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I Found Something

I found something recently, and there might be something for you in what I've found. I have always loved what I do. When people talk about having a job I've never really thought of this...

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This Divine Body

From the ends of your toes to the tips of your fingers to the top of your head. Your Divine Body. There is a lifetime in your body, a lifetime of sensation, a lifetime of...

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One Manly Tear

I was watching an episode of Masterchef last week, the UK series. There was a man who had come pretty far in the competition and at one point, having got through to the next round,...

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Mouth Massage

Our mouths are incredibly intimate, and they hold a key to some deep releasing, healing, intimacy, expansion and pleasure. Over the past months I've been doing some work with the mouth and throat that has...

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Deepening Into Love

For the past, it's nearly two years now, I haven't had a sexual partner, I haven't had a lover, I haven't had a relationship. Not in the traditional sense. This has been a time of...

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This Conscious Kiss

Kissing is one of the most intimate acts we can share with a partner, in fact there are times when kissing is more intimate than sex. Kissing brings us closer together than anything. Because kissing...

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Sacred Yoni Massage

The sacred in me arises when I sit before you, when I look into your eyes. The sacred in me arises when I kneel before you. The sacred in me arises when I sit between your...

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My Orgasmic Gratitude

The energy of gratitude has such power. It brings us into awareness, into presence. It’s an element of intimacy. It connects us to ourselves, to another, to life, to the world. Gratitude heals. There is a sense of wonder in...

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Coffee and a Kiss

It's been a while since I've written a Coffee piece, it's also been a while, a long while since I've written an erotic piece. I remember, she said, I asked you this long ago, a...

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Our Sexual Connection

Most people who come and see me, looking for healing, as that's where so many journeys into sensuality, into Conscious Sexuality, into Tantra begin, are looking for something. They're looking to connect with their sexuality....

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My Love is My Arousal

Conscious Pleasure Experiences have the amazing quality of being portals of learning, healing and growth. This is where we shift from having sex to making love. We shift from a goal-oriented experience, orgasm, to a...

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Changing the Lingam Pattern

For so many men the masculine expression of sexuality is hard. It's driving, it's taking. Its need based, released based. It's about size, performance. It's driven by a model that has trapped men in a very...

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The Massage High

A while ago after a deep massage exchange someone said that she feels high, trippy, spacey. Just looking at her I could see that she was in an expanded state of consciousness. There was a...

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Hello

It’s the beginning of the year so it’s a great time to introduce, and re-introduce myself to you. There’s also a lot that’s new in my work which is another good reason. But first, a digression, I...

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I’m For The Slow

I'm for the slow…. For in the slow we feel. In the slow we savour. In the slow is the subtle. In the slow is presence. In the slow is appreciation. In the slow is awareness....

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Lessons in Sacred Sex 3

Slowly, she said to me, slowly. Rest the head of your Lingam at the opening of my Yoni. Be still, breathe. Feel her open, feel her begin to invite you in, to welcome you. This...

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G-Spot Holding

G-Spot Holding is a deep practice of healing and release. It's a practice of pleasure. It's a practice of feeling and sensation. It's a practice of intimacy and connection. It's a practice of energy. It's...

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Coffee of Loving and Longing

Coffee this afternoon is fascinating. I'm sipping it slowly, savoring the taste, the aroma. I'm looking at the sky, the garden, the clouds. I love watching clouds. I'm listening to the birds, distant traffic. I've...

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A Conscious Pleasure Experience

Coffee this afternoon is back home in Johannesburg. There's a rain shower, gentle rain, and I can see the sun shining in some parts of the sky, in the distance. The sound of the raindrops...

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Giving Myself Away Over Coffee

Coffee this afternoon is back home in Johannesburg. There's a rain shower, gentle rain, and I can see the sun shining in some parts of the sky, in the distance. The sound of the raindrops...

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This Sensual Moment of Oneness

On Saturday I was at The Oranjezicht Market in Cape Town. There was a moment. A moment of such deep sensuality that my heart swelled to having no edges that I could feel. I was...

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Coffee and an Offering

I've been thinking a lot, writing about love. I've been deeper into love in myself. And I've been thinking about making love. There is often a question asked about the difference between having sex and...

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Birthday Coffee and Love Unlimited

I've been aware of an expanding expression of love. Seeds that were planted, some long ago, some more recently, coming into flower. Deepening my Heart Breath practice, sitting more in my heart in healing, space,...

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The Heart Touch and a Rush Of Love

Over the past weeks some new practices have emerged in my work. There's been a mixing of massage and meditation, and a mouth massage, both of these have deepened healing and pleasure experiences enormously. And...

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The Way of Gentleness

There are many ways to heal, to learn, to grow and to experience. The path I've chosen is that of gentleness. In gentleness we soften, we open. We relax, we release. We let go. We...

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Holding Presence

One of the most intriguing aspects of this journey of teaching is the learning that keeps coming. During a Water Flow Massage experience I had a beautiful opportunity to do this. I don’t often participate in...

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Cold Coffee and the Facts

Last week I had coffee with my social media coach, Bronwynne. (By the way, she is fantastic, if you're looking for help with social media, I'll happily connect you.) I showed her what I'd written...

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Expanded Energy Orgasm

There is such power, such possibility in being relaxed, deeply relaxed, in pleasure. The body opens, energy begins to flow. From our sexual centre to the heart, and higher, spreading through the body. A wave...

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A Conscious Mouth

This idea arose from a place of deep pleasure, from a place of intimacy with my body, from a place of conscious connection and awareness with my body. For so many of us the relationship we...

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An Embrace

There is one thing we all need at the moment. Need. All of us, wherever we are on the rainbow of life, in every way there can be. Need. One of the effects of the...

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Being A Good Lover Is…

There is a really interesting aspect of being a good lover that we don't always connect with sex. Almost everyone who shares a healing and growth with me at some point says that they're amazed...

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Sexual Healing, Heart Healing

There is something that I have intrinsically known that has come to conscious awareness. So many of our sexual issues are heart issues. We heal them in the heart. Yes they're in our bodies, in...

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The Curiosity of Love and Pleasure

There's something I teach which is so important when it comes to pleasure, to sexuality, to sensuality, to growth. It's also such an important element in relationships. There's a progression, a journey that starts with...

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Breast and Heart Massage

Breast and Heart Massage is the space where healing, relaxation, acknowledgement, sensuality, arousal, love and nurturing meet. It's often an experience of deep emotion, bringing so much to awareness. For many women breasts are symbolic...

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Tears of Beauty

I am in an incredible position, because of the work I do. I get to spend emotional time with men, vulnerable time with men. And one of the most beautiful, one of the most powerful,...

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Clitintimacy

The other day I was doing a clitoral massage. This was in the space of healing, of pleasure, of energy, of sensation. In the moment something came to awareness in an emotional rush, deeper than...

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Healing Through Pleasure

When we work with expansion we become open to different ways of doing this, different perspectives. We come to see the patterns that we've lived with, that keep us doing what we do, and we...

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Healing The (Sexual) Body

The cornerstone of my healing work is patterns. The patterns are in the body as well as in the mind. And we can only change the body patterns in the body. Thoughts, ideas, perspectives, are...

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Find Stillness

For most men sex is about doing. Especially in the body. Your body moves, especially your hips. Moving, thrusting, rocking… Find stillness. ...

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The Intimacy of Healing

I love to teach. I love to learn, and I love to share what I learn, to understand it, to see where it fits, what it connects to. I've been listening to some great teachers...

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Quiet Lingam

Male sexuality has many different expressions, which sadly not many men get to understand and experience. For most men sex is genitally, orgasm oriented, and this limits the experience men have of their sexuality, of...

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Coffee, Banana Bread and…

Coffee this afternoon is delicious, with home-made banana bread that my daughter made. I've been a single parent since she was 4, we're very close, a relationship that we've nurtured, grown and developed over time. We've...

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Yoni Massage As Worship

Greet your lover as an expression of The Goddess. Greet her with reverence, with humility. Approach her as you would the Divine in a place of prayer. Kneel before her. Be open to serve her,...

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Women’s Day, Women’s Pleasure

Most of my work is with women, and for those who don't know me, I'm a Conscious Sexuality Practitioner. I'm based in South Africa, and I work with women, and men and couples, around the...

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Slow Subtle Super Sex

Yesterday's coffee was a cortado. The easiest way to explain a cortado is an intense cappuccino. And delicious cakes, and even more delicious friends. And what, you may ask, has that do with Slow Subtle Super...

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Friday Afternoon Coffee

Friday afternoon coffee in the delicious sun, and I'm thinking about the week. It's been a roller-coaster. Waking up a few mornings with an incredible bleakness. The image was of a vast concrete plain, grey sky, cold,...

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Conscious Sensual Massage

I love women. Most of my work is with women. And I must say that I love working with men, and I get so excited, I celebrate when men come to heal, to learn, to...

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