There’s a part of sex, a part of lovemaking that so many of us miss out on.
It’s a part of the experience that is so rich, so intimate, has so many qualities and gifts.
Sometimes we call it after-glow.
Which is appropriate.
It glows, from within us, from our bodies, from our hearts.
It suffuses us with a glow, a warmth, an inner light, that connects us, surrounds us.
We miss this, and the beauty it has to offer us, because we think it’s done, finished.
We miss this because we disconnect.
On one level it’s that simple.
We disconnect, we withdraw.
Especially when our sex is particularly goal-oriented, orgasm driven.
When we’re in that mind set, once we reach that place, once the orgasm’s happened, we’re done.
And we disconnect.
Not that we’re all that present anyway, if that’s the way we are having sex.
In that moment, we disconnect, which for many men is falling asleep.
The disconnect takes us out of whatever level of presence and connection we have.
Out of the beautiful, gentle, tender after-glow.
To stay present, to stay connected, to stay in the intimacy requires an awareness from us.
To stay present is to stay in the delicious tidal pool of slowing sensations, of settling energies, of dissolving feelings.
In this softly moving liquid space, we stay open, we stay vulnerable.
We stay in the web of intimacy that our lovemaking wove between us.
We stay in the open channel between our hearts.
We stay in the synchronous pulsation of our bodies.
We stay in the gentle, powerful vibration of love.
And in this space, the gifts of the after-glow emerge.
For this is a pathway to expanded states of consciousness.
It’s a space of deep relaxation, where we become quiet enough to hear our inner voice.
For a deeper connection within ourselves, for a wisdom of the body to emerge.
And for what’s between us, to weave us into a deeper conversation of intimacy.
There’s a knowing in the soft light of the after-glow.
We stay connected with our eyes, we stay connected with our breath.
We stay connected with our touch.
It takes awareness to stay connected in this way, it takes presence to stay present.
The after-glow invites us into its presence with a soft heart, with an open belIy.
It invites us to look at each other with eyes that see more, in their gentle gaze.
This is a space of power, a whispering power, sharing its secrets with us.
This is a mystical space, where the energy of our lovemaking opens a portal for us, to show us the magic of pleasure.
We, hopefully, put so much energy into the before making love, the foreplay, without realizing how much there is the after-glow.
This inner light of love, inner light of possibility.
