There are so many levels of pleasure, of sensation, and of sexual experience.
Most of us sadly stay in the shallows, on the surface.
Not as a judgement, simply what we do, for so many reasons.
It’s easier, takes less effort, we don’t have to put in as much energy, we don’t have to learn, porn, movies, social media, religion, all keep us in the shallows.
The more distracted we are, in all of life, the less we’re interested in depth, and in truth.
The surface of pleasure, of sex, for most of us, is friction sex, orgasm based sex, chasing sex, performance sex, entertainment sex.
Sadly is not a judgement here, it’s just there’s so much for us, so much within us, so much between us.
The world of pleasure is an invitation, an endless invitation.
The world of pleasure is limitless, the depths, the heights, the possibilities, the mystery.
It’s a journey, a life-long journey of experience, exploration and discovery.
When we decide to take a step into deeper waters, we begin to learn about subtlety, and the power that the subtle has.
We begin to look at what we believe about sex and pleasure, about how it can be, what it can be.
Sometimes we have to go through a lot of experiences to begin to see the difference.
And part of this is coming to see that sex is more of an energy experience than a physical experience.
Or at least beginning to see that the physical is a doorway to something deeper, much deeper.
Here’s a little bit of sexual philosophy and the practice that goes with it.
One of the things I’ve learned in all the time I’ve been on this journey, learning, teaching, exploring, discovering, is in the subtlety of energy.
And that energy moves in stillness.
That’s an important idea.
Energy moves in stillness.
That alone can change the quality of the pleasure and sex we have enormously.
Energy moves in stillness.
Going from friction sex to stillness to energy is a direct path to the deeper places.
And it’s actually quite simple to do.
Here’s the first part.
The mind.
A shift in intention, a desire to feel something deeper, the longing for a deeper experience.
Awareness, put simply.
It’s one of the biggest shifts we can make.
Sexual awareness.
Taking ourselves out of the patterned, conditioned, experience into something more present.
The mind-shift opens us to new possibilities.
The 2nd part of the mind shift is this.
We think sex is all about movement. That’s the friction.
That’s just 1 way of doing it, just 1 way, and there are so many more.
Then there’s the body part.
Going from friction, harder, faster, constant stimulation to something else.
To feeling, to sensation.
To energy.
And one of the ways we do this is to pause.
Simple.
Pause. Stop. Breathe.
And the energy moves.
Stop moving, rubbing, stroking, caressing, thrusting, licking.
Stop.
And the energy moves.
We build up sensation in our movement.
In stillness, the energy of that moves through, moves in the body.
And the more we allow it, the more we’ll feel it.
There’s a saying in Tantra that one practice, any practice, can take us so far.
This is one of those.
On the surface it’s simple.
Stop. Breathe.
The energy will move.
And it shows us how much is within us, how powerful our sexual energy is.
How much we can feel.
Here’s the thing, an important part of this.
When we’ve been so used to sex one way, to touch and stimulation in one way, which is what most of us have done, there’s a gap between what we’re used to, and what can be.
The gap is how the body works, how our nervous system works.
We do what we know, and what we do becomes the pattern, locked-in and set.
And when something different, something new comes along, it often feels like not a whole lot.
We need to give ourselves time, patience, for something deeper to awaken.
And if we stay with this for a while, well, you’ll be amazed at what the feeling is, what the sensation is, and where it can take you.
To have a different experience we have to do something different.
To have a different experience we have to think differently.
One is a path to the other, it doesn’t matter which comes first.
I’ve learned that the body, the experience, is the faster path, the deeper path.
It opens something in the mind. It’s not the only way.
When we add the energy of pleasure to this, it becomes a transformational force.
The force that takes our pleasure from the shallows into the ocean of mind-blowing sex and intimacy.
Limitless experiences…
Come and learn, come and experience, I invite you…
