So many of us, with not many exceptions, hold a Genital Judgement.
Against ourselves, and others, partners, lovers.
It’s not ours, not naturally.
It was given to us, by so many industries.
And reinforced by them pretty much daily in some way.
And, in this judgement of our genitals, we judge our sexuality, our pleasure, our eroticism.
We judge the part of ourselves that’s the source of our life-force, our vitality, our creativity.
It has a direct impact on our sexuality, pleasure and eroticism.
It has a direct impact on our self-definition.
It has a direct impact on the relationship we have with our bodies, our hearts, our relationships.
It’s connected with the way we love, the way we explore, the way we feel.
It generally keeps us insecure, wanting, lost, and susceptible.
It comes from our parents and families, from school, the industries of religion, beauty, medicine, psychology, new-age, porn, movies, media, even the Tantra world…
Which makes it pretty hard to escape, and escape unscathed.
Sometimes it’s subtle, sometimes overt.
It runs deep.
And it touches our bodies, hearts and minds.
reflected in words, in actions, in distraction, in how we are as lovers, as lovers.
Because they’re not separate.
It’s about the way we look, feel, taste, smell, function, perform, act, feel, allow, give, receive.
It’s been put on us to keep us from freedom, from power, from pleasure.
From our Source, from our bodies and beautiful, mysterious, wonder-full, and sacred genitals.
Which, it’s important to say, are nor more sacred than our hands, our eyes, our mouths.
It’s just that our genitals have been given such power, partly because there is such power there.
So many of our fears, our disconnects, our insecurities come from these judgements.
It’s amazing how such a small part of our bodies, have such power.
Because these small folds of flesh are portals to so much.
So much of our nervous system sits there, our emotional system, energy pathways that connect to our hearts, and something spiritual…
Releasing these judgements frees us from so much, so many inhibitions, limitations, contractions, tensions begin to dissolve and melt.
That are connected to the way we feel about ourselves, deep inside, not only sexually, the way we feel about and connect to our lovers.
These judgements are connected to an inner peace, an acceptance of ourselves on so many levels, that come through in so ways.
In a quiet confidence within us that allows an expression of ease within us.
It’s linked to our vitality, life-force and creativity.
The creativity is vital, and it’s not only an artistic expression, but creating our lives, relationships, world…
It’s deeply connected to a wholeness, a fullness, of who we are.
As one element reflects the whole, and the whole cannot be complete with its parts disconnected.
It’s such a seemingly small disconnect, with huge and deep implications.
It’s given us, at best, a functional relationship with our genitals.
At best.
Functional, in that everything works.
And for so many of us, a relationship of judgement, disconnect, alienation, even self-loathing.
In 30 years of doing this work, the practices of releasing these judgements, coming to connect with, know, make friends with, like, become intimate with, love, adore, these parts of ourselves, make such a difference to the rest of, the whole of who we are.
Come and share, explore, connect.
I invite you…
