Most of us, for most of our lives, have been living with someone else’s sexual agenda.
It’s been the porn industry’s agenda, religion’s agenda, the beauty industry’s agenda, the medical agenda, the psychological agenda, a partner’s agenda, the ‘normal’ agenda, a political agenda.
And when we have sex, most of us follow an agenda, which is often not ours.
All of these are about control and conformity, and to keep us coming back for more.
For as much as sexuality has been used to control us, it can be used to free us.
These agendas are based on some of the lowest expressions of pleasure, of judgement and shame, of fitting into a box, of being sexually available in a certain way, of using certain products, of convincing us that there’s one way to be, of keeping us sexually insecure, physically, emotionally, psychologically, spiritually, energetically…
There is a path that gets us out of this agenda, someone else’s agenda, and into our own.
And then goes beyond that, beyond an agenda to a space of exploration, of discovery, of freedom.
A path that allows us go within, and then into the world of experience, to explore who we are as sexual beings, sensual beings, erotic beings.
It’s a path of questioning, everything we’ve been given about sex and pleasure.
It’s a path of asking when we are, what turns us on, what excites us, interests us, draws us, calls us.
It’s a path of coming to our sexual selves in a way that continuously expands, changes, grows, as an expression of who we are, now, at this time of life.
A path that gives us the tools to navigate the journey of change, as we change, as what we want changes, as the rest of our lives change, as our relationships change.
Taking ourselves off the agenda takes us off the expectation, off the story, off looking for a permission slip, off the justification, off the analysis.
It takes us to a place of possibility.
A place that opens us, and opens to us, in a dance of the body, the mind, the heart.
A place of open conversation and discussion, with no taboo topics.
A place of experience, and the welcoming of all that we are in this.
A place where the perfection of an agenda has been thrown away, to the presence of the moment.
A place where we don’t have to be anyone’s idea of who we should be, other than who we are.
Taking ourselves off someone’s agenda and putting us on our own, putting us in a place where we get that sexuality is a path of growth, of healing, of connecting with all that we are, changes things, a lot.
It takes us to a place where we’re deciding what’s right and what’s not, for us.
It takes us to a place where we express ourselves sensually and erotically as an endlessly creative force that moves into every part of life.
It takes us to a place where we’re able to walk with our shadow and the power it holds.
It takes us to place of a very simple, and very deep, knowing, acceptance, love and peace, of who we are
It takes courage to take ourselves off the agenda. We’ve been so deeply conditioned and patterned to stay there, to buy into it, to obey, to conform.
We’ve been so subtly, and not so subtly, manipulated into staying there.
It takes courage to begin to walk a different path.
One step at a time, if we so choose.
And what we find is a world of incredible beauty.
A world that offers us the chance to open our eyes, open our inner eyes.
Open our inner ears to connect with, to hear a voice that speaks quietly of truth.
Open our minds to exploring ideas in a way that creates possibility.
Open our bodies to a depth of sensation and feeling that we know is there, longing to experience itself.
Open our hearts to an intimacy that touches places inside of us that we’ve dreamed about.
Open ourselves to the limitless invitation of life…
