I had a play session with a lover a while ago that was just that, play.
We were giggling and laughing, hooting in delight.
We were growling and biting and tickling.
We were rolling around wrestling.
We were serious.
We were in each other’s eyes, looking so deep.
We were tender and gentle.
We were quiet and resting.
We were passionate and sweaty…
It was play, in so many ways.
It was delighting in ourselves, in each other.
It was spontaneously going though different waves of sensation.
It was deeply connecting, intimate.
It was encouraging each other, taking each other deeper, higher.
It was opening each other, to each other.
It was energetic and loud and noisy.
It was quiet and soft, gentle and slow.
It was fire and water, it was coming back to the earth of ourselves, then rising again.
It was play.
It was fun and arousing, erotic and hot, tender and loving.
It went on and on, and eventually the energy settled.
It didn’t have a goal, in the way so many sexual experiences do.
It wasn’t about getting anywhere, going anywhere.
It wasn’t about an end, the ending.
It was just play.
We don’t do that much, us adults, in the seriousness of life.
Especially when it comes to sex, to sensuality, to eroticism.
And often in the world of Neo-Tantra and Conscious Sexuality, we take it very seriously.
You gotta breathe right, make the right movements, have the right energy flowing in the right way so your body responds in the right way.
You gotta do it this way or that, have the right words, the right props.
You gotta make sure you don’t do that, because, well, we don’t.
I’m going to give something away here.
On The Erotic Encounter, one of the retreats I offer, and BTW, I’m slipping a quick ad in here, there’s one coming up in January, we have a pillow fight.
It’s one of the most joyful, releasing, energizing, freeing, laughing, practices.
It’s so sensual.
And the feeling that comes with it, sheer joy.
Play frees us.
Play takes us out of our patterns, out of conditioning.
Play brings us into being present.
Play resets our nervous system.
Play releases tension and stress.
Play allows us to be creative, in so many ways.
Play takes us to a space of innocence.
Play gives us permission, to explore, discover, experience, with judgement, without having to get it right, be perfect.
A lot of what we learn about sexuality is serious.
The anatomy, the techniques, the practices.
Getting to have cervical orgasms, full-body orgasms, intimacy where we disappear into the universe, that’s serious stuff.
Sexual healing, for many of us, with the experiences we’ve had, that’s serious stuff.
And play is an important part of all these, because of how it changes our patterns, changes our nervous system, frees what’s been locked, blocked in the body, in the heart, gives us new perspectives, different ways of seeing things.
The energy of play is serious energy!
There are so many paths on this journey.
And if we look at the energy of sexuality, of sensuality, with all its depth and seriousness, it’s alive, it’s vitality, it’s the energy of creation, which makes it the energy of creativity.
It dances, it skips, it laughs, it shouts, it writhes in pleasure.
I talk a lot about how what happens in our sexuality happens in our lives, they’re not separate.
The more we play, in all of life, the healthier we are, in every way.
The lighter we are, in every way.
I look at the models we have for sex, porn, Hollywood, social media.
I’m not anti them, I am becoming more anti what they show, what they don’t show, what we learn from them, what we don’t.
One of the things is authenticity.
Genuine human experience, the fullest expression of our bodies, our hearts, our minds, our energy.
Play is an expression of the deep pleasure, expressed in intimate presence.
Come and experience the possibility, I invite you…
