Important Sexual Words, in a Clitoral Context

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I’d like to share some really important sexual words with you, and then put them in a specific context and experience.

Before you get all excited these may not be the words you’re expecting, and they are words to get even more excited about because they’ll help you have more sex, and more fulfilling sex.

The experience we’re going to connect these words to is something that’s come up a lot lately with people I’ve been working with, and in online discussions and questions. And once you get it in this experience you’ll be able to use it in so many ways.

And as simple as it may be, it will help you have more sex. Because, when we’re deeply pleasured and fulfilled, when we have a space to explore, when we can expand our experience, when there’s more sensation, we want more of that.

When we’re heard, when we’re acknowledged, we feel so good, something inside of us, something so important is touched, we want more of that.

And even though a lot of this is for men, it’s for everyone, and it’s for everything sensual, sensual, erotic.

The words, read them carefully, then read them again.

Harder, Faster, Slower, Softer, Left, Right, Up, Down, Change, Deeper, Shallower.

They are so sexy, even if you’re not sure of that right now.

The experience we’re going to connect them to is clitoral stimulation and touch.

 

We’re not taught sexual communication.

We’re not taught how to ask for what we want, and we’re not taught to ask our partner’s what they want. It can be a minefield, and a big part of that is in our own minds.

And what’s interesting is that when we do know how to talk about what we want and like, do we know how to listen, hear, receive what we’re being told? Really take it in.

We have a lot beliefs like ‘I know how this is supposed to be, I should know how to do this, I’ve done it before and it worked, (or you think it did), he should know how to do this, she should know how to do this, if she didn’t like it she’d say so, she knows what she likes, I saw it in porn and it looked good, I don’t know what else to do so I’ll do what I know…’

So let’s put it in the context of clitoral stimulation.

Make time to have a ‘learning experience’.

Talk about it first. A clear discussion, clear boundaries create safety.

Create a space, warm, comfortable.

Have lube or oil. Clitoris’s, clitori, do not self-lubricate.

Begin with looking into each other’s eyes, breathe into your heart. This brings you into the space of presence, it creates intimacy. You begin to relax.

In the understanding that this is learning about each other, about exploring, there’s no pressure, there’s no performance. Just the opposite. It’s about sensation, feeling, not going anywhere other than here, right here, right now.

Kiss, touch, as much as you both want.

Sit between your partner’s legs, lie next to her, anyway that’s comfortable.

Spread some lube on her Yoni.

Stroke all around her Yoni, her lips. Take time.

Begin touching her clitoris through the hood, on the sides.

Ask her if she’d like you to touch softer, or slower, she only needs to say yes.

Ask her if she’d like you to move, left, right, up or down.

She only needs to say yes.

Ask her if she’d like you to move to a different spot.

Every time you move your fingers, every time you do something different, ask.

Harder, faster, slower, softer, left, right, up, down, move, change.

You can make circles, you can go up and down, you can go across. The letters of the alphabet can feel fantastic. Figure 8, and on its side can feel amazing. You can squeeze, gently. You can pulsate your finger on her clitoris.

Ask. Listen. Know that sometimes 2 millimetres can be the difference between something feeling good and feeling, oh, oh, don’t stop, just there, just like that, ohhhh!

Let the experience end the way she would like it to. This is where safety becomes so important.

 

As you understand this, you’ll see how you can use it in so many other ways, touching his Lingam, oral pleasure, penetrative sex, touch, kissing, anal stimulation etc. It also opens the door to ore open communication about so many aspects of sex, pleasure and relationship.

 

I said this would help you have more sex, how you may ask?

I said it already, I’ll say it again.

When we’re deeply pleasured and fulfilled, when we have a space to explore, when we can expand our experience, when there’s more sensation, we want more of that.

When we’re heard, when we’re acknowledged, we feel so good, something inside of us, something so important is touched, we want more of that.

 

I’d love to hear about your experiences with this, please message or mail and let me know.