A while ago I shared an idea I had with a group I have.
It was to write a piece of erotica/sensuality in 20 words or less.
There was some delicious sharing in this, and it made me think about something.
20 words is a quickie.
Which made me think about quickies, about how exciting they can be.
And how often we think quickies are not really part of, don’t really fit in, the world of Conscious Sexuality, Spiritual Sexuality.
A quickie doesn’t have the elements of creating a space, greeting each other, building energy, slow touch, savouring the afterglow…
There is an element that we can put in a quickie, that’s so important.
Connection.
When we learn how to connect, we can do this quickly.
The next element of a quickie is energy.
When we learn about sexual energy, we can build this quickly in the body, light a fire of desire and passion that burns hot and bright, fast.
The next element is one of the most important.
And one of the most important aspects of being a good lover.
It’s also the one we learn the least about, because it’s an internal thing.
It’s not a technique, it’s not a performance, it’s not making something happen.
It’s presence.
And when we get that, when we get the power of presence, quickies, as well as all the other stuff we do, becomes so exciting, fulfilling, expanding, pleasurable…
You see, presence is one of the things that we often call ‘a sexual secret’.
And we love that idea, a secret.
Why it’s a hard thing for us, is that presence is an inner thing.
It’s not a technique or practice, it’s not a pleasure point we learn about, it’s not robotic – doing the same thing with everyone.
It’s being in the moment of experience.
Coming into presence is more of an awakening, an inner journey of growth, learning and depth.
And knowing how the moment changes.
Now fiery and fast, now soft and slow and gentle.
And changing from breath to breath.
Presence allows us to ride these waves.
And presence is one of the most important aspects of awareness, consciousness and spirituality.
I teach a lot of micro-practices, sensual practices, micro-meditations, which are powerful, and are so effective at teaching us about presence.
These are spiritual practices.
And a quickie, with anticipation, with energy, with presence, can be the same.
So delicious, so intimate, so exciting, so loving, so pleasure-filled…
Come and learn, come and explore, I invite you…
