingam, and a stylised Yoni. They were made for me by a lover. I can't share the Lingam image with you, it's been deemed...

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Yoni Kiss

I offer you my mouth That you may experience your pleasure I offer you my lips, my tongue, my teeth That you may experience your Yoni In sensation, in feeling, in energy, in delight, in celebration I offer you...

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Sexually Bored, You Must Be Asleep!

Recently a few people, both couples and single people have come to see me because they're sexually bored. I've been teaching in the field of Conscious Sexuality for over 20 years, and this is a...

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Expanded Energy Orgasm Online Class

Sat 24 July, 2 pm, SAST, GMT +2, the class is 90 minutes – 2 hrs Investment is R490, US$35 Along with the class you’ll also receive The Expanded Orgasm Video Download, The Expanded Orgasm E-book, Let’s...

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YoniLIngam in the Body

Much of my work is in the world of sexual healing. At least that's where many journeys start, then they become more about learning, growing, exploring, expanding. These journeys also become more about life, all...

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For Whom do we Heal?

Yesterday I shared a post that I wrote a while ago, called What's Become of Us. It's on my page if you'd like to read it. It was prompted by a few things. Many women...

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What Else is There?

The past weeks have been difficult for me. I've felt a little lost, alone, down. I'm usually quite focused, I've been scattered. I've been thinking about where I'm going in a way that's not directed...

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My Genital Relationship

Much of my work is, or begins with sexuality, the relationship we have with our sexuality is, of course, a large part of this. This relationship forms the framework of the journey, it gives it...

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Coffee and Rope

Last week I did a rope workshop facilitated by a friend in Australia. It was a very non-traditional approach, that wasn't really about tying, knots, positions etc, which is often quite technical. This was about...

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Self-Pleasuring, An Inner Journey

Our sexuality is a guide, a teacher, a path of personal enquiry, a way to experience energy, a way to access deep states of consciousness, a way to become incredibly intimate with ourselves, a place...

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Tears of Orgasm

We talk about all the different kinds of orgasms women, and men, can experience. Many people I, and I'm sure many other practitioners, work with, come to learn how to have these different experiences. In...

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The Yoni and Lingam Meditation of Gazing

Yoni or Lingam Meditation of Gazing is looking with, through, the eyes of your heart. It's a meditation on loving, accepting, acknowledging, in the giving and in the receiving. It's a meditation on presence, sexual...

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Cl-itoral Pulsations

Part of Cl-iteracy, which is to be clitorally literate. To be literate with something is to know it, to have knowledge of it. And to be able to read it, to understand it. That on its own...

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The Subtle Power of Stillness

TThere's a thing with sex, as soon as we're inside someone, or someone is inside us, to move. It's almost as if our pelvis has a life, a will of its own, as if we're programmed...

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Yoni Massage Course

This is a practical course for practitioners, teachers, healers, experiencers, teaching you the practices, the exercises to share with your clients in healing, connecting and expanding their pleasure possibilities. I have been working in the fields...

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I Found Something

I found something recently, and there might be something for you in what I've found. I have always loved what I do. When people talk about having a job I've never really thought of this...

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This Divine Body

From the ends of your toes to the tips of your fingers to the top of your head. Your Divine Body. There is a lifetime in your body, a lifetime of sensation, a lifetime of...

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Mouth Massage

Our mouths are incredibly intimate, and they hold a key to some deep releasing, healing, intimacy, expansion and pleasure. Over the past months I've been doing some work with the mouth and throat that has...

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Deepening Into Love

For the past, it's nearly two years now, I haven't had a sexual partner, I haven't had a lover, I haven't had a relationship. Not in the traditional sense. This has been a time of...

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This Conscious Kiss

Kissing is one of the most intimate acts we can share with a partner, in fact there are times when kissing is more intimate than sex. Kissing brings us closer together than anything. Because kissing...

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Sacred Yoni Massage

The sacred in me arises when I sit before you, when I look into your eyes. The sacred in me arises when I kneel before you. The sacred in me arises when I sit between your...

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My Orgasmic Gratitude

The energy of gratitude has such power. It brings us into awareness, into presence. It’s an element of intimacy. It connects us to ourselves, to another, to life, to the world. Gratitude heals. There is a sense of wonder in...

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Coffee and a Kiss

It's been a while since I've written a Coffee piece, it's also been a while, a long while since I've written an erotic piece. I remember, she said, I asked you this long ago, a...

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Our Sexual Connection

Most people who come and see me, looking for healing, as that's where so many journeys into sensuality, into Conscious Sexuality, into Tantra begin, are looking for something. They're looking to connect with their sexuality....

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My Love is My Arousal

Conscious Pleasure Experiences have the amazing quality of being portals of learning, healing and growth. This is where we shift from having sex to making love. We shift from a goal-oriented experience, orgasm, to a...

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