This week we begin 2 months of workshops in Johannesburg, Cape Town, and online.
There’s new stuff to share with you, perspectives and practices, and I am so looking forward to our time together.
We’re starting the series with The Expanded Energy Orgasm workshop, which has so much to offer.
I was thinking about this in the past few days, thinking about why it’s important.
The first question that comes from that is what makes a sexuality workshop important?
Sex is important to us. And the amount of energy, time, and effort we spend talking about sex, watching sex, trying to, and having sex, how much in our world is about sex, shows us that.
We also become aware of how important sex is in relationships, not just sex as in a penetrative experience, but pleasure, sensuality and intimacy.
And when we have a sexual issue or problem, we really become aware of its importance.
The next thing is this.
In the blurb for the workshop I talk about how it gives us a different perspective on pleasure.
What does that actually mean?
For most of us, men more than women, and there’s a generalisation here, sex is about the goal, it’s about the orgasm.
It’s about ‘Did you come, did I make you come, how good was it?’
This goal, this obsession we have, with orgasms, and orgasms are fantastic, there’s no reason we shouldn’t be having them, and part of my teaching is how to have so many different kinds of orgasms.
Which is a long-winded way of saying that the way we see orgasms takes us out of pleasure, out of presence, out of deeper experiences and possibilities.
Orgasms are pleasurable, yes they are, some more than others.
But when that’s the goal, a few things happen.
The first is that that’s the criterion by which we judge an experience. If there wasn’t an orgasm, it wasn’t ‘successful.’
We don’t think about what else might have been there, the sensations, the connection, the feeling, the energy.
The 2nd thing is that it creates pressure.
I have to come, and I have to do it in a ‘reasonable’, time. Pressure. Performance.
Takes us away from pleasure.
The next thing is that focus of the goal takes us away from exploring, discovering, experiencing, because we know what we need to get there, so we do it. And nothing else.
It limits our experience, limits the possibilities.
Expanded Energy Orgasm is about being orgasmic, being in an orgasmic state.
The first thing this does is it expands our experience.
It makes it a full-body orgasmic experience, rather than it just being localised in our genitals and pelvis.
Then it expands the time.
The longest I’ve done with someone in this experience is about 2 ½ hrs. Which is very different to the 20/30 second contractive orgasm were used to.
What EEO also gives us is a way to experience our sexual energy directly and easily.
We can use this energy for so many things, for healing, for creativity, for meditation, and for expanded states of consciousness.
This is where it gets really interesting, and even spiritual.
These ideas, and we talk about them in greater depth, expand, change, the way we see our sexual experiences to give us more ways to share, more ways to experience the delicious pleasure within us.
Then I’ve added something which always has such impact, for men and women.
A detailed Yoni Anatomy lesson.
This includes the fullness of the clitoris, the G-Spot, A-Spot, P-Spot, K-Spot and more.
We often don’t know a lot about our own bodies, as well as those of our lover.
This understanding allows us to have a more conscious, more aware, more connected relationship with our genitals, which deepens the intimacy, the pleasure and the energy we experience.
Besides all of this, which can give us so much more, is another interesting question.
Why, Why expand our pleasure? Why go deeper?
It’s a big question, with many answers.
It’s in our potential.
Many of us scratch the surface of pleasure, of feeling, of sensation, of energy, of pleasure.
Within us is the potential for more, so much more.
And life is about this potential.
In our awakening, and our awakening to pleasure, to the awareness that sensuality can bring us, is the expansion of life.
The expansion of our minds, our hearts, our bodies, our nervous systems.
We do this in so many areas of life, and sex and relationship, love, intimacy and pleasure, are often the last place we visit, if we go there.
And when we do we find so much of who we are.
One of the principles of Conscious that I share is that our sexuality is not in a vacuum. It’s in our lives, in the context of life, in the fullness of life.
Our eroticism and sensuality are our bodies, hearts and minds.
And so many of our patterns play out in our sexuality, that are not directly connected to sex.
When we have a space, and an experience to explore some of this, to heal some of the blockages, limitations and inhibitions around it, so much can change for us.
In all of life.
This is one of these spaces.
And our sexual energy becomes a way in for this to happen.
So now I’ve told you all about, well, a lot about EEO, come and join me, come and learn.
As well as going deeper into some of these ideas, we’ll also learn the practice of how to share this with a man, with a woman, and with yourself.
Let’s step into the possibility.
Join me in Johannesburg on Wed 16th Aug, Cape Town on Tues 5th Sept, and Online on Wed 23rd Aug for the Expanded Energy Orgasm Workshop.
Please DM for booking info.
