Let The Orgasm Be The Beggining

 

 

 

Let the orgasm be the beginning of lovemaking, not the end.
Let the orgasm be the gateway to a world of pleasure, not the end.
Let the orgasm be the first step on the path of ecstasy, not the end of the journey.

The way we generally view orgasm limits our experience of it in so many ways.
Firstly, orgasm is a trap.
We’ve made it the goal of sex, the be-all and end-all. Sex has so many possibilities and goals. The more we focus on orgasm as the goal, the more we miss what else could be there.
Next, when we’re focusing on the orgasm, we focus on what we have to do to get there. Reaching that, making that happen, takes us out of the moment, out of being present, away from the feelings and sensations, the emotions that are there now.
Then there’s the pressure. When it’s only about the orgasm there’s pressure to perform. We both have to buy into that. I have to make you come, you have to agree to it. It’s something to achieve. And if it doesn’t happen, we’ve failed.
Lastly there’s the patterning, the conditioning that says this is what sex is about.
All of these contribute to the limitations of pleasure.
And as I discover, again and again, pleasure is limitless.

So Let the orgasm be the beginning…

Then we can begin to make love, to explore, to get lost in sensation, in feeling, in emotion.
Then we can begin to feel the sexual energy, to walk its endless paths and its mysteries.
We can learn its language, subtleties and nuances.

Let the orgasm be the beginning of lovemaking, not the end.
Let the orgasm be the gateway to a world of pleasure, not the end.
Let the orgasm be the first step on the path of ecstasy, not the end of the journey.

The way we generally view orgasm limits our experience of it in so many ways.
Firstly, orgasm is a trap.
We’ve made it the goal of sex, the be-all and end-all. Sex has so many possibilities and goals. The more we focus on orgasm as the goal, the more we miss what else could be there.
Next, when we’re focusing on the orgasm, we focus on what we have to do to get there. Reaching that, making that happen, takes us out of the moment, out of being present, away from the feelings and sensations, the emotions that are there now.
Then there’s the pressure. When it’s only about the orgasm there’s pressure to perform. We both have to buy into that. I have to make you come, you have to agree to it. It’s something to achieve. And if it doesn’t happen, we’ve failed.
Lastly there’s the patterning, the conditioning that says this is what sex is about.
All of these contribute to the limitations of pleasure.
And as I discover, again and again, pleasure is limitless.

So Let the orgasm be the beginning…

Then we can begin to make love, to explore, to get lost in sensation, in feeling, in emotion.
Then we can begin to feel the sexual energy, to walk its endless paths and its mysteries.
We can learn its language, subtleties and nuances.

We can explore each other’s bodies. We can learn every crease and curve. We can see, with a smile, what brings a shiver, what causes goose-bumps, what draws a gasp of pleasure.

Then we can take time to be present. We can slow down to the moment. This is the space of intimacy and connection. This is heart space.

We can feel the fire. All of it. From the spark to the flame to the inferno.
It can burn through us, burn us away to nothing. And in nothing we connect to everything.

Then we can be in the poetry of sex. We can create it, again and again, different every time. A new story every day.

We can peel the layers away, go deeper into ourselves, into each other, into our sexual authenticity. As the layers drop we see and feel more, and yet more. The richness of revelation opens us to the field of possibility.

We can then see the precious value of the journey, the wonders on the way.

We can free ourselves to soar beyond our boundaries, beyond our beliefs.

Then we can move out if expectation into allowing. We can experience what is, what we’re feeling.

We can move closer to the essence of sex. Our understanding grows through experience. The more we allow ourselves to experience with consciousness, the more we come to learn.

Then we can allow the laughter and joy that sex brings. As well as the tears and the sadness of the heart.

So we can bathe in the ecstasy and bliss of deep love and pleasure.

Then our sex may be sacred, coming together as God and Goddess in the holy act of love.

When the orgasm is just the beginning we become more conscious during sex. There’s intention and purpose.

Orgasm is often a narrowing, a contraction, an ending. When we’re willing to make orgasm the beginning it becomes an expansion, an opening. And the opening is to worlds of pleasure, worlds of possibility…