My Nurtured Cock

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There is a practice that I teach in workshops and on healing journeys.

It’s a practice of creating a conscious relationship with your genitals. The relationship most of us have with our genitals is, at best, at best, functional. Which means that we’re concerned that everything works.

I sat at best, because the relationship most of us have is one of disconnect and judgment.

 

The practice I teach is for men and women and brings deep healing to this relationship. The first part is a ritual greeting and connecting with your genitals.

The second is allowing your genitals to tell you their story.

This is where the hurt, the judgment, the limitation, the inhibition, the disconnect is revealed. This is the beginning of the healing.

 

Over the past weeks I’ve had some deep conversations with my cock. We’ve gone to so many places, some known, some surprising.

And a few days ago something was on the edge of this, undefined.

It brought a sadness to me, a sadness I couldn’t move, a heaviness to my spirit.

I sat with it, allowed it to deepen. And deepen it did.

The awareness came slowly, took some time to emerge.

 

My cock had never felt nurtured.

Tears came.

My tears, and I felt the tears of so many men.

 

Here’s me, teacher of sexuality, a master in pleasuring women, a master of sexual control.

Energy open in my body, heart and cock connected.

And he has never felt nurtured, gentle.

At times worshipped, yes. Worshipped for the pleasure he gave, worshipped for the energy he held, worshipped for the performance.

And on very few occasions, in lingam worshipping ceremonies, acknowledged and appreciated.

Never deeply nurtured.

 

The nurturing is celebrating the cock in every aspect.

Soft and quiet.

Holding him, in your hands in your mouth, in your yoni with nothing other than holding him.

No performance.

No erection.

No orgasm.

Holding this beautiful aspect of a man and helping him be.

Not do.

Not move, not fuck, not come.

Be.

Honoring the beingness.

There’s such a coming together in this, of the inner elements that make up a man. Such an acknowledgment of the feminine aspect, the softness, the receiving.

It’s an opening, an opening of the body to the heart.

It’s an opening of the body to the Goddess.

It’s an opening of the body to surrender.

It’s an opening of the body to love.

 

So many men don’t know how to receive love, what it is to be loved.

So many men don’t know how to be open.

Our fire, our masculine might, our honoring of the masculine in the world is so distorted.

 

In the softness, in the receiving, something different will emerge.

Man in harmony.

Man in harmony with himself, with the world.

Man who honours himself, honours life, and is honored by life.

Man whose energy flows, openly, freely, joyfully.

 

From this a sexual fire will burn in a way that will show you what a man is, what a sexual god is, what a Conscious Cock is.

 

From allowing ourselves to be nurtured, allowing ourselves to open, open more, and open more. To reveal ourselves, lay ourselves bare. To be seen.

And to be held in this.

 

No performance, no achievement.

Being.

 

And so much possibility when our cock feels nurtured.

 

The Practice

 

Begin with some Heart Breathing, 5 minutes to become more present in the body, connect and relax.

Hold your, or his cock, gently in your hands, cover it.

Hold.

Don’t move.

Breathe.

Allow whatever emerges to be there.

And if it’s just relaxing, nothing coming up, just be there.

Hold for 5 – 10 mins.

Slowly release and rest your hand on his heart centre.

Do this for 5 days.

 

The next step, start in the same way.

Then, very very slowly, very very gently, touch, caress his or your cock. Slower than you think you can.

If you get aroused, let it be there, breathe, slow down.

Allow whatever emerges to be there.

Do this for 5-10 minutes.

Hold for a minute.

Breathe.

Hold his or your heart.

Do this for 5 days.