A Soft Cock Conversation

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So much of the power of a cock is in its hardness, in its heat.

In its ability to penetrate, to open, to spread.

So much of its power, and so much of its pleasure.

This power, consciously expressed, as an extension of the heart, holds the space for surrender.

As much as it’s about penetration and opening, it’s about being invited, welcomed.

There’s a dance in this, we move together, advancing and retreating, twirling, swirling in the energy.

This is one expression of the masculine.

 

And there are more, as we spoke about my cock and I.

We spoke about a time of discovery, an experience that went on for hours, the hard, the penetration, the opening.

Both of us, my lover and I, bathed in a string of her orgasmic energy, she went from one to the next to the next.

Each one deeper.

She opened more, and I filled her more.

This was energy expanding into space.

The seeming boundaries of our bodies went beyond the physical.

She opened in a way I’d never felt, and I filled her in a way I’d never felt.

The head of my cock drank her orgasms in, I felt them inside of me, somewhere. I tasted them. It’s a difficult experience to describe.

 

There came a time when my cock, in its hardness, couldn’t go on.

Yet we weren’t done, we were not finished with the energy, we were not finished with each other, we were not finished with our hearts, and it wasn’t finished with us.

The dance changed.

Into softness.

We found a position, I’ll share it at the end of this, where I was still inside of her.

Soft.

And we moved.

Tenderness, gentleness, the fire still there softer.

The orgasms still there, softer, spreading more.

Moving through both of us in a way we never knew before.

Ripples, subtle, that came to the edges of our skin and moved inside again, ripples meeting ripples of sensate energy.

It was a space of surrender, the softness allowed it, took us there.

 

So much of a man’s identity is in his erection

And there is such shame for men when that doesn’t work.

There is so much of a man’s identity in his performance.

And so much pressure.

And, And, And, there are other expressions of sexuality than the hard.

 

There is a practice of Maha Yoga, the yoga of presence, of subtlety, of savoring.

It’s the yoga of being, not doing.

It’s the expression of what is.

When we express from the heart, from the body, we’re always in pleasure.

It’s not an external pleasure.

It’s not based on any standard of judgment.

It’s being present, in pleasure.

 

I work with men who have these issues, and this week has brought such a shift in the way this needs to be.

It moves away from a problem, having a problem, to changing energy, changing perspective.

And then change happens.

 

It’s heart work, cock work.

Beautiful work.

 

The Position for Soft Sex

 

The position that I found that works well for soft sex is this.

You need lube, and my advice is the plainer the product the better it is for your body.

The woman lies on her back, you’re on top.

The lube will help you enter her yoni.

When you’re inside she closes her legs and you put your legs outside of hers.

The movement is more of a rocking than a thrusting, the closeness and connection of your bodies creates beautiful stimulation for both of you. Sometimes subtle, be patient.

It’ll become delicious.