I was thinking about a Pleasure Practice. I was thinking that we have all kinds of practices, health practices, spiritual practices etc. But what about a Pleasure Practice, a Sexuality Practice, an Intimacy Practice, a...
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I write a lot, I teach a lot about worship. Yoni Worship, Lingam worship. Touch and massage as a form of worship. Touch as a sacred expression. Worship of your lover, in pleasure, in breath,...
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For many of us the model of sex is based on what we think it should be, how we think it should be, how we think it should look. This is often a porn-based model,...
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The exploration of a body is the exploration of a life. The exploration of a body is the exploration of the world. The exploration of a body is timeless, limitless. It changes as the body changes,...
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There's a definition of Conscious Sexuality that I use. It's to be present during sex, and to be with whatever arises, whatever emerges. It's a way in to the more of sex, a doorway to...
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The framework of healing I've been sharing since I began this journey is about patterns. That's how we work. The patterns are in our minds and in our bodies, and they're mostly subconscious. We mostly...
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Erotic Inspiration is a delicious phrase, filled with such possibility. In all aspects of life. An Erotic Life is so much more than a sexual and genital expression of that energy. But that's what so...
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I am so fortunate in getting to have the conversations, and experiences, that I have. And how much of one person’s journey is all of ours, how the learning, the understanding in one space can...
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May is traditionally known as Mast*******n Month, which brings so many possibilities to awareness. Possibilities of pleasure, of sexual energy, of self-love, exploration, growth, healing and intimacy. For a long time I've spoken about the...
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At almost every workshop I talk about creating a sensual space for experiences, for connection, for pleasure, for deep communication, for ritual etc. I talk about the elements of this space, being warm, music, candles,...
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There are many different expressions of Yoni Massage that I offer and teach. There's Quiet Yoni, a deep, slow, gentle meditation of touch. There's The Fire Massage, building sexual energy to a heightened state of pleasure,...
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There is a deep practice of Lingam Healing, male healing, heart healing. It's a practice of presence. It's a slow practice, it has very little movement. It's a practice of time, in two ways, the...
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I was thinking about making love, and some interesting things came to awareness. Often in workshops and discussions there's a question that comes up, which is What's the difference between having sex and making love....
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For many of us pleasure is way down the list of what's important. And I'm not talking about sex and orgasm. I'm talking about pleasure, the energy that vibrates in every cell in our bodies....
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In a few weeks, less than 2 in fact, I'm teaching a series of workshops in Ireland that we've called The Body of Possibility. And that's what they're about, the possibility that's in our bodies....
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Last week was Coffee and Cunnilingus Day, which came about in response to Steak and Blow-Job Day, which came about in response to Valentine's Day. Makes me wonder what's next. I write a Coffee Blog,...
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I had some deep and serious stuff to share with you today, and then I had a conversation with someone yesterday that changed it. Here's what it brought to mind. We take sex seriously, and in...
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For so long I've stayed away from the term Tantric Massage. Mostly because of the sexual connotation that so many people bring to it. I get so many requests from people who want to learn...
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There's a lot of stuff around at the moment about being a good lover. And lots of people, men and women, want to learn how to be a good lover. And there are so many...
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There is a moment, a Divine Erotic Moment. A Conscious Erotic Moment. It could be with my face in your neck, breathing your scent in, feeling the soft warmth of the curve there. It could...
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There is a sensuality of men, between men, that few of us get to experience. It is rich in gifts, deep, vast. Gifts of support, of connection, of intimacy. Gifts of the body, gifts of...
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There are moments of Erotic experience, moments of deep pleasure, moments of sexual energy, moments of intimacy, moments of the heart, moments of the body, that have no words. They're sacred moments, moments of an...
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For a long time I've been working with the connection between our genitals and throat. For many of us this begins as healing, releasing, opening. We hold so much there, so many unsaid things, so...
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‘I wanted to share this with you. As I woke up this morning with the sun on my bed, I could feel the energy moving in my body. I know it so well but it’s...
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There is something fascinating that happens in Deep Yoni Massage. And I'm using the word deep in a few different ways here. And all of them are about presence, connection, intimacy, awareness, the heart. Which...
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There is something so important for both healing and pleasure that we tend to overlook. Maybe because it's so simple, and in its simplicity we forget about the power it has. To relax. We tend...
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A while ago I wrote a piece called What She'd Like You to Know. It sparked some deep and intimate sharing and discussion, about pleasure, about relationships and about communication. It also led to some...
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As much as we might read about sexual energy, as much as we might read about the healing possibilities, the pleasure possibilities, the creative possibilities, the vitality, the life-force, the intimate possibilities, the spiritual possibilities,...
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There is something so important in Yoni Massage, both for healing and pleasure. Pause. Pause in your touch. Pause in your caress. Pause. Rest your hand, your fingers. Energy moves in the pause. Release is...
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I love to kiss, and for me it's an experience of deep intimacy and arousal. There's a conversation in our kiss, in the delicate touch of lips and tongues we tell our lovers so much....
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I remember the very first Taoist Sexual Energy Massage I received. I had done many, taught it lots, and never received it. Then I taught it to a lover, who gave me the experience of...
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There is something so interesting happening lately, that is impacting on young men, mostly under 30. And what is amazing is that many of these guys are seeking help. This is big, as for so many...
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Flow through orgasm into pleasure. Flow beyond orgasm into pleasure. Flow through sensation into energy. Flow from contraction into expansion. Flow from the end into the ocean of possibility. So much changes when we experience...
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Holding. It's so powerful. It's so simple. It's so deep. Just holding. It can be a sacred experience, a meditation, on the body, on the warmth, on the texture of the skin, on what's beneath...
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Expanding into potential. Expanding into Possibility. Expanding into the space within. The twin flames of energy and pleasure dance with each other in the body. The Heart opens. The Body opens. 'I felt the pulsations...
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I’m not a great fan of Valentine’s Day. More than anything else because of the commercialization which it gives us as an empty expression of love. You get the flowers, the chocolate the jewellery, the lingerie,...
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We surrender to our sexuality, to our deep pleasure by becoming sex rather than doing sex, having sex. For many of us sex is a doing thing, it has a progression that we follow, which...
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One of the things that emerged, as it does on so many journeys, that is so important in our sexual journeys. Get away from the outcome into the pleasure. It's so simple, and it changes...
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A while ago a woman asked me a question, How do I give a better Blow-Job? On the surface it's a simple question, and as I see more and more, the simple questions have such...
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Drop into your body. Drop deep, into the base, into the pelvis. On so many journeys, in so many teachings, it’s about moving up, moving away from our base. And it just may be that moving the other...
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Imagine that you had a lover, and that lover wanted to explore your body, get to know your body, caress your body. Imagine that this lover wanted to find the ways and places you like...
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There is something so important in relationships, it's vital to the longevity of a relationship, to the excitement and intimacy of a relationship. Seduction. To keep seducing each other. Over and over again. Seduction is...
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I learned something this week. Enter from within. It sounds paradoxical, it is, as is so much of life, when we really see it. Enter from within. It's expanding inside of me, showing more every...
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A while ago I facilitated a Self-Pleasuring Experience. One of the first questions that comes up is how do you facilitate that, because I know how to do it? My answer is this, you know...
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I was thinking about all the massage experiences I teach and do. Conscious Sensual Massage, a vast field of healing and pleasure, Taoist Sexual Energy Massage, Kashmiri Massage, Water Flow Massage, Yoni Massage in its...
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Three things, just three things. And so much happens with these three things. They could be any 3 things, and today I chose these. Rope, a blindfold, a flogger. The strands of the flogger are made...
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We've shared a lot this year, you and I. Some in person, some on the other side of a screen, some reading what I write, some on my DVD's and programmes. I am grateful for...
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'My touch is the dance of my heart on your body.' I wrote this line and shared it in an image a few days ago, then I read it a few times. Earlier in the day...
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Let's start with this. What makes saliva sacred? Nothing, other than it's an element of our Divine body, and as everything, every bodily fluid, is part of us, in this Divine body. And if we were more...
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For a man to sit opposite another man and to look into his eyes is powerful. For a man to sit naked opposite another man is powerful. For a man to hold his hands out...
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