After a recent Yoni Massage experience, the woman receiving it said something significant.
She said she’d never been touched so slowly and so gently.
And how much she actually felt.
That’s the significant part. How much she felt.
When most of us touch a Yoni, even our own, it’s in a way that is not slow, not soft.
It’s hard and fast, because that’s what we’ve been conditioned to do.
That’s what gets us, or another , to orgasm.
That happens from the beginning, when we start touching ourselves, another.
Over time it becomes the only stimulation we respond to.
That’s how the body works.
That’s how the mind works.
Patterns, conditioning.
Before the touch even begins, the body knows what’s coming, we go into the expectation.
And even if it’s pleasurable, we actually just don’t feel a lot.
We actually only become aware of how much we can feel when we feel it.
And the way we feel it is when we’re touched differently, which is slow and gentle. Which allows us to feel.
Then we discover how much we can feel, how many sensations there are.
Something happens here that’s important.
We come to see, especially when we talk about the experience, that we’re not just touching her Yoni, we’re touching a person.
In the sharing of the experience we’ll hear about how much she feels in so many places in her body.
There are 2 streams here.
The 1st is when our focus is on getting to orgasm. It’s about making that happen.
And that’s all there is. It’s performative, friction sex.
It’s about getting there, not the experience of getting there.
So we don’t really feel what’s happening in the body, the sensations, the energy.
The 2nd stream is the sensation itself.
How much there is to feel, sometimes subtle, sometimes intense.
If we’re touching in one way only, we don’t feel much. To feel, we have to slow everything down. A lot.
When we touch differently, and the sensations start to awaken, we’re often amazed at just how much there is within us.
Which isn’t surprising when you think about the amount of nerves in the Yoni, the clitoris, the G-Spot, A-Spot, P-Spot, K-Spot, Cervix…
And the different touches they all require.
Now here’s something beautiful.
When we touch in this way, slow and gentle, it allows us to meet in a different place, in a different way.
It allows us to feel each other differently, experience each other differently.
It’s more of a conversation than a doing to someone.
And in the giving when it’s slow, we feel our lover’s body more.
There’s an expansion in this, meeting ourselves and each other in another way. An expression of different parts of who we are as lovers.
When we read something like this, we might think that it’s one or the other, it’s not.
It’s about both, not one all the time, that keeps us in the pattern.
Having a range of experiences, and this is where some learning becomes important, allows us to touch, be touched, have whatever experience, based on how we’re feeling.
Not the same thing all the time.
We’re not machines, not robots.
And Yoni’s are definitely not. They’re alive, vibrant, with such a wide range of expression, of desire, of feeling, sensation, want…
Much of this is a path of learning.
Anatomy is vital, what everything is, where it is, how to touch, how to awaken, how to communicate, how to feel, how to share, how to change the mindset we have from ‘just orgasm’, to limitless pleasure…
If this touches something inside of you, makes you think, opens the door to more, drop me a message, we’ll talk about the possibilities.
I’ve been teaching this for over 30 yrs, there’s so much to share with you.
