THE SENSUAL TOUCH OF GENEROSITY

I’ve been teaching and doing massage, touch, bodywork, in many ways for over 25 years.
I’ve also been thinking about, writing about it. And in this time we get to deep places, subtle places, we get to the qualities of touch.
My journey with touch started out in the realm of sports and therapeutic massage, and most of it has been in the world of sensual touch, erotic touch, sexual energy touch.
It’s been about healing touch, expanded states of conscious touch, mystical states of touch, intimate touch, connecting touch, exploration touch, loving touch, worship touch, prayer touch…
It’s been, and continues to be, an endless exploration, where new things keep emerging, new flows, new experiences, new understandings of touch, of the body, of energy, of connection.
Learning, experiencing the language of touch, conscious touch is a life-long exploration, of ourselves, of others.
Touch is a teacher, a guide to ourselves, that shows us so much, how we communicate, how we give, how we withhold.
Touch, in so many expressions, is the silent conversation of the body, of the heart. It goes deeper than words, often has a truth that we feel, that we know, more than words can say.
The studies done that show the importance, the vital need of touch for every aspect of our health and well-being are expanding.
Beyond that, touch is a path of awareness, even a spiritual journey.
And I believe that if we spent more time touching, being touched, in touch, so much within us, our relationships, our lives would be different.
One of the subtle qualities of touch came to awareness recently.
It was at a dance experience a friend facilitates called EnTrance, a low dose of cacao, headsets around the fire.
I became aware of generosity.
The generosity of the fire, of the evening, the air, the clouds.
The generosity of the music, of moving.
The generosity of the earth on which my feet moved.
And I thought of the generosity of touch.
For so many of us, particularly when it comes to sex, to sensuality, to pleasure, touch is transactional.
I’m touching you because I want something, I want this to go somewhere. Each touch is a step to the next place.
When we bring the element of generosity to our touch, regardless of the context, and it is a subtle aspect of touch, we’re bring our hearts.
We’re bringing an openness, a giving.
There’s a space we’re inviting someone in to.
There’s no transaction in the generosity of the heart, we’re offering something, from within us.
Our touch communicates our intention, Conscious and subconscious.
This is part of the language of touch, and even if you’re not that aware, there’s such a difference between a mechanical touch and a touch with feeling.
Touching from your heart, a child, a friend, a lover, tells us something, that often we’re not consciously aware of, but deep inside of us, we feel. And when we feel it, we respond, chemically, emotionally.
We respond to the feeling of safety, to the acceptance, to the welcoming.
We’re able to relax, to soften, even slightly.
It just happens, because that’s what the language of touch does, it speaks to the deeper places within us.
The generosity of touch holds presence.
And whether we call it this or not, it holds, it carries, love.