We’ve been talking about Soft-C&ck Sex, and something emerged as I was thinking about this.
Soft-C&ck S*x, Soft-Heart S*x.
And this doesn’t necessarily mean not having an erection.
It’s about the quality that’s within us, and the quality of lovemaking that’s expressed.
For so many men one of the greatest sexual disconnects we have is between our Lingams and our Hearts.
Part of this is the idea of sex being about the way we perform, and the pressure that this has created within us.
Part of this is the idea that sex is more about friction and orgasm than anything else.
Part of this is the lack of awareness of the connection between genitals and heart.
Part of this is the lack of awareness that sex is an energy experience.
Part of this is the idea we’ve been given that so much of our sexual definition is in a hard erection, and the failure we are without that.
I said that soft sex is not necessarily about not having an erection, rather the quality within that.
When my c&ck is hard, and it’s connected to my heart, the quality of lovemaking is different.
In fact, this is where it shifts from sex to making love.
When my c&ck is hard, and it’s expressing the energy of my heart, the tenderness of love, the quality of making love is different.
When my c&ck is hard, and it’s an expression of energy, the quality of lovemaking is different.
When my c&ck is hard, and I’m aware of your body welcoming me, receiving me, the quality of lovemaking is different.
When this quality of inner softness is present, it’s a greater expression of intimacy, of presence.
And then, whether I have an erection or not, the experience is greater than that.
It’s about the feeling, the sensation, the energy, the connection.
It’s about you and I, and the loving present.
A way to understand the idea of the quality, and so many qualities we can bring to our lovemaking, is to look at the elements.
This was expressed so beautifully recently in a series of Biodanza classes my friend Christos facilitated on the elements.
The element of fire in a dance can be fast and hard and vigorous. It can also be soft and slow, undulating like flames, sensually, warming, comforting.
Everything we do, especially sensually, sexually, has so many different possibilities of expression.
We can be hard, our c&cks, and soft connected and open.
We can be soft in our body, and hard, closed, disconnected, judging in our hearts.
The awareness we bring, where we are, the relationship we have with our bodies, with ourselves, with our sexuality.
This is what’s important.
The connection we have with our lovers, the intimacy, the caring, the pleasure.
This is what’s important.
The invitation to express ourselves, to discover ourselves, endlessly.
This is what’s important.
The possibility in every moment of pleasure.
This is what’s important.
