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Sexually Bored, You Must Be Asleep!

Recently a few people, both couples and single people have come to see me because they're sexually bored. I've been teaching in the field of Conscious Sexuality for over 20 years, and this is a...

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YoniLIngam in the Body

Much of my work is in the world of sexual healing. At least that's where many journeys start, then they become more about learning, growing, exploring, expanding. These journeys also become more about life, all...

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For Whom do we Heal?

Yesterday I shared a post that I wrote a while ago, called What's Become of Us. It's on my page if you'd like to read it. It was prompted by a few things. Many women...

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What Else is There?

The past weeks have been difficult for me. I've felt a little lost, alone, down. I'm usually quite focused, I've been scattered. I've been thinking about where I'm going in a way that's not directed...

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My Genital Relationship

Much of my work is, or begins with sexuality, the relationship we have with our sexuality is, of course, a large part of this. This relationship forms the framework of the journey, it gives it...

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Coffee and Rope

Last week I did a rope workshop facilitated by a friend in Australia. It was a very non-traditional approach, that wasn't really about tying, knots, positions etc, which is often quite technical. This was about...

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Self-Pleasuring, An Inner Journey

Our sexuality is a guide, a teacher, a path of personal enquiry, a way to experience energy, a way to access deep states of consciousness, a way to become incredibly intimate with ourselves, a place...

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Tears of Orgasm

We talk about all the different kinds of orgasms women, and men, can experience. Many people I, and I'm sure many other practitioners, work with, come to learn how to have these different experiences. In...

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The Yoni and Lingam Meditation of Gazing

Yoni or Lingam Meditation of Gazing is looking with, through, the eyes of your heart. It's a meditation on loving, accepting, acknowledging, in the giving and in the receiving. It's a meditation on presence, sexual...

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One Breath of Pleasure

There is such power, such possibility, in one breath. In the world of pleasure we're often looking for more. More feeling, more sensation, more experiences, more technique, more partners, more toys… Most of these things...

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Making Love With Life and Yoga

I talk about, teach about, Making Love with Life, and the limitless possibilities that that holds for us. Last week I had such a direct and beautiful experience of this. In these moments, Life, in...

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This Sensual Coffee of Presence

The afternoon winter sun, it's delicious in Johannesburg. Coffee and a few mouthfuls of something sweet. I have a weakness for pastry, and today it's a mini almond croissant. A digression, more coffee shops should...

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The Nurtured C***

For over 25 years on my journey into Conscious Sexuality I've been learning about men and male sexuality. Firstly by going into my own Sexuality and sensuality, and then by spending so much time with...

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Cl-itoral Pulsations

Part of Cl-iteracy, which is to be clitorally literate. To be literate with something is to know it, to have knowledge of it. And to be able to read it, to understand it. That on its own...

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The Subtle Power of Stillness

TThere's a thing with sex, as soon as we're inside someone, or someone is inside us, to move. It's almost as if our pelvis has a life, a will of its own, as if we're programmed...

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Tears on my Chest

Tears on my chest Sacred tears. I sat with a man in Yab-Yum, holding him, naked chest to naked chest, heart to heart. We sat in stillness and breathed, coming into our bodies, softening into each...

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Home

The longing for love is the longing to belong To know that have a home in the arms that hold you With the heart that beats alongside yours In the rhythm of breath With eyes that see...

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Penetration, Heart to Heart

At the opening of her Yoni, pause. Before you enter her, pause. Be still, so still. And so much happens in this stillness, this moment of quiet. In this moment, this stillness, there's a listening to...

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Healers and Lovers

I think we need more lovers than healers. We need more people to hold a space for us to feel loved in, simply loved. And this is where the healing happens. It's in the space...

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Energy Sex

Every time we look into each other’s eyes, energy travels from me to you, you to me. Every kiss, every touch, energy. I breathe your breath into me, I take your essence, I give you mine. Every...

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Holding the Place to be Met

From a place in my heart comes the ancient and sacred practice of holding, of resting my hands on your body. In stillness, deep stillness. In reverence. In love. For over 25 years I've been...

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The Desire…

The desire to awaken is deep The desire to surrender is deep The desire for the wild is deep Within us, men and women, is such a deep sexuality. A sexuality that is a portal to experience the...

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Naked Freedom

Naked Freedom, Naked Sex. Naked sex? Isn't all sex naked? Most of the time, sometimes it's partially clothed, sometimes it's in a costume, sometimes it's just pulling something down, pulling something aside. And there's more. Naked...

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The Power of a Woman

I've been teaching, exploring and experiencing in the wonderful and limitless worlds of sensuality and sexuality for over 25 years. In this time there is something I've seen so often, and at the moment more...

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The Erotic Space of Possibility

I'd like to share an experience I had recently with a woman on a journey of healing and growth. We've been working together for a while and we've gone deep. It's time that makes the...

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An Introduction

It's time for a re-introduction. Because… The past month has been a time of integration of a lot of learning, experiencing, exploring, contemplating. Going within, and from there being able to share more with you....

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The Path of Sensual Surrender

After doing and teaching, and receiving (not nearly enough), massage, so many different expressions, for over 25 years, I've seen how the body, the touch is a beautiful path to surrender. On many paths we...

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Performers or Lovers

For years I have been helping men with performance issues, premature ejaculation and erection problems. Something landed for me recently with this work, and the clue was in the question, or the problem. Performance. That's...

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G-Spot Holding for Pleasure

There's something interesting about touch and pleasure touch, sexual touch. We think that we need to move, and move all the time. And for many of us the pattern of movement is hard and fast,...

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4 Elements of Touch

I want to touch you like the water With the safety of the womb With the rivers endless flow With the oceans tides As I stroke to your centre And gently away With the gathering wave Crashing its love on the shores...

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The Dance of Yoni Massage

Look into her eyes. Breathe. Just breathe. There are no thoughts in this moment. There is the opening to love. Breathe into your heart. Just breathe. ...

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The Massage of Making Love

Can you touch this body as if you were making love? Not making love as most of our world sees it. Making Love. Your hands expressing your heart. Taking care. Each movement gentle, slow, deep....

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The 4 Secrets of Sensation

As a sex educator and healer, a workshop facilitator and massage teacher there's a question I get asked lots, as I'm sure many of my colleagues do. How do we have better sex? Now what...

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The Love Sex Expo

I spent four days last week at The Love Sex Expo in Pretoria, South Africa. I gave 13 presentations and 8 massage demonstrations. I spoke to so many people at my stand where we were...

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Come Home

Come Home Come home. Come home to yourself. Come home to your body, to your heart. Come home to feeling, your feelings, your sensations,your emotions....

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