Breast and Heart Massage is the space where healing, relaxation, acknowledgement, sensuality, arousal, love and nurturing meet. It's often an experience of deep emotion, bringing so much to awareness. For many women breasts are symbolic...
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I am in an incredible position, because of the work I do. I get to spend emotional time with men, vulnerable time with men. And one of the most beautiful, one of the most powerful,...
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The other day I was doing a clitoral massage. This was in the space of healing, of pleasure, of energy, of sensation. In the moment something came to awareness in an emotional rush, deeper than...
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When we work with expansion we become open to different ways of doing this, different perspectives. We come to see the patterns that we've lived with, that keep us doing what we do, and we...
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The cornerstone of my healing work is patterns. The patterns are in the body as well as in the mind. And we can only change the body patterns in the body. Thoughts, ideas, perspectives, are...
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For most men sex is about doing. Especially in the body. Your body moves, especially your hips. Moving, thrusting, rocking… Find stillness. ...
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I love to teach. I love to learn, and I love to share what I learn, to understand it, to see where it fits, what it connects to. I've been listening to some great teachers...
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Male sexuality has many different expressions, which sadly not many men get to understand and experience. For most men sex is genitally, orgasm oriented, and this limits the experience men have of their sexuality, of...
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Coffee this afternoon is delicious, with home-made banana bread that my daughter made. I've been a single parent since she was 4, we're very close, a relationship that we've nurtured, grown and developed over time. We've...
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Greet your lover as an expression of The Goddess. Greet her with reverence, with humility. Approach her as you would the Divine in a place of prayer. Kneel before her. Be open to serve her,...
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Most of my work is with women, and for those who don't know me, I'm a Conscious Sexuality Practitioner. I'm based in South Africa, and I work with women, and men and couples, around the...
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Yesterday's coffee was a cortado. The easiest way to explain a cortado is an intense cappuccino. And delicious cakes, and even more delicious friends. And what, you may ask, has that do with Slow Subtle Super...
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Friday afternoon coffee in the delicious sun, and I'm thinking about the week. It's been a roller-coaster. Waking up a few mornings with an incredible bleakness. The image was of a vast concrete plain, grey sky, cold,...
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I love women. Most of my work is with women. And I must say that I love working with men, and I get so excited, I celebrate when men come to heal, to learn, to...
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I have had some incredibly painful, sad and deep conversations over the past few weeks. These have been with men and women, single people and couples. So much of it comes to this. We're looking...
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I'm sitting in the afternoon sun with coffee It's been cold for a few days in Johannesburg, this is the first afternoon that it's warm enough to sit outside. Coffee is an important part of my...
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I love food, I love to cook, and I love to eat. There is such sensuality in food, and coffee, in every way, texture, taste, smell, the way things look. I also enjoy watching food...
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It's Wednesday afternoon I Johannesburg as I write this. I'm sitting outside in the winter sun, the wind is picking up, a cold front is on the way. I've just made coffee, which I'm sipping...
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I get a lot of calls, message, emails, from people with sexual issues. A lot happens before people make these contacts. A lot of internal twisting and turning. It’s a difficult thing to do. It’s incredibly vulnerable,...
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For a long time I have resisted teaching massage online. Firstly I held the belief that it has to be in the same space to get the subtlety and nuance. There's a transmission of a...
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I've had a lot of conversations with people in the past weeks. People in relationships and single people. Mostly people who are dealing with issues and problems, some struggling deeply, some hurting, and some people...
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There is much of our world that has taken what is sacred and made it dirty. There is much of our world that has taken what is light and made it dark. There is much of our...
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Many people come to a sexual journey looking for healing. There's a problem, an issue, a blockage,a pain, a hurt. That's where so many journeys begin. A lot of my work happens in this space,...
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We need to touch, and we need to be touched. We need to hold, and we need to be held. We need to pleasure, and we need to be pleasured. These are needs. Not wants...
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I've shared with you that over the past year I haven't had a sexual encounter with another. For someone who has had a rich and full erotic life this has been really interesting. For someone...
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I have been doing and teaching massage and touch for almost 30 years. The past 20 plus years in the field of Conscious Sexuality, Kashmiri Pleasure Massage, Yoni Massage, Taoist Massage, Lingam Massage, Energy Massage,...
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The Conscious C**k is an expression of the heart. It is a c**k of service, of worship. He has gone through and beyond performance. He has gone through and beyond need. He has gone...
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Most people have what we call friction sex. It's friction, simply. One body part rubbing against another. It creates friction. (And as I write that something I've never quite seen before comes to me, I'll...
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So much of the power of a cock is in its hardness, in its heat. In its ability to penetrate, to open, to spread. So much of its power, and so much of its pleasure....
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There is a practice that I teach in workshops and on healing journeys. It's a practice of creating a conscious relationship with your genitals. The relationship most of us have with our genitals is, at...
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I was preparing for the webinar I have coming up on Thurs, Exploring the Erotic Spirit, with a smile inside. It’s based on a workshop I teach called Awakening the Erotic Spirit. For a while I’ve...
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Within our bodies is the most incredible wisdom. It's so incredible, it's Divine. This body, within us, has all we need to heal, to learn, to grow, to release. This body is sacred space, our...
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There is a mystical dance of movement and stillness. It is the dance of the cosmos. It is the dance of life. It's in our breath, it's in our body. It's in the beat of...
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I've been thinking a lot about what is, what is happening in our world. I don't know. I don't know what's true, what's real. Not a lot makes sense. I do know this. Our world...
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I love women. I love loving women. There are many elements in loving a woman, one of them is loving loving a woman. Loving to love her. Loving to honour her. Loving to revere her....
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These are my hands. For over 30 years they've been doing and teaching massage in many different ways. For the past 20 years they've specialized in sensual massage, sexual massage, pleasure massage, sexual energy massage,...
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I talk about that one of the reasons I do what I do is that it allows me to express so much of myself in so many ways. The same goes for learning. I learn...
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The way we make love is the way we live our lives. If sex is all about the goal, the orgasm, if it's all about chasing that, making it happen, so life will be like...
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I was thinking about something I get asked a lot. How do we have better sex? It's something so many people talk about, and it's something so many programmes and courses offer. Better Sex. What...
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My journey into this world of what I came to call Conscious Sexuality began with massage. There's a beautiful journey of exploration that goes from curiosity to interest, interest to fascination, fascination to wonder, wonder...
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I know that many people are struggling, and I know that many relationships are taking strain. I know that there is so much uncertainty, so much confusion I know that there is so much fear. I...
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I love women, I worship Yoni. There is something I have learned about mystery. There's an inner knowing, an understanding that goes beyond words. It's nameless. It has no limits. There is an intimacy with...
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Everyone has gifts and talents, one of mine is touch. These are my hands, and they are missing touching. So much of my work, and my teaching is with touch. I have been exploring, learning,...
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When I started teaching, a long time ago, one of the first workshops I taught was Expanded Orgasm. It's still one of my most popular workshops. Now I call it Expanded Orgasmic Wave, as my...
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I love women, I worship Yoni. I've spent a great deal of my adult life, personally and professionally exploring pleasure, how to share pleasure with women, in so many ways. Most of the people I...
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The relationship many of us have with our bodies, is at best, functional. The relationship many of us have with our genitals, is at best, AT BEST, functional. The relationship many of us have with...
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One of the main reasons I do what I do is that it allows me to express so many parts of myself in so many different ways. It's been a long journey to get to...
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On Monday night I taught the last face-to-face workshop for a while. The workshops continue online. Before I talk about, rather, write about the workshop, I would like to thank you for your comments, likes...
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These are intense times, with intense energies at the moment. In this are amazing possibilities of healing, growth, change, learning, expanding. And one of the most powerful energies we can engage with at the moment...
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