We have done men, and male sexuality a great disservice.
We have come to define successful male sexuality by 2 very narrow, very limiting things.
An erection, and the supposed ability to make a woman come.
In this we have made ourselves small, fearful, limited, inhibited, contracted, closed and disconnected.
It’s lead to anger, sexual anger, which becomes heart anger.
It’s created a judgement of our sexuality based on a performance, an achievement, that is so far away from the true expression of who we are, as to make us insecure and anxious.
It’s limited our experience to an urgency, a rush to get inside, a rush to get to the end, which has taken us out of feeling, out of sensation.
This has taken us from our bodies, from the body of wisdom, the body of presence to a reactive, tense, past or future driven experience.
It’s taken us from a place of the safety to relax into the moment, to release into the feelings, to acknowledge the desire.
It’s driven so much of our sexuality underground, to the dark places of fear and silent suffering.
Our sexuality, our sensuality, our eroticism is vast.
It has so many expressions, such delicious possibilities, of body, mind, heart, energy and spirit.
It is so deeply connected within us, so intimate, so tender, so wild, so strong, so secure.
It’s the fullness of our bodies, so much more than our genitals, that we’ve sexually disconnected from.
It’s the fullness of our whole bodies, the depth of sensation, the heights of bliss.
The media/porn/Tinder model of how hard, how long, of the body count, of the slick seducer has kept us from growing, developing sexually.
It’s kept our sexuality locked below the waist, disconnected from our hearts.
It’s kept us as sexual boys, full of, more often than not, empty bravado.
It’s stopped us being magnificent.
And we are.
Magnificent men.
With so much within us.
So much space for our lovers.
Such fire, such desire, such passion, such tenderness, such love.
When we’re willing to meet ourselves in our vulnerable power.
When we’re willing to soften into presence.
When we’re willing to release who we thought we needed to be, for who we are.
When we’re willing to talk, to listen, to share, to learn.
When we’re willing to connect our sex and hearts.
When we’re willing to kneel before the Goddess of Pleasure and say ‘I am here in worship.’
When we’re willing to drop performance for pleasure.
When we’re willing to drop technique for connection.
When we’re willing to slow down, to feel, to feel the power we have.
The power in our bodies, in our sex, in our eyes, in our words, in our breath.
When we’re willing to claim ourselves as Divine Sexual Beings.
There is, within us men, such beautiful, such powerful possibility.
Within our bodies, within our hearts.
Within our spirits.
It’s who we are, the essence of who we are.
Not who we’ve become, not who we’ve been conditioned and patterned to be.
It’s time to free ourselves, to be ourselves.
To be lovers and makers of love.
I invite you…
