For years I have been helping men with performance issues, premature ejaculation and erection problems. Something landed for me recently with this work, and the clue was in the question, or the problem. Performance. That's...
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There's something interesting about touch and pleasure touch, sexual touch. We think that we need to move, and move all the time. And for many of us the pattern of movement is hard and fast,...
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I want to touch you like the water With the safety of the womb With the rivers endless flow With the oceans tides As I stroke to your centre And gently away With the gathering wave Crashing its love on the shores...
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Look into her eyes. Breathe. Just breathe. There are no thoughts in this moment. There is the opening to love. Breathe into your heart. Just breathe. ...
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Can you touch this body as if you were making love? Not making love as most of our world sees it. Making Love. Your hands expressing your heart. Taking care. Each movement gentle, slow, deep....
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I was looking through a Dropbox folder that had some pictures from a shoot we did a few years ago. There were some pictures of a double massage, two people massaging one person, four hands...
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One of the biggest blockages to experiencing and exploring the world of erotic massage is the story. The story is deeply ingrained and impacts on women more than men. It's a story that reflects the...
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We live in a world obsessed with measuring things, with the rightness or wrongness of so many aspects of life based on measurement. We judge people, give them value by how much they have. This...
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I had a beautiful experience last week, I taught a sensual massage lesson to a couple in their seventies who have been married for 52 years. It's not the first time people this age have...
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One of the most beautiful, and most powerful, gifts that an Erotic Massage experience gives us, is the gift of receiving. For so many women sex and pleasure come with many unstated rules and beliefs....
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One of the most beautiful, one of the most powerful, and one of the most healing ways of being seen and acknowledged is through touch. Touch is a language, a communication that often goes deeper...
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There's an interesting idea about healing, and life. For so long we've been convinced that it's about learning, about lessons, about fixing the problems, about diagnosing, putting it into a box with labels. And then...
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As a sex educator and healer, a workshop facilitator and massage teacher there's a question I get asked lots, as I'm sure many of my colleagues do. How do we have better sex? Now what...
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I was recently asked why I use the word 'erotic' and not 'tantric'. Every word has connotations, meanings, which are different in different parts of the world. They're also different internally, meaning different things to...
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I spent four days last week at The Love Sex Expo in Pretoria, South Africa. I gave 13 presentations and 8 massage demonstrations. I spoke to so many people at my stand where we were...
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A while ago I was sitting with some colleagues, facilitators in different fields. One of them said to me 'I wish I was brave enough to attend one of your workshops.' I was really surprised...
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There's a fascinating thing about expectation in the erotic context. This extends beyond massage into all sensual, sexual and erotic experiences. ...
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Let's talk about bodies. ...
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There’s something interesting that happens from time to time, with women more than men. A woman will come and talk about healing because her body isn’t very sensitive, she doesn’t get very aroused from being touched...
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One of the most beautiful waves at the moment is the amount of women over 50 who are exploring, healing and growing in their sensuality and sexuality. ...
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The very first Taoist Sexual Energy Massage I did with a man was an interesting initiation. He had both nipples pierced, three genital piercings and various other piercings. I was young, sexually, and body inexperienced....
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We have a pain body, and most of us know that well, we live from it. We also have a Bliss Body. We have a shadow, when we do growth work, healing work, we come...
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A few weeks ago I wrote a piece called Exploring The Fire. Since then I've had conversations with and Sat with people in my office who have all said something similar, and most of them...
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When you do this work from the heart, when you touch from the heart, it's intimate. Not only bodily intimate. And the intimacy is what makes so much possible. It opens the heart more and...
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When you know a little about energy, a little about sexual energy, a little about the body, a little about arousal, you can turn someone on really easily. You can take them to orgasm easily....
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Nobody prepares us for love. And maybe nobody can. But we can go beyond the illusion. Beyond what Hollywood and the media portrays love to be. Beyond the myths we're fed about love. Because love is messy. It creates upheaval....
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For so many people sex is the place of silent suffering. For so many men there is still such a stigma, such embarrassment, such shame about having a sexual problem. For most men this is...
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I'd like to share some of my journey with you, what brought me to this point as an erotic massage therapist and teacher. I've been doing this for over 20 years and it's a journey...
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You open your body and you take me into you. You open more and take me deeper and even deeper into you. Space within your Yoni seems to be without end, boundless, as you give yourself to...
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I begin with guiding her through 3 breaths, each one deeper and slower. One hand in her heart, the other on her yoni. Connecting. Slowing down. Breathing. Then 5 points on the pubic bone. ...
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Yoni Healing Massage and Yoni Pleasure Massage are not always the same. Pleasure massage, with a heart touch, and an intention of Honouring, of giving, of connection, will always have a healing element. Healing Massage is...
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If I were to write something today about sex and energy I would write that sex changes when it becomes an energy experience more than a physical one. That the physical, our bodies, our beautiful...
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My journey in healing began with massage and I have reconnected with this in such a beautiful and deep way. Bodywork, touchwork, have always been a big part of what I do, from the understanding...
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The body is a field of possibility. By being more in the body we can access that field. Orgasmic energy is a field of possibility. Be being more in that field we can be more in...
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We all carry an enormous amount of tension in our bodies and in different aspects of our being. This tension is one of the greatest blocks to us experiencing deep levels of sensual and sexual...
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Before the movement there is holding. Before the stroke there is stillness. Before the caress there is quiet. One of the most beautiful and powerful 'strokes' of massage is not moving at all. It's holding....
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There is a world of experience where the erotic is an expression of the sacred. There is a touch that comes from somewhere beyond the body, from somewhere else in my being. There is a...
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It's always been my intention, in the 30 years, I've been doing and teaching massage, touch and bodywork, to create beautiful experiences. In this, the exploration has been endless, and I've often said that the...
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There are so many myths about sex. There are so many myths about sexuality. There are so many myths about desire. There are so many myths about what women want. There are so many myths about what men...
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There is magic in slow. There is such power in slow. Slow brings us into presence. All else drifts away naturally when we are present. There is no struggle in slow, there is surrender, to...
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This is a self-pleasuring experience that will allow you to experience your sexual energy. When we can build that energy, that beautiful, powerful, vital sexual energy, when we can build it and then keep it...
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There is something that I've been hearing so much lately in my work. 'I can't tell him that, it's going to hurt his ego.' Is this what we've become, us men. ...
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There is such power in ritual in a relationship. It's an experience of consciousness, of presence. In this space we come together with an intention. We come into intimacy, we come into our hearts, we come...
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There's a fascinating idea in Conscious Sexuality that allows us to look at sexuality differently, and opens up a world of possibility. It's about going beyond pleasure. ...
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There is a touch that is slow, so slow. There is a touch that is gentle, so gentle. It comes from the heart, an energy that flows through your body into your hands so that your...
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There are not many women who have been fully sexually satisfied. Deeply fulfilled to the core of their being. Touched, soul touched, heart touched. Body replete. Given herself totally, utterly. Every level of her being open, exposed, safe, loved, respected,...
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Many women have been penetrated too quickly, often way before their bodies are ready to have something inside. The impact of this is tension in the tissues of the yoni, often around and just inside...
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One of the most important elements of what I teach is that we live in patterns and that most of our patterns are not conscious. We're not aware of them, we simply do what we...
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There are so many things that disconnect women from their sexuality, from their bodies, from their yoni's and from their pleasure....
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