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The First Step

I get a lot of calls, message, emails, from people with sexual issues. A lot happens before people make these contacts. A lot of internal twisting and turning. It’s a difficult thing to do. It’s incredibly vulnerable,...

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Teaching Massage Online

For a long time I have resisted teaching massage online. Firstly I held the belief that it has to be in the same space to get the subtlety and nuance. There's a transmission of a...

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A Tender Moment

I've had a lot of conversations with people in the past weeks. People in relationships and single people. Mostly people who are dealing with issues and problems, some struggling deeply, some hurting, and some people...

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Exploring Sexual Healing

There is much of our world that has taken what is sacred and made it dirty. There is much of our world that has taken what is light and made it dark. There is much of our...

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Exploring Healing

Many people come to a sexual journey looking for healing. There's a problem, an issue, a blockage,a pain, a hurt. That's where so many journeys begin. A lot of my work happens in this space,...

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We Need Touch

We need to touch, and we need to be touched. We need to hold, and we need to be held. We need to pleasure, and we need to be pleasured. These are needs. Not wants...

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The Love of Desire

I've shared with you that over the past year I haven't had a sexual encounter with another. For someone who has had a rich and full erotic life this has been really interesting. For someone...

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In Service to The Heart Touch

I have been doing and teaching massage and touch for almost 30 years. The past 20 plus years in the field of Conscious Sexuality, Kashmiri Pleasure Massage, Yoni Massage, Taoist Massage, Lingam Massage, Energy Massage,...

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The Conscious Cock

The Conscious C**k is an expression of the heart. It is a c**k of service, of worship. He has gone through and beyond performance. He has gone through and beyond need. He has gone...

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Devotion

More than a year ago my lover said to me that she thought devotion might be more important than love. We're not together anymore, and that line has stayed in my head. I've come back to it...

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Friction Sex, Energy Sex

Most people have what we call friction sex. It's friction, simply. One body part rubbing against another. It creates friction. (And as I write that something I've never quite seen before comes to me, I'll...

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A Soft Cock Conversation

So much of the power of a cock is in its hardness, in its heat. In its ability to penetrate, to open, to spread. So much of its power, and so much of its pleasure....

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My Nurtured Cock

There is a practice that I teach in workshops and on healing journeys. It's a practice of creating a conscious relationship with your genitals. The relationship most of us have with our genitals is, at...

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Exploring The Erotic Spirit

I was preparing for the webinar I have coming up on Thurs, Exploring the Erotic Spirit, with a smile inside. It’s based on a workshop I teach called Awakening the Erotic Spirit. For a while I’ve...

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Yoni Healing Massage Pt 3

Within our bodies is the most incredible wisdom. It's so incredible, it's Divine. This body, within us, has all we need to heal, to learn, to grow, to release. This body is sacred space, our...

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Where Are We, In Love?

I've been thinking a lot about what is, what is happening in our world. I don't know. I don't know what's true, what's real. Not a lot makes sense. I do know this. Our world...

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Loving A Woman

I love women. I love loving women. There are many elements in loving a woman, one of them is loving loving a woman. Loving to love her. Loving to honour her. Loving to revere her....

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A Lesson in Sensual Touch

These are my hands. For over 30 years they've been doing and teaching massage in many different ways. For the past 20 years they've specialized in sensual massage, sexual massage, pleasure massage, sexual energy massage,...

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Our Sexual Yes and No

I talk about that one of the reasons I do what I do is that it allows me to express so much of myself in so many ways. The same goes for learning. I learn...

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Better Sex, Different Sex

I was thinking about something I get asked a lot. How do we have better sex? It's something so many people talk about, and it's something so many programmes and courses offer. Better Sex. What...

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Sharing The Erotic

My journey into this world of what I came to call Conscious Sexuality began with massage. There's a beautiful journey of exploration that goes from curiosity to interest, interest to fascination, fascination to wonder, wonder...

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Be A Better Lover

I know that many people are struggling, and I know that many relationships are taking strain. I know that there is so much uncertainty, so much confusion I know that there is so much fear. I...

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The Mystery of Yoni Gazing

I love women, I worship Yoni. There is something I have learned about mystery. There's an inner knowing, an understanding that goes beyond words. It's nameless. It has no limits. There is an intimacy with...

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These Are My Hands

Everyone has gifts and talents, one of mine is touch. These are my hands, and they are missing touching. So much of my work, and my teaching is with touch. I have been exploring, learning,...

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Riding the Orgasmic Waves

When I started teaching, a long time ago, one of the first workshops I taught was Expanded Orgasm. It's still one of my most popular workshops. Now I call it Expanded Orgasmic Wave, as my...

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Beautiful Woman

I love women, I worship Yoni. I've spent a great deal of my adult life, personally and professionally exploring pleasure, how to share pleasure with women, in so many ways. Most of the people I...

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The Healing is in The Connection

The relationship many of us have with our bodies, is at best, functional. The relationship many of us have with our genitals, is at best, AT BEST, functional. The relationship many of us have with...

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What Do I want Sexually?

One of the main reasons I do what I do is that it allows me to express so many parts of myself in so many different ways. It's been a long journey to get to...

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The Last Sexuality Workshop

On Monday night I taught the last face-to-face workshop for a while. The workshops continue online. Before I talk about, rather, write about the workshop, I would like to thank you for your comments, likes...

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Erotic Gratitude

These are intense times, with intense energies at the moment. In this are amazing possibilities of healing, growth, change, learning, expanding. And one of the most powerful energies we can engage with at the moment...

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The Choices We Make

When I created the logo and slogan for ErosLife I wanted it to represent a Path of Pleasure; A Path of Possibility. Possibility for me is about choice, about awareness. It's about moving from auto-pilot...

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Make Love

The past few weeks have been a time of an inner shift for me, a shift in perception, how I see things, life, healing, us, what we do, how we do. It's been an intense...

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Men Receiving

At the Expanded Orgasm Workshop I taught this week there were some really interesting questions asked, and some deep understandings shared. Before I share one of these, I'd like to share this. One of the...

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Conscious Sexuality

Last week I wrote and shared an article about the way we have sex. Someone posted a comment, 'Soooooo let me get this straight you put more expanded CONSCIOUSNESS in to sex...

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The Way That We Have Sex

The way that we have sex is the way that we live. In patterns. In sexual terms what that means is that we do what we do, we follow our pattern. We kiss in the same...

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Multiple-Partner Logistics

I was having a conversation with someone the other day, and multi-partner experiences came up, as they do in some people's lives. I said that I thought orgies were hard work, and not always a...

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Yoni Holding For Healing

I've been working in the field of sexual healing for almost 20 years, most of the people I work with are women. For so many women the tissues of the yoni hold tension, emotional blockages,...

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Expanded Orgasm Workshop

've always said that this was 'an important workshop', and I was thinking earlier about what that really means. What makes it important is that it expands, haha, the perception we have on pleasure....

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Permission for Pleasure

There’s something I talk about a lot, it comes up a lot in the healing journeys I share with people, on talks and workshops, and it comes up a lot in interviews. In essence it’s that...

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Learn About…

At a talk I gave last week on Conscious Sexuality someone asked a great question about sex in a relationship, how do you make it more conscious, what do you do? Earlier this week a...

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My Eroticism Went With Her

She left. And my eroticism went with her. It loved her. It loved the expression, all the ways it could express itself, the gentle, the tender, the fire and the beast. It loved the passion....

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Early Ejaculation and Receiving

I've been working with quite a few men recently who are dealing with the issue of early ejaculation. As part of the healing journey something really interesting has emerged with every one of them. ...

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Conversations With My Sexual Body

For the past 10 months my eroticism has been solo and inwards. For someone who teaches in sexuality this creates many fascinating possibilities. One of these has been the conversations I've had with my cock,...

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As In Sex, So In Life

For many of us sex is something very separate from the rest of our lives. Our sexuality is in a box that we take out in very specific circumstances, in very specific contexts, use it,...

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Sing The Song of Your Body

Sing the song of your body Sing the song of your life Sing your pain and your despair Sing your loneliness and loss Sing the tears you cry in the quiet of the night Sing the silent longing of your...

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Give Yourself A Gift

Give yourself a gift, the gift of yourself. All of yourself. Give yourself the gift of your life, of each moment, each connection, each relationship, each experience, each feeling, each sensation...

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The Healing of Being

There's a beautiful concept of healing that comes from a state of being rather than a doing. In the tradition of Tantra Yoga there's an understanding that we are whole. The experiences that we've had,...

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