On the weekend we shared a Live Yoni Massage Webinar with a focus on Cervical Orgasm.
The demonstration of this was powerful, beautiful, entrancing.
As I was preparing for the event, I came to see that one of the things about Cervical Orgasm is that it’s a transformational experience for both men and women.
A Cervical Orgasm is an experience that comes from the cervix and the area around the cervix being stimulated. It can happen on your won and with a partner. It’s deeply emotional, an experience of sexual energy, it can be pysychedelic, spiritual, an expanded state of consciousness and more.
For women it’s a journey of healing and releasing. Of creating a deep connection, an ownership, and a conscious relationship with your body, with your cervix. With your sexuality and pleasure.
This is a journey that takes us into the shadows of deservability, of vulnerability, of the power of pleasure. A journey that frees us from patterning, conditioning and expectations. A journey that takes us beyond the inhibitions and limitations of the cultural smallness of female sexuality,
It’s a journey of discovery of your body.
A journey that frees you from the very narrow, and often very judgmental, medical model of female sexuality
It’s a journey that connects body, heart, mind and spirt, and shows us how all the parts of who we are, are connected.
It gives us a direct experience of sexual energy.
And it shows how sexuality is a path to higher and expanded states of consciousness, a spiritual experience.
For men it’s a journey of healing, of learning to release the expectations, the conditioning, the patterning around sexuality.
This is mostly based on a porn and media model of sex that’s very goal oriented.
This experience can’t be forced, it can’t be chased, it can’t be made to happen.
It’s a softening in men, an allowing.
It’s learning to communicate, with words, and through touch.
It’s learning about sexual energy.
It’s awakening, for a man, to be the holder of space, with no expectation, simply to be present, to be a guide.
It’s expanding, in that many men have little understanding of the power of female sexuality, and when they do, how they seek to control it. It’s freeing, as many men fear this power, fear the depth of it, fear the impact it will have on them. It’s a surrender, to meeting your lover in that space, and allowing her energy to drop you both into the depths.
It’s understanding, in a way beyond words, of the vast, limitless field of pleasure and sexual energy.
It’s humbling, in knowing that this is the relative force of the universe.
It’s sacred, in that you can only approach this experience with an open heart, an open body, an awareness of the Divine Goddess.
Our healing, our growth, our learning, our expansion, as much as it’s an inner journey, is also a journey that we share.
In our experience together we find ourselves, we reflect each other, we open the space for each other.
Where we meet each other is the place we’re willing to be seen, to be met. We’ll go as deeply as we’ve been within ourselves.
And in our connection, in our experience, in our sharing, we’ll go deeper.
From that place, we look at ourselves, we expand more, inwardly.
And come together again in this continuous dance of possibility.
We hear something like Cervical Orgasm and we look for the technique, the formula, that in just 30 days, if you buy now, will make this happen.
We’ve done this with so much of our sexuality, and spirituality. Boiled it down to a technique, to a box we can put it in.
Someone asked a question on the webinar, Can I make the model squirt?
In the process of coming to an experience like Cervical Orgasm, we let go of that idea.
We allow it to arise, to happen, in a natural flow.
I think there’s a very outdated perception in that, making someone’s body do something, forcing it. Often from a place of ego, even of fear of not being enough, not being a good lover, something to prove, achieve.
There’s a journey, a process, a growing, an expanding, in our sexuality, in our pleasure, in our intimacy.
It’s within me, it’s within you, it’s within and between us.
It’s an inner dance that spreads outwards and comes back to me.
Learning about my lover, I learn about myself, exploring myself, I explore my lover.
Endlessly.
Here’s what the experience can be: ‘Stillness. Complete stillness. In the touch and in my mind. An experience unlike anything I’ve felt before- energetically, emotionally and physically.
An invitation to my yoni to open… not just to me, not just to the touch, but to life. All of life.
Not rushing. Not forcing. And when those thoughts of rush and movement came into my awareness, a surrendering, allowing the moment to be what it is. To be as it is. And suddenly, in the gentleness, in the deep deep desire, she opens. Slowly.. inching open, like a flower petal blooming…
What a different experience to open to possibility instead of to open to expectation. Like a vortex opening, not only was I drawing his touch deeper inside of me.. but I was drawing life itself deeper inside of me. Desire.. yearning… inviting all of life to penetrate me.
And in that moment, this vortex connected my yoni to my heart and to my head, creating a channel for this energy, for all life to flow through me and penetrate every cell in my body. To say yes to what is, as it is, without trying to change it, without wanting it to be different. Surrendering to the moment. It takes me deeper into meditation, deeper into my body and deeper into the depths of my soul.
It’s time to sit up. I’m feeling dazed and ‘high’, something has shifted. Something profound has happened. It’s hard to explain exactly what that is but in my body I can feel, I’m not quite the same women that arrived for this healing.’
This is changing me, changing my work, and I invite you to come and share in this beautiful journey of possibility.
There are workshops in Cape Town from 5 Sept, Johannesburg after that, and Goa in Nov.
