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Out of Time Into Pleasure

There is a beautiful unfolding in the journey of teaching, which is the journey of learning. I talk, and teach, a lot about orgasms. I also talk, and teach, a lot, about how orgasms are...

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The Heart of Male Sexuality

We have, us men, these Hearts. We have this energy of connection. We have this space to hold you in. We have this fire to heat you in. We have this roar to appreciate you...

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Precious Tears

There have been a lot of tears this week. My tears, men's tears, women's tears. Tears of gratitude and celebration. Tears of hurt. Tears of what's been hidden, being revealed, and the lightness, the freedom...

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Tears of Orgasm

We talk about all the different kinds of orgasms women, and men, can experience. Many people I, and I'm sure many other practitioners, work with, come to learn how to have these different experiences. In...

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The Yoni and Lingam Meditation of Gazing

Yoni or Lingam Meditation of Gazing is looking with, through, the eyes of your heart. It's a meditation on loving, accepting, acknowledging, in the giving and in the receiving. It's a meditation on presence, sexual...

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One Breath of Pleasure

There is such power, such possibility, in one breath. In the world of pleasure we're often looking for more. More feeling, more sensation, more experiences, more technique, more partners, more toys… Most of these things...

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Making Love With Life and Yoga

I talk about, teach about, Making Love with Life, and the limitless possibilities that that holds for us. Last week I had such a direct and beautiful experience of this. In these moments, Life, in...

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This Sensual Coffee of Presence

The afternoon winter sun, it's delicious in Johannesburg. Coffee and a few mouthfuls of something sweet. I have a weakness for pastry, and today it's a mini almond croissant. A digression, more coffee shops should...

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The Nurtured C***

For over 25 years on my journey into Conscious Sexuality I've been learning about men and male sexuality. Firstly by going into my own Sexuality and sensuality, and then by spending so much time with...

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Cl-itoral Pulsations

Part of Cl-iteracy, which is to be clitorally literate. To be literate with something is to know it, to have knowledge of it. And to be able to read it, to understand it. That on its own...

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The Subtle Power of Stillness

TThere's a thing with sex, as soon as we're inside someone, or someone is inside us, to move. It's almost as if our pelvis has a life, a will of its own, as if we're programmed...

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Tears on my Chest

Tears on my chest Sacred tears. I sat with a man in Yab-Yum, holding him, naked chest to naked chest, heart to heart. We sat in stillness and breathed, coming into our bodies, softening into each...

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Home

The longing for love is the longing to belong To know that have a home in the arms that hold you With the heart that beats alongside yours In the rhythm of breath With eyes that see...

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Penetration, Heart to Heart

At the opening of her Yoni, pause. Before you enter her, pause. Be still, so still. And so much happens in this stillness, this moment of quiet. In this moment, this stillness, there's a listening to...

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Healers and Lovers

I think we need more lovers than healers. We need more people to hold a space for us to feel loved in, simply loved. And this is where the healing happens. It's in the space...

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Energy Sex

Every time we look into each other’s eyes, energy travels from me to you, you to me. Every kiss, every touch, energy. I breathe your breath into me, I take your essence, I give you mine. Every...

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Holding the Place to be Met

From a place in my heart comes the ancient and sacred practice of holding, of resting my hands on your body. In stillness, deep stillness. In reverence. In love. For over 25 years I've been...

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The Desire…

The desire to awaken is deep The desire to surrender is deep The desire for the wild is deep Within us, men and women, is such a deep sexuality. A sexuality that is a portal to experience the...

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Naked Freedom

Naked Freedom, Naked Sex. Naked sex? Isn't all sex naked? Most of the time, sometimes it's partially clothed, sometimes it's in a costume, sometimes it's just pulling something down, pulling something aside. And there's more. Naked...

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The Power of a Woman

I've been teaching, exploring and experiencing in the wonderful and limitless worlds of sensuality and sexuality for over 25 years. In this time there is something I've seen so often, and at the moment more...

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The Erotic Space of Possibility

I'd like to share an experience I had recently with a woman on a journey of healing and growth. We've been working together for a while and we've gone deep. It's time that makes the...

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An Introduction

It's time for a re-introduction. Because… The past month has been a time of integration of a lot of learning, experiencing, exploring, contemplating. Going within, and from there being able to share more with you....

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The Path of Sensual Surrender

After doing and teaching, and receiving (not nearly enough), massage, so many different expressions, for over 25 years, I've seen how the body, the touch is a beautiful path to surrender. On many paths we...

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Performers or Lovers

For years I have been helping men with performance issues, premature ejaculation and erection problems. Something landed for me recently with this work, and the clue was in the question, or the problem. Performance. That's...

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G-Spot Holding for Pleasure

There's something interesting about touch and pleasure touch, sexual touch. We think that we need to move, and move all the time. And for many of us the pattern of movement is hard and fast,...

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4 Elements of Touch

I want to touch you like the water With the safety of the womb With the rivers endless flow With the oceans tides As I stroke to your centre And gently away With the gathering wave Crashing its love on the shores...

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The Intimacy of Healing

In my work, both face-to-face, and online, in one-on-one sessions and in workshops, I get to share many intimate moments with you. These are moments of awareness, moments of understanding, moments of release and letting...

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How Many Tears Are Enough

I held a man on his tears at the Water Flow Massage on Fri night, as I've held so many men and women over the years as they've cried, as I've been held in my...

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A Conscious Mouth

This idea arose from a place of deep pleasure, from a place of intimacy with my body, from a place of conscious connection and awareness with my body. For so many of us the relationship we...

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An Embrace

There is one thing we all need at the moment. Need. All of us, wherever we are on the rainbow of life, in every way there can be. Need. One of the effects of the...

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Being A Good Lover Is…

There is a really interesting aspect of being a good lover that we don't always connect with sex. Almost everyone who shares a healing and growth with me at some point says that they're amazed...

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Sexual Healing, Heart Healing

There is something that I have intrinsically known that has come to conscious awareness. So many of our sexual issues are heart issues. We heal them in the heart. Yes they're in our bodies, in...

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The Curiosity of Love and Pleasure

There's something I teach which is so important when it comes to pleasure, to sexuality, to sensuality, to growth. It's also such an important element in relationships. There's a progression, a journey that starts with...

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Breast and Heart Massage

Breast and Heart Massage is the space where healing, relaxation, acknowledgement, sensuality, arousal, love and nurturing meet. It's often an experience of deep emotion, bringing so much to awareness. For many women breasts are symbolic...

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Tears of Beauty

I am in an incredible position, because of the work I do. I get to spend emotional time with men, vulnerable time with men. And one of the most beautiful, one of the most powerful,...

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Men Going Deeper

Last week in my practice I had two incredibly deep experiences. Both of these are connected to a different story of our sexuality...

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Men’s Story

As I look at a different story for our sexuality I turn to an experience I had recently and what it brought to mind...

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Makers of Love

During some deep discuss with me lover we've spoken about not knowing what certain words mean to us anymore. A good example of this is ‘spirituality’...

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