A Ritual of Offering

There is such power in ritual in a relationship.
It’s an experience of consciousness, of presence.
In this space we come together with an intention.
We come into intimacy, we come into our hearts, we come into our bodies.

Beyond Pleasure

There’s a fascinating idea in Conscious Sexuality that allows us to look at sexuality differently, and opens up a world of possibility.
It’s about going beyond pleasure.

The Meditation Of Touch

There is a touch that is slow, so slow.
There is a touch that is gentle, so gentle.
It comes from the heart, an energy that flows through your body into your hands so that your hands become your heart.

We Remember The Sacred

There are not many women who have been fully sexually satisfied.
Deeply fulfilled to the core of their being.
Touched, soul touched, heart touched.
Body replete.
Given herself totally, utterly.
Every level of her being open, exposed, safe, loved, respected, honoured, worshipped, elevated.

The impact of this is tension in the tissues of the yoni, often around and just inside the opening. This causes pain, particularly during penetration, whether it’s a finger or a cock.
The tension that sits in the tissues prevents sensation, so what should be alive, awake, receptive and open is numb, tender or painful.

Inside, Too Quickly

Many women have been penetrated too quickly, often way before their bodies are ready to have something inside.

The impact of this is tension in the tissues of the yoni, often around and just inside the opening. This causes pain, particularly during penetration, whether it’s a finger or a cock.
The tension that sits in the tissues prevents sensation, so what should be alive, awake, receptive and open is numb, tender or painful.

Healing The Body Slowly

One of the most important elements of what I teach is that we live in patterns and that most of our patterns are not conscious. We’re not aware of them, we simply do what we do, what we know, what we think works, what we’re comfortable doing.

Yoni Disconnect

There are so many things that disconnect women from their sexuality, from their bodies, from their yoni’s and from their pleasure.

My Own Journey

Over the past months I’ve experienced a deep sadness.
I’ve felt it in my body, in my being, in my energy, in my heart.

This Place, Beyond

This experience is available to all of us.
It can’t really be described as our words limit our understanding.
It can but be experienced.

Stay In Your Body

Our body is an intelligence, a consciousness, an awareness.
It’s in the body and it is the body.
To be with it, to experience it, to feel it, we need to learn to stay in the body.
We need to establish a relationship, a connection with our body.
It’s an intimacy with our body, an intimacy beyond words, beyond thought, beyond the mind.
It’s a quiet knowing.

Yoni Healing

Yoni Healing is slow, so slow.
It’s gentle, so gentle.
It’s allowing, not making, not forcing, not rushing.
It’s allowing your body to release, to soften.
To release the past.

My Connected Male Body

The relationship we have, with our genitals is not conscious, at best it’s functional, and deeper than that it’s contractive, it’s fearful with comparison, with a level of performance, with a lack of information and knowledge. There’s no connection with our hearts, and what that energy represents.

This Conscious Kiss

For so many of us kissing is a prelude, something we do that leads to something else. And for some people it’s something they have to do to get to the next step.

Conscious Kissing is its own incredible moment of being. There is nothing else other than the delicious sensation, the feeling, the taste of our mouths.

Conscious Receiving

There’s an element of touch that I don’t think we’re always aware of because we focus so much on the giving of touch.
Receiving touch.
Consciously Receiving your lover’s touch.

Sensual Bondage Massage

It’s a touch experience that takes you deep into your body, into your energy, using a range of sensations.
It’s a place where sensation and emotion come together.
It’s an exploration of the possibilities of sensation, from the subtle, oh so subtle, to a little firmer, to the sting of something that sends waves throughout your entire body.

The Best Time

When we’re present, when we’re in this moment, when we’re connected to ourselves, when we’re open, when we’re in a space of intimacy, with ourselves, more than anything else, this moment is the best there is.
And it’s never about comparing anything.
This moment is everything.

The Heart Touch

When I started teaching The Heart Touch the way I taught massage changed so much.

Sensual Curiosity

Curiosity is one of the most important elements of vitality. It helps keep us interested and interesting.
In a relationship it’s one of the qualities that contribute to fulfillment.

Slow Union

There’s a practice I teach called Slow Union.
Over time this practice reveals almost endless gifts to us as it releases that which prevents us going deep into pleasure and the myriad, mystical, magical gifts we find there.

The Endless Touch

One of the most beautiful things about learning Sensual Massage, Heart Massage, Healing Massage, is the endless journey of discovery it offers.

In The Giving

It’s often been said that the receiving is in the giving.
This is showing to be so true in the learning of Healing Massage.

I was thinking about my journey, working in the field of Conscious Sexuality for 20 yrs.

It’s a full-body massage that works with the body’s meridian system, bringing healing to the entire being every time you experience it.
It’s slow, taking you into a state of deep relaxation, and gentle, allowing the relaxation to be enhanced, and making release possible.

Healing Men

It’s easy for me to talk about the fears that many men have around their sexuality, about the sexual problems they have, the impact these have on their emotional state, their relationships and lives.

I was thinking about my journey, working in the field of Conscious Sexuality for 20 yrs.

It’s a full-body massage that works with the body’s meridian system, bringing healing to the entire being every time you experience it.
It’s slow, taking you into a state of deep relaxation, and gentle, allowing the relaxation to be enhanced, and making release possible.

Sexual Healing, The Paths of Possibility

I sat in my studio this morning with a client, listening to her sexual story, her desire to have the experiences she knew were there, to feel the things she knew were possible.

I was thinking about my journey, working in the field of Conscious Sexuality for 20 yrs.

It’s a full-body massage that works with the body’s meridian system, bringing healing to the entire being every time you experience it.
It’s slow, taking you into a state of deep relaxation, and gentle, allowing the relaxation to be enhanced, and making release possible.

Taoist Sexual Rhythm

One of the deepest practices that I offer and teach is Taoist Sexual Energy Massage.

It’s a full-body massage that works with the body’s meridian system, bringing healing to the entire being every time you experience it.
It’s slow, taking you into a state of deep relaxation, and gentle, allowing the relaxation to be enhanced, and making release possible.

Words on My Lover’s Body

If you wrote a poem on your lover’s body, what would it say?
Even your imaginary lover, the lover that you would like to have, the lover you dream about.
Where on their body would you write it?

The Shifting Sands of Perception

Last week in my practice there were some amazing realizations that came through shifting perspectives and asking different questions.
Asking different questions allows us to see things differently. When we can see things differently we can do things differently.
And one of the most powerful understandings from this is the power of questions, to be more engaged, more curious, more open.

Taking It Deep Into The Body

‘I just lay there and cried. In 47 years I had never been touched so gently. For 47 years my body, and my Yoni, a new word for me, as there were so many new things on this journey, had never been touched so gently.

Disneyland and The Holy Grail

So many of us are looking for the Disneyland of sex, love and pleasure. We think that’s where it is, the ultimate.

It’s like a roller-coaster or ghost-train. It’s a thrill. A quick thrill. There are some laughs. Your stomach hits your throat. There’s an adrenaline rush. Blood rushing through your body. There are some screams. You’re holding on really tight, muscles clenched.

Tell Me Something Different!

Most of my work is in the field of Conscious Sexuality and Relationships, which means that that’s what most people come and see me for, and that’s where most journeys start.
However, as our sexuality doesn’t happen in a vacuum, rather in the fullness of the context of our lives, as do our relationships, healing and growth journeys need to be in the same context.

Heart-Centered Healing

There’s a model of healing I keep coming back to. It’s challenging because it challenges the way we look at healing.

It’s not about fixing the problem.
And that’s the problem.

We’ve been convinced we have to fix the problem, whatever it is.
How about if we didn’t?
How about if there was another way?

Sitting With Love

I sat alone in the night and I asked Love to come and sit with me.

I know Love in all its exquisite savagery, in all its terrible beauty.

I know the gentleness and tenderness of Love, its warmth and safety.

I know the home that Love brings, the belonging.

The Questions We Shouldn’t Ask

There are some questions we shouldn’t ask.

Because the answers make us uncomfortable, they make us squirm inside.

Because if we ask them we might have to do something about it.
Because if we ask them we bring certain things into the light of day, we acknowledge their existence, and maybe they’re best left unsaid.

The Art of Sensual Massage

The deeper we go into Sensual Massage, the deeper we go into art.
The art of touch, the art of communication, the art of intention, the art of presence, the art of awareness, the art of consciousness, the art of connection, the art of intimacy, the art of vulnerability, the art of power, the art of love, the art of the heart, the art of the body.