One of the meanings of Tantra is Weaving the Loom.
I love that, and keep coming to it in so many aspects of life.
One of these ‘stories’ came to me this morning.
I love how one idea, one thread, connects to another to another, and a ‘picture’ emerges.
Here are some of this morning’s threads.
The first was that there is The Sex Expo coming up in Nov. I’ve been involved, giving talks and demos at every one of these.
For the past few years we’ve presented The Theatre of the Erotic, live Yoni and Lingam, Sensual Bondage Massage demos.
These have been experiences that have challenged some people, entranced some, confused some, opened doors for some, left some in disbelief and awakened desire in some…
I’m probably going to be involved in this expo, with the question, What am I going to do there.
What we’ve done before does not interest me much at the moment.
From this comes the idea of showing, sharing, some of the experiences and practices that are more about sensuality and sex.
Less of the hype, less of the purely sexual.
More sensuality, more intimacy.
Which really brings some amazing possibilities to mind.
And what’s interesting is that they may be even more challenging to see than the more blatant sexual energy experiences.
The next thread was that so many people who come and do work, healing, learning,
experiencing, are looking more for intimacy than anything else, for connection.
It’s more about the heart, more about in the context of life.
The sexual part, the orgasm part, the ‘just pleasure’ part, is the easiest one.
It’s also the most surface one.
And often the emptiness.
It’s the path of the hungry, that often just wants a quick moment of satisfaction, not really fulfilling.
And so we, many of us, want to go deeper.
And that’s where it really begins.
The extension of that is that many people come to this work thinking it’s all about sex.
All about technique, all about information.
It’s really about presence, intimacy and energy.
Without that the techniques, the practices, the experiences become empty, robotic, patterned.
The next thread, and this was a big awareness, was about intimacy.
We talk a lot about sexual awakening, something I share with many women, and men.
Then this phrase emerged into my conscious mind.
Intimacy Awakening.
It’s the layer below the sexual awakening.
It’s the layer that invites us into so much more.
It’s the layer that connects the body to the heart, to energy, and ultimately to the deeper realms of spirit.
Intimacy Awakening.
This is often what we’re really looking for, what we’re craving, what we’re hungry for.
To be seen, to be felt, to be acknowledged, to be met.
To have the freedom to love, to be loved.
To be met.
To grow, to expand, into all of life.
Sexuality, sensuality, eroticism, can be a path to this, when they’re woven in, around, through, with, intimacy.
We tend to confuse sex with intimacy. Until we know differently.
And when we know, which is only through experience, only through the body, only through feeling.
When we know, we know deep inside with.
With an awareness that makes what we want clear.
Intimacy Awakening
Heart awakening, opening.
What is intimacy, what are the elements of intimacy, how do we express these in ourselves, in life, in love, in pleasure?
What are the stories we have about intimacy, about the way it is, can be?
What’s the freedom, what are the possibilities of intimacy?
This is really what we’re longing for.
And the body, sex, touch, pleasure, is indeed a pathway to this.
Just not in the way we’ve experienced that.
It needs more.
Intimacy is the inner quality, the richness that animates, vitalises, suffuses the sexuality with awareness.
When I look at the world, at the way sex is presented, at the way most of us have sex.
The porn model, the Hollywood/Movie/TV/Media model.
The hookup model.
The performative model.
The body-ccount model.
The orgasm obsessed model.
The disconnected model.
It’s designed to keep us from intimacy.
It’s designed to keep us from ourselves.
It keeps us chasing, keeps us wanting more hype, more intensity, more thrills, until it collapses.
To start the cycle again.
Intimacy Awakening offers us a different path.
A path of presence, of connection.
A path of healing from deep within ourselves.
A path of transformation, of creativity, of vitality.
A path that can lead to the sacred of sexuality.
A path of exploring, knowing, connecting with ourselves.
A path of love, expressed in many ways.
I invite you to this path…
And if you’d like to be involved with this at the Expo, let’s talk, it’s an amazing adventure…
