There’s a pattern we tend to have with a clitoris.
When we find it, which for some people is still a challenge.
It’s a pattern with your own, and with someone else’s.
When we find it we rub it, lick it, hard, harder, fast, faster.
To get to the orgasm.
To make someone come.
And generally we try and do it as quickly as we can.
Part of this pattern is the connection between clitoris and orgasm.
Which of course it is.
And there’s more, a whole lot more.
This pearl of pleasure, this jewel, this sacred bud, has so much more to offer, to give.
Learning to make clitoral love opens doors of sensation that are so delicious, so subtle, so intense.
Learning to make clitoral love opens doors of feeling that are so deep, so beautiful, so transformative.
Learning to make clitoral love opens doors of energy that are so rich, so vast, so magical.
Orgasms are good, fantastic, wonderful, nice…
So many things.
And we should have the most amazing orgasms, which not all of us do.
And some of us, for many reasons, struggle to, don’t.
I talk about the difference between orgasm and pleasure.
Which is not to say that orgasms are not pleasurable, they’re not always though.
The pattern most of us bring to clitoral stimulation is the goal of orgasm.
The goal often keeps us from feeling the fullness of sensation, of energy.
It keeps us from being fully present, because we’re focused on reaching the point of orgasm, it’s there not here.
The goal often comes with a level of pressure, of judgement.
It’s become the criterion by which we see the experience as being successful, or not.
It’s become linked to our sexual ego, to our sexual competence, both in giving and receiving.
Making clitoral love opens the door to a limitless world of pleasure, of feeling, of energy, of sensation.
It’s understanding that this amazing mystery-filled organ with its thousands upon thousands of nerves and connections has the possibility of so much more.
Making clitoral love is making love.
It’s touching, kissing, licking, with care, with tenderness, with presence.
It’s about exploring, discovering.
It’s about communicating, learning.
On a life-long journey of pleasure.
Making clitoral love is learning to dance with your body, with your lover’s body in a way that’s an expression of your heart.
It’s touching in a way that opens the pathways of pleasure in the body to endless delight.
It’s touching in a way that allows waves of energy to move from that point through the entire body, each one carrying different sensations.
Making clitoral love is learning about the power of sexuality.
Making clitoral love allows us to become orgasmic, which is an expanded state, rather than the contractive orgasm.
The orgasmic state lasts in the body, sometimes for hours, or even days.
And making clitoral love allows orgasms to arise, which becomes a different experience to what we’re used to.
Making clitoral love expands the pattern of the way we sex into a kaleidoscope of endless and ever-changing experiences of pleasure.
