THE BEAUTIFUL ART OF BECOMING A SACRED LOVER

This week I’m sharing a webinar which includes some of the oral pleasure and penetrative practices.
When we do this, and we look at going deeper, beyond the technique, phrases like sacred sexuality, sacred pleasure, YoniLingam worship come up.
They’re phrases we sometimes bandy about without really considering them, and what they mean.

For me, the first thing is that there isn’t a boxed, absolutely defined label of what makes an experience, and a pleasure experience, sacred.
The sacred holds mystery and wonder, it’s ethereal, moving, dancing.
The clues are in the elements of the sacred, intention, presence, energy, surrender, openness, allowing, intimacy, the practice.
The experience is the doorway in to the sacred space.
It’s an inner space first, then it becomes a shared space.
The inner space begins with the intention. If we put that in a pleasure context, what is the intention?

Maybe to come into the space, into the experience with you as one of the highest expressions of myself.
Maybe to open myself, through my heart, my body, to allow something to flow through me, from a deeper place than a goal.
Maybe to surrender to what the moment has, to what arises, what emerges, rather than trying to make something happen, direct it, have an outcome.
Maybe to  open myself, ourselves, to the possibility that the experience, the feelings, the sensations, may open us to a transcendent state.
Maybe to touch, in whatever way we’re doing that, as a prayer, from a place in me that knows its Divinity, and allowing you to feel that within you.
Maybe to be so present that the moment is all that there is.
Maybe to be so present that the place of connection of our bodies, and all it holds, is all that exists.
Maybe to surrender to the presence of God and Goddess enough to feel union with that energy.
Maybe that the experience is not one of someone doing something to another, rather engaged in a cosmic dance of celebration, of love, of pleasure, that elevates us to a higher frequency.
Maybe it’s a conversation of bodies and hearts, through the sensation, the touch, that opens a portal to a higher state of consciousness, and the gifts, the wisdom it may hold for us.
Maybe it’s an experience of such love that it allows deep healing and release, bringing us to deeper wholeness.
Maybe in its vulnerability it releases walls, masks, labels, definitions, for us to see more of the essence of who we are.
Maybe…

For many of us, this journey of being an Amazingly Skillful Lover, as I’ve called this event, is needing to, wanting to, know more, learn more.
Which is fantastic!
And for many of us that’s about techniques.
Which is great!
Learning to give our partners more pleasure is fabulous, as we get very little education for pleasure.
And then at some point, if we wake up to possibility, we learn that  we actually need to know less.
And we need to know more, in a different way.

What does that mean?
A while ago I shared a Yoni Pleasure Massage with a woman on a healing journey.
She went home and told her husband about the experience. He asked,’Can Jonti teach me that?’
Meaning the technique.
Of course you can learn that.
The feeling, the energy, the sensitivity, the intention, the presence, the intimacy, the heart, and deeper, into the worship, the sacred, that’s an awakening.
No-one can teach you that.
That’s an inner journey.

And that’s where we need to know less, or let go of the technique, to understand that that’s simply the beginning, as important as it is.
That’s just the way in.
Following the techniques, and we are going to share these, because they give us a lot, and the information is vital.
Following the technique becomes about the goal, which is mostly the orgasm.
Which is great, because if it’s just about that, just about the pleasure, make it the best it can be.
Don’t do, don’t settle for mediocre, unfulfilled, half-hearted pleasure.
Make it fantastic, amazing, wow!

Then know that there’s so much more.
And that’s where the learning really begins
Learning who we are as lovers, learning who we are as sensual beings, sexual beings, erotic beings.
Learning who we are as energetic beings, Learning who we are as sacred beings.
The learning is at first an unlearning, of the patterns and beliefs, the misinformation, the myths, about pleasure.
Then about ourselves.
And in the unlearning there is so much healing.
Then an exploration of ourselves, of each other, of possibility.

Wherever you are on this journey, I invite you to share with us.
We’re going from technique to energy, from the physical to energy, from sensation to subtlety, from desire to worship, from the body, the heart, to the sacred.