A while ago I had a 3-way touch experience that was so beautiful, so sensual, so intimate. It was deeply arousing, with no penetration, no orgasm. It was just hands flowing over skin, bodies touching,...
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Recently a few people, both couples and single people have come to see me because they're sexually bored. I've been teaching in the field of Conscious Sexuality for over 20 years, and this is a...
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Much of my work is in the world of sexual healing. At least that's where many journeys start, then they become more about learning, growing, exploring, expanding. These journeys also become more about life, all...
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Yesterday I shared a post that I wrote a while ago, called What's Become of Us. It's on my page if you'd like to read it. It was prompted by a few things. Many women...
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The past weeks have been difficult for me. I've felt a little lost, alone, down. I'm usually quite focused, I've been scattered. I've been thinking about where I'm going in a way that's not directed...
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Much of my work is, or begins with sexuality, the relationship we have with our sexuality is, of course, a large part of this. This relationship forms the framework of the journey, it gives it...
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Last week I did a rope workshop facilitated by a friend in Australia. It was a very non-traditional approach, that wasn't really about tying, knots, positions etc, which is often quite technical. This was about...
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Our sexuality is a guide, a teacher, a path of personal enquiry, a way to experience energy, a way to access deep states of consciousness, a way to become incredibly intimate with ourselves, a place...
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We talk about all the different kinds of orgasms women, and men, can experience. Many people I, and I'm sure many other practitioners, work with, come to learn how to have these different experiences. In...
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Yoni or Lingam Meditation of Gazing is looking with, through, the eyes of your heart. It's a meditation on loving, accepting, acknowledging, in the giving and in the receiving. It's a meditation on presence, sexual...
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There is such power, such possibility, in one breath. In the world of pleasure we're often looking for more. More feeling, more sensation, more experiences, more technique, more partners, more toys… Most of these things...
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I talk about, teach about, Making Love with Life, and the limitless possibilities that that holds for us. Last week I had such a direct and beautiful experience of this. In these moments, Life, in...
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The afternoon winter sun, it's delicious in Johannesburg. Coffee and a few mouthfuls of something sweet. I have a weakness for pastry, and today it's a mini almond croissant. A digression, more coffee shops should...
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For over 25 years on my journey into Conscious Sexuality I've been learning about men and male sexuality. Firstly by going into my own Sexuality and sensuality, and then by spending so much time with...
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Part of Cl-iteracy, which is to be clitorally literate. To be literate with something is to know it, to have knowledge of it. And to be able to read it, to understand it. That on its own...
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TThere's a thing with sex, as soon as we're inside someone, or someone is inside us, to move. It's almost as if our pelvis has a life, a will of its own, as if we're programmed...
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Tears on my chest Sacred tears. I sat with a man in Yab-Yum, holding him, naked chest to naked chest, heart to heart. We sat in stillness and breathed, coming into our bodies, softening into each...
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At the opening of her Yoni, pause. Before you enter her, pause. Be still, so still. And so much happens in this stillness, this moment of quiet. In this moment, this stillness, there's a listening to...
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I was thinking about how much of our sexual experience is in the category of hard and tight. Hard cocks, tight vaginas. Hard and tight is a space of pressure, a space of performance, a...
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I think we need more lovers than healers. We need more people to hold a space for us to feel loved in, simply loved. And this is where the healing happens. It's in the space...
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Every time we look into each other’s eyes, energy travels from me to you, you to me. Every kiss, every touch, energy. I breathe your breath into me, I take your essence, I give you mine. Every...
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From a place in my heart comes the ancient and sacred practice of holding, of resting my hands on your body. In stillness, deep stillness. In reverence. In love. For over 25 years I've been...
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The desire to awaken is deep The desire to surrender is deep The desire for the wild is deep Within us, men and women, is such a deep sexuality. A sexuality that is a portal to experience the...
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Naked Freedom, Naked Sex. Naked sex? Isn't all sex naked? Most of the time, sometimes it's partially clothed, sometimes it's in a costume, sometimes it's just pulling something down, pulling something aside. And there's more. Naked...
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I've been teaching, exploring and experiencing in the wonderful and limitless worlds of sensuality and sexuality for over 25 years. In this time there is something I've seen so often, and at the moment more...
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I'd like to share an experience I had recently with a woman on a journey of healing and growth. We've been working together for a while and we've gone deep. It's time that makes the...
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It's time for a re-introduction. Because… The past month has been a time of integration of a lot of learning, experiencing, exploring, contemplating. Going within, and from there being able to share more with you....
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After doing and teaching, and receiving (not nearly enough), massage, so many different expressions, for over 25 years, I've seen how the body, the touch is a beautiful path to surrender. On many paths we...
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For years I have been helping men with performance issues, premature ejaculation and erection problems. Something landed for me recently with this work, and the clue was in the question, or the problem. Performance. That's...
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There's something interesting about touch and pleasure touch, sexual touch. We think that we need to move, and move all the time. And for many of us the pattern of movement is hard and fast,...
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I want to touch you like the water With the safety of the womb With the rivers endless flow With the oceans tides As I stroke to your centre And gently away With the gathering wave Crashing its love on the shores...
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In my work, both face-to-face, and online, in one-on-one sessions and in workshops, I get to share many intimate moments with you. These are moments of awareness, moments of understanding, moments of release and letting...
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I held a man on his tears at the Water Flow Massage on Fri night, as I've held so many men and women over the years as they've cried, as I've been held in my...
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I am back in Johannesburg after an intense week of teaching in Cape Town. The learning, the sharing, the intimacy, the healing, the connecting on all the workshops, all the sessions, all the conversations was...
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Sunday morning at the Airport in Cape Town, going back to Jo'burg. I'm carrying the container with my new Yoni and Lingam, get to the security check. It goes through the scanner and they stop...
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'Was walking around in a bit of a daze afterwards. It was amazing! I just relaxed and breathed gently through a kaleidoscope of colour. These beautiful sensations like tiny pulses moved up my body. Followed...
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What in the world have coffee and duct tape got to do with each other? My daughter asked me a question last night. She phrased it more or less like this, 'I don't know if...
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I found something recently, and there might be something for you in what I've found. I have always loved what I do. When people talk about having a job I've never really thought of this...
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From the ends of your toes to the tips of your fingers to the top of your head. Your Divine Body. There is a lifetime in your body, a lifetime of sensation, a lifetime of...
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I was recently asked to teach a course on Yoni Massage for a group of practitioners. This filled me with excitement for a few reasons. The first is I love to teach, and I love to inspire...
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I was watching an episode of Masterchef last week, the UK series. There was a man who had come pretty far in the competition and at one point, having got through to the next round,...
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Our mouths are incredibly intimate, and they hold a key to some deep releasing, healing, intimacy, expansion and pleasure. Over the past months I've been doing some work with the mouth and throat that has...
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For the past, it's nearly two years now, I haven't had a sexual partner, I haven't had a lover, I haven't had a relationship. Not in the traditional sense. This has been a time of...
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Kissing is one of the most intimate acts we can share with a partner, in fact there are times when kissing is more intimate than sex. Kissing brings us closer together than anything. Because kissing...
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The sacred in me arises when I sit before you, when I look into your eyes. The sacred in me arises when I kneel before you. The sacred in me arises when I sit between your...
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The energy of gratitude has such power. It brings us into awareness, into presence. It’s an element of intimacy. It connects us to ourselves, to another, to life, to the world. Gratitude heals. There is a sense of wonder in...
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It's been a while since I've written a Coffee piece, it's also been a while, a long while since I've written an erotic piece. I remember, she said, I asked you this long ago, a...
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Most people who come and see me, looking for healing, as that's where so many journeys into sensuality, into Conscious Sexuality, into Tantra begin, are looking for something. They're looking to connect with their sexuality....
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