One of the aspects of our nature is to aspire, to expand, to seek.
It can be such a powerful part of who we are when it’s integrated into us with awareness.
One of the places, and ways, this expresses itself is in pleasure, in sensuality, in our sexuality.
In our seeking intensity, depth, expansion.
Searching the limitless realm of possibility.
For most of us men, our sexual experiences begin with masturbation, at whatever age we discover it.
And the way we masturbate is friction.
Hard and fast, to get to the orgasm.
When we begin having sex with others, we do the same thing.
And because we live in patterns, that becomes our sexual pattern.
This is a pattern of the body and of the mind.
We do the same thing in the same way because it works, it gets us to the place of orgasm.
When we become aware that there’s more, a whole lot, world’s more, to sex, to pleasure, the seeking, the aspiring awakens.
And so we begin, in some way, the journey to discover, to experience the more of what we see is possible.
For some of us, the focus of this is external, outside of ourselves.
It’s about another, others, different experiences, techniques…
And the more it’s purely about the external, the more we chase something that can never be satisfied, satiated and fulfilled.
The depth of our sexuality, the places we seek, are within.
It’s an inner journey, then expands outwards.
And, maybe surprisingly, the place we discover this intensity as men is not always in the hard and the fast.
It’s not always in the techniques.
It’s not, definitely not, in the performance, in the expectation, in the porn-model of sex.
It’s in the opening and softening of our bodies.
It’s in our hearts.
It’s in the connection between our genitals and our hearts.
It’s in intimacy and connection.
It’s in energy.
I have had the most intense orgasms ever, which, as part of a lifetime of exploring, teaching, learning, experiencing, in sexuality, makes this incredibly beautiful, powerful, opening, expansive, emotional, fulfilling and more.
When I look at it, look at what’s happening in myself that makes these experiences possible, that’s allowing them to happen, it comes to what I’ve shared with you.
And more than anything else, the key, the deepest key, is the heart.
My heart.
The opening of my heart.
When we become aware of sex as an energy experience, something begins to shift.
To experience energy, and to allow energy to flow in our bodies, we have to soften.
Energy can’t move in contraction.
We learn to breathe, we learn to be more present, we learn to feel more.
We give ourselves permission not to perform, to allow our body’s to be with what’s there.
We become more aware of what’s moving inside of us, how it can move, which is more than just the cock explosion most men have.
The energy within us can flow in many ways, when the channels are open.
For us to feel this, experience this, we need to unlearn what we’ve been doing, and then open and integrate new patterns.
This often begins with healing.
With a different perspective and understanding of sexuality, our sexuality, what it is, how it works, how it moves.
There’s a journey of the mind, and of the body.
We learn, and through practice, through experience, to deepen our awareness, to be more present in our body’s, to get out of the goal, to feel.
We learn how to surrender to the experience, rather than force it, chase it.
It’s a feeling, not an achievement.
When our body starts to feel more, become more sensitive, more aware, more awake, our experience deepens and expands.
The softening does this.
Friction stops us from truly feeling.
Friction is simply creating enough to explode, to release.
The softening is what allows the energy to move.
The softening is what takes us to the place of more sensation.
The softening is what intensifies the experience, and ultimately, intensifies, the orgasm.
The opening of the heart, the connection of the heart to sex, the vulnerability, the intimacy.
Those elements are the keys to the doors of a temple, an inner temple, that becomes a place of continuous discovery, exploration, and the experience of pleasure.
The opening of the heart is the receiving.
It’s the dropping of control.
It’s the dropping of masks.
It’s the dropping of illusions.
And as we do these, as we become more of our authentic selves, more of our essential selves, our pleasure, our orgasm, intensifies.
I’ve seen this in myself.
I’ve seen it in the men I’m working with.
It’s there for all of us.
And I’d love to share with with you.
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