There is something I’ve seen for years in my work, in our sessions, and on the workshops.
Conscious Sensual Touch creates authentic connection.
Which is what so many of us are longing for.
And which so many of us find uncomfortable.
Conscious Sensual Touch is revealing, even when the mind is not consciously aware of it.
It’s revealing in the feeling, in the conversation of the body, in a deeper awareness inside of us.
Touch in this way is one of the languages of the body. One of the unspoken languages that we know, hear, feel, with our bodies, with our hearts.
It’s almost an indescribable knowing, so difficult to put into words, yet we feel it.
The vulnerability of this connection, the openness, the intimacy that is expressed naturally in this touch is Its power.
And as much as we want it, the fear of it is that it reveals us in ways we can’t hide or control.
Our touch, the giving of that, the receiving, the sharing, is the channel.
Our openness, our withholding, are all there.
And when we listen with that inner awareness, we know.
Often, we’d rather bypass this touch with the desire for sex.
It’s too much, the intimacy.
There are a few lines from a song, Sometimes When We Touch, ‘And sometimes when we touch, The honesty’s too much, And I have to close my eyes and hide’.
Eyes-closed sex, chasing orgasm sex, friction sex, release sex, is easier than intimacy.
Not as a judgement, as an experience of a different kind, a different level.
Sex can be that intimate, we do need to have it, do it, differently for that level of intimacy.
We can’t hide in touch. The body knows.
The interesting thing is that the more time we spend in this touch, the deeper the sexual pleasure becomes.
This touch allows the body to feel more sensation, become more sensitive, more open to giving and receiving.
It allows energy to flow in the body, which means the sexual energy is not just in our genitals and pelvis, it moves through us, expanding and enhancing the pleasure.
It also increases desire for touch, sensation, pleasure.
Conscious Sensual Touch is a pathway for depth of connection.
The elements of presence, of not chasing, of not ending, of not trying to make anything happen, perform, get it right, create the space for this.
The intention of touch in this way opens a ritual. Not necessarily with a lot of paraphernalia, that’s extra.
Simple presence.
An offering of my hands, of my heart.
An offering of tenderness, of care, of soothing, of healing, of relaxing, simply by its nature.
Conscious, Sensual, Touch.
Those are the words of the prayer, the poem, the story.
Those are the words of the invitation.
For you to reveal yourself to me, me to you, in and through touch.
And in this, we connect in deeper and deeper places and spaces
We expand, naturally, into an essence of intimacy.
The intimacy that Conscious Sensual Touch offers has no story, no explanation, no meaning, other than it is.
It’s being rather than doing.
In this, we’re sensual beings, rather than doers.
What we do flows naturally from within us.
It’s a mind-shift, a body-shift, a time-shift.
(Orgasm oriented sex is time driven, it can’t take too long, can’t be too complex, ask too much of us).
Conscious Sensual Touch as a path of, and to, intimacy is direct, immediate and lingering.
It’s subtle and intense.
Endlessly creative and comforting.
The exploration and experience of this is more of an awakening than a learning, because it’s within us. It’s waiting for us to let it out to play.
And in all the seriousness of life, in all the seriousness we’ve given to sex, all the judgement and shame and inhibition and fear, this is a path of liberation and play.
For years I’ve seen how freeing it is, how connecting it is.
And I invite you, come and experience, come and awaken.
Fri 8 May, Connection for Touch. Sat 9 May, Conscious Sensual Massage.
