CONSCIOUS SEXUALITY, CONSCIOUS LIFE
There’s a definition of Conscious Sexuality that I work with that has much to offer.
It’s this, To be present during sex, and to allow whatever arises to be there.
It’s amazing how 1 element, presence, changes so much in our pleasure experience.
We come to see how that’s linked to Intimacy, Safety and Surrender, and how that’s the foundation for deep pleasure.
Presence is something all of us, men and women, want from our lovers.
It’s something we deeply desire, something we yearn for, and when it’s there, we know, we feel it in our bodies, in our hearts, in our being.
When a lover is present with us, there’s a deep part of us that relaxes, we’re seen, we’re felt, we’re acknowledged.
It’s almost like having a home, being welcomed.
And this where so much happens.
Intimacy is a quality of presence, presence creates intimacy.
And when we feel safe, which intimacy allows, we surrender.
Surrender on many levels.
We surrender our masks and armor.
We surrender control.
We surrender into vulnerability.
We surrender into revealing ourselves.
We surrender into seeing another.
We surrender into our bodies.
And we surrender into pleasure.
When someone is present with us, we are affirmed and valued.
We open, we soften.
We connect on deeper and deeper levels.
Presence is indeed an aspect of, an expression of, love.
Presence is linked to time, to making time, taking time to be with someone.
Presence is linked to time, in the space of now, not the past, not the future, present in the present moment.
Presence is the expression of attention, out of distraction.
There’s a saying, Energy flows where attention goes.
The attention of presence allows, fosters, enhances, the flow between us.
Which drops us into deeper intimacy.
Which allows greater surrender, which leads to higher states of pleasure.
There was a time in our lives when we naturally present.
As we disconnected from ourselves, as we became more in the world, in a world of increased distraction, shorter attention-spans, more and more incoming stimulation, we become less present.
In all of life.
In love and pleasure.
In this we become less intimate.
We become more distracted.
We become less relaxed.
And we become less present.
So much of this is about an inner tension, a tightness, a contraction.
So much of this is about holding on, controlling.
So much of this is about sex becoming more and more ‘functional’, meaning it’s about ticking the boxes, reaching the goal.
It’s about judging, rating the experience, rather than allowing ‘Whatever is present to arise.’
It’s actually a suppression of our inner voice, our feelings, our energy.
Which is the opposite of pleasure.
So much changes in, and with presence.
In life, in pleasure, in love.
For Conscious Sexuality is Conscious Life.
Presence, Intimacy and Surrender.
The arising of all the moment holds, and the delicious dance of the pleasure of being.
Come and learn the practices, the ways, to be present, with ourselves, with another.
I invite you…
