A long time ago I came across an old book on sexuality, I used to collect them.
There was a claim in this book, based on ancient knowledge, that after an hour of oral stimulation, Yoni nectar became a magical elixir with all sorts of amazing, magical properties.
Being a dreamer and a romantic, I loved the idea.
It came back to awareness every now and then.
What so many people claim in the sexual, and spiritual worlds, of ancient knowledge, secret practices, are nowhere near what they’re purported to be.
There is so much that is myth, and yet we love it, we eat it up and proclaim it loud and long.
Of course, the time came for me to try the practice.
There was no guidance in the book as to how to actually do this.
An hour, minimum, of oral pleasure.
That’s a long time.
The 1st time, I realised just how long that is, to stay in one position, to keep my mouth and tongue moving, to stay present.
And for someone to receive that amount of pleasure and energy.
I can’t say that anything changed with the liquid of her Yoni.
For me, it’s magical, sacred, anytime
And a lot of amazing and magical things emerged in the experience.
It became, in both the giving and the receiving, and there is a point in this where those merge into one. In fact where everything merges into one.
There is no separation between my mouth and your body.
It became an experience of deep meditation, of a prayer of pleasure, sensation and energy.
A practice of presence, of breath, of feeling and emotion.
It became an experience of deep, deep, healing and release. Of opening and softening.
It became an experience of sexual energy as a portal to many layers of awareness.
One of the elements of this, and one of the most freeing aspects of sexual energy, as opposed to a sexual experience.
I’m going to pause that thought for a moment. For most of us, a sexual experience has the goal of orgasm, which is fine. In fact sometimes it’s fantastic, wonderful…
When we take that out, we free ourselves in many ways.
We free ourselves from patterning and conditioning.
We free ourselves from what we think it should be, how we think it should be.
We free ourselves to feel the changing sensations, from moment to moment.
The energy that moves through the body in all the ways it does, in waves, in ripples, stronger, more subtly.
The emotions that arise and fall.
The movement of the body.
We free ourselves into whatever the experience is, without expectation, without performance, without having to make it anything, be anything, become anything.
There’s no achievement.
There’s nowhere to go.
From that perspective shift, there comes the awareness that the touch, in this case with our mouths, is different.
It’s slow, really slow.
And when you think it’s slow, even slower.
It’s gentle, really gentle.
It’s not a technique.
I teach oral pleasure workshops that have so much technique. I love that workshop because it gives so many ideas that people have never explored. It expands pleasure enormously.
This is different.
The techniques are often linked to the goal, to getting it right, making it the best ever…
You might see where that goes…
This is connection and intimacy, presence and surrender.
For both of us.
And in that, something emerges that is not remembered.
It’s an experience where consciousness expands into the space of meditation, a moving meditation of sexual energy.
It is a pleasure experience, and what’s been shared is that it’s pleasure so different to anything else.
The time makes it different.
The slow presence makes it different.
The places it takes us to inside of ourselves makes it different, almost, like a spiritual experience, indescribable.
It is a place where sex and spirit meet and merge.
It is a place, an experience of limitless possibility.
I look forward to sharing more of this, and other experiences and practices in a forthcoming oral pleasure masterclass, for men and women, Wed 30 Oct.
Message for info, jonti@eroslife.co.za.
