A Pleasure Practice




I was thinking about a Pleasure Practice.

I was thinking that we have all kinds of practices, health practices, spiritual practices etc.

But what about a Pleasure Practice, a Sexuality Practice, an Intimacy Practice, a Sexual Energy Practice, an Erotic Practice.


We often engage with this part of ourselves only during sex, with ourselves or with another.

We’re often only sexual beings when we’re having sex, when we’re in a relationship.

Instead of understanding that we’re sexual beings, sensual beings, pleasure beings, intimate beings, all of the time.

And like every other part of life it’s important to nurture, to nourish, to explore, to develop our sexual selves, our erotic selves.

To engage with this energy consciously, regularly, and not only in a sexual context, a genital context.


Why is it important?

Because it’s one of the driving forces of life.

Because it’s linked to our vitality, our life-force, our juice, our creativity.

Because it’s connected to our health in so many ways.

Because it brings us into our body, into awareness, into presence.

Because it’s often the part of life, of ourselves, we judge the most, and that we long for the most.

Because when our bodies are filled with pleasure chemicals so much happens to our health, to our stress.

The less stressed we are, and on the face of that’s quite simple. And when we look deeper, and we see that stress causes more illnesses, more dis-ease than anything else, more than any other single factor, we see the importance of that.

Because it’s everywhere around us, in us.

Because there’s such freedom, in so many ways, in our sexuality.

Because it’s a path of self-knowledge.



A Pleasure Practice is an embodied practice.

It’s more about the energy, more about sensation, feeling, more about awareness than orgasm.

It’s often not about orgasm at all.

And the interesting thing, the wonderful thing, is that it actually makes sex, again with ourselves, and another, and orgasm, more fulfilling.

And that’s almost a by-product of an Erotic Practice.


So what does it look like, a Sexual Energy Practice?

Like very thing else we may do there’s a commitment to it, a commitment to ourselves. There’s a commitment to our bodies, to our hearts. In the same way we commit to a spiritual practice.

There’s a regularity, and the understanding that that’s the key. Nothing happens without that.

Then there’s learning, thinking, exploring.

The ideas, the concepts, the principles.

What is sexual energy, what is sensuality, what is eroticism, what is intimacy.

What is that within ourselves, what is that with another.

How can that be experienced and expressed in different ways.


Then there are the practices, touch, breath, movement, sound.

So many ways to explore this world, maybe limitless.

And on this journey we connect with ourselves, in a very physical, sensual, direct way.


Let’s digress for a moment.

And talk about Sensuality, because I’ve used the word lots.

We tend to connect sensuality with sex, and often think that it’s the foreplay. That’s what we do before we get to the sex.

Sensuality is how we experience life, the world, each other. Through, in, with our senses. Sight, sound, touch, smell, taste.

Feeling, sensing, intuiting, awareness.

All expressions of Sensuality.

And the connection of these to a Pleasure Practice is this.

We’re talking about the pleasure of life and we’re talking about sexual sensuality.

And in time we’ll see that they’re not separate, our society has made it so.

There’s a secret here, a big secret some of us get.

Sex and life are not separate.

So a Pleasure Practice becomes a life practice.


This is one of the things I love about the journeys I share with my clients, and something that comes up so often on retreats and workshops.

It’s all about sex and it has nothing to do with sex.


Then there’s the Pleasure.

The Pleasure that leaves us glowing, tingling, vibrating, alive, awake, vibrant, connected, smiling, intimate, happy, excited, creative, peaceful, fulfilled…

To reach the higher states of pleasure, the deeper energy experiences, requires a practice. To hold more energy, to be more present, to stay in the energy, to not get distracted, to drop deeper into the body, all these things require practice.


A Pleasure Practice is a life practice, a body practice, a heart practice.

A practice of possibility.

A practice of love.


What could you do, today, as a Pleasure Practice?


I’d like to share one of mine with you.

A simple and quick practice.

Of caressing your lips.

You can do this with your eyes open or closed.

Take a breath in, a slow, deep breath.

Breathe out.

Become aware of your lips.

And breathe in to your lips. Have the awareness, even in your imagination, that your breath is going in through your nose and flowing to your lips.

Feel how soft your lips become, with your breath.

Feel how your lips relax, with your breath.

Then, with one finger, the tip of your finger, slowly, gently, touch your lips, caress your lips.

All around your lips.

Feel the sensation.


For as long as you like, as long as you stay present.

Then sit for a few minutes, be aware of the feelings, the sensations, in your mouth, in your heart, in your body.


This is part of the work I do, sexual healing, sexual exploration, learning and expanding.

Please message me to find out more, how you can step into the field of possibility.





Erotic Inspiration is a delicious phrase, filled with such possibility.

In all aspects of life.


An Erotic Life is so much more than a sexual and genital expression of that energy.

But that’s what so many of us think about when we heat the term ‘erotic’.

For me, Erotic is an expression of the fullness of life. It’s the body, the mind, the heart.

It’s vitality and creativity.

It’s sensual, as in the experience of all of our senses.

It’s nature, and the world, the elements.

And it’s inner nature. An Erotic Nature is a state of being that looks at life in connection, in awareness and presence.


Erotic Inspiration.

Inspiration, breathing in.

Inspiration, feeling.

Inspiration, creating.

Erotic Inspiration, creating in the sensual fullness of life.

Erotic Inspiration, feeling into the fullness of life of the body, of sensation, of the heart.

Erotic Inspiration.

Living a life of spontaneous intimacy, dancing in the moment, dancing with what life offers, the joy and the tears.


Inspiration and gifts are in every moment.

Often in me there are moments of sadness, and in the sadness sometimes comes inspiration to write.


When we live with greater erotic awareness it touches every aspect of our lives.

Sexually, sensually, in work, in relationship.

Erotic is a perception, a state of mind, a state of body.

It’s a greater presence in the body, and in the body in life, in sensation, in feeling.

The awareness of the Erotic in every moment shifts so much within us, in healing, in learning, in growth.

There’s a fullness in the erotic that brings us to what is present rather than lacking.

Which is how we so often look at situations in our lives, what’s not there, what’s missing.

We also look at what’s wrong, rather than what’s possible.

The Erotic shifts us into what’s present, into everything that’s there.

The Erotic dances us into the space of possibility, the space within us, in our bodies and in our hearts.

That’s where our healing lies, that’s where our growth lies.


It’s within us, the Erotic.

Waiting for us to meet it, waiting for us to reach out.

This is where the inspiration is.

And a life of inspiration happens in so many ways.

We often look at that in creative terms, art or writing, music.

And it is that, and it’s all of life.

How we live.

Connecting with everything that’s sensual, that’s alive.

Pulsating, vibrating.



One of the ways inspiration expresses itself in my life is through touch.

And this week it led me to a new massage experience, connecting Heart, Nipples, Breasts, Clitoris.

An experience of energy and pleasure, of healing and release.

All coming together in one experience.


This is a continuous exploration for me, and teaching, sharing it with more people, expands the Erotic Possibility for all of us.


The more we connect with, feel, the Erotic within us.

The more we have experiences like the one I’ve shared, the more inspired we become.

And one expands into the other.

Inspiration expands in all of life.

Our dance expands in all of life.

Possibility expands in all of life.


I have always been able to be inspired by life, by the experiences, the people, what I see, what I hear, what I learn, what I feel.

And having someone in my life after so long inspires me more.

With gratitude to life, to love.