I’d like to share a part of my story with you.
This happened a long time ago.
I’d been doing this work for a little while and a couple contacted me about learning something, I think Expanded Orgasm.
We spent a wonderful evening in a hotel room, sharing, talking.
They invited me to meet the owner of an adult fantasy club, a swinger’s club.
Off I go to the club, and thought I’d found a slice of paradise.
It didn’t take long for the cracks in paradise to begin to appear, but that part of the story is for another day.
I started doing massage there, Yoni Massage, and on rare occasions, Lingam Massge.
This was an important space for me, that had an opportunity for so much learning, in a way that very few people have.
In a way that I got to learn, see, hear, experience, first hand, up close, down, and sometimes dirty.
The other thing about the environment which was amazing was the amount of people, the amount of bodies I got to massage.
The level of experience this gave, so early in my journey, was really mind-opening.
To be able to explore touch, energy, pleasure, in so many ways was invaluable.
To create experiences, to see how they worked, what didn’t, to refine and learn.
To be able to go deeper and deeper.
To spend that time, so open, with men and women, in so many different configurations of relationship and connection.
At the same time I was on a spiritual journey, learning all that I could, and over time, bringing them together.
There were times when that was not easy, how these worlds fit together, which is also a continuous exploration, discovering new perspectives.
The learning continues to this day, the exploration, the creation of new experiences.
I’m no longer, haven’t been a part of that world, for a very long time. And I’m grateful for what it gave me, in such a real, practical and close-up way.
The difference between the theory and the reality, the people who know from the body rather than just the mind is big.
There’s a lot about Yoni Massage, so much, and so much more than we can share here.
I talk a lot about how limitless the world of touch is, how limitless the body is, how limitless sexual energy is, and how limitless pleasure is.
How much these experiences are portals to something so much more, something so much deeper.
How this is a space where the body, heart and spirit come together.
There is not 1 Yoni Massage.
That’s so important.
And I’m going to digress for a moment.
Just because it’s called Yoni Massage doesn’t necessarily make it so.
It’s become a buzzword, a tag for so many people to hang something on.
There is not 1 Yoni Massage.
There are many experiences, layers, sensations, energies.
Intentions, healings, awakenings.
A lot of what’s called Yoni Massage is actually p**** massage, elevated p**** massage.
Now, before we throw the baby away with the bathwater, which I have done a lot of, and that has been painful.
This is generally pretty technique-based, orgasm oriented massage.
And if a man has taken some time to learn some anatomy, some techniques, and a woman has greater pleasure, that’s a good start. Especially as so many women experience mediocre pleasure. And I think women should demand more, in pleasure, in love.
And especially as so many men know pretty little about Yoni anatomy and pleasure.
Here’s something, for now, as this is a big topic that we’re coming back to a lot.
We have to think beyond orgasm, beyond pleasure.
We have to look at the body, energy, touch, connection, in different and expanded ways.
We have to look at what words like sacred, spiritual and worship actually mean in this context.
Writing this brings me to look at what I do, and how we need to keep asking, exploring, connecting.
I love to share, to share what I’ve learned.
Share through words, through touch, through experience.
I invite you…
