So much of our sexuality
So much of our pleasure
So much of our intimacy
So much of our love
Is about the relationship we have with ourselves
It’s about the relationship with these aspects of ourselves
With our bodies
With our hearts
With our desire.
For so many of us, the relationship we have with these aspects of ourselves is, at best, functional.
Functional, meaning that everything works.
At best, because the relationship we mostly have with these aspects of ourselves is one of judgement, disconnect, separation, insecurity, guilt and shame.
So many aspects of society foster these.
Subtly, with intention, openly, in many ways.
Religion, the beauty industry, the health industry, the psychology industry, the spiritual industry and others.
Why?
Because they want to keep us in that space, it’s good for business, it’s good for the way our world runs.
May is, as we’ve called it, Self-Pleasuring Month.
And in our Self-Pleasuring is the possibility of healing much of this relationship.
I’m not going to say it’s the magic wand for everything, as so many courses, workshops, experiences in our quick-fix world promise.
I work with the model of possibility.
Which is about opening, expanding.
And about that through experience, embodied conscious pleasure experiences, we can change so much within us.
And heal so much of this relationship.
We can heal, we can change, we can grow, we can learn, we expand through our bodies, through feelings.
Through the languages of the body, touch, breath, movement, sound.
Through our senses, our sensuality.
Through connecting, creating, fostering, enhancing, a deep intimacy with ourselves.
And in this, we find the power and possibility of pleasure.
Conscious Pleasure.
We see how this energy, these practices and experiences, can expand us, open us.
And the deeper we allow ourselves to go into pleasure, into ourselves, the greater the possibility we step into.
Our body holds the key.
And in time, through the body, we’ll open a different understanding in our minds.
This is a little different to the way we’ve been conditioned to look at it.
We have wonderful minds, and of course our minds and thoughts are a big part of this journey.
And just as we change the relationship with our sexuality and our pleasure, so we change the relationship with our minds, making it more conscious. We engage with the mind instead of just believing our thoughts.
We live in patterns, patterns of the body, of the mind, patterns of belief.
Conscious Pleasure allows us to change the patterns in the body, to feel different, to feel something more.
There’s an energy in this.
When the energy flows, when it moves, it moves things within us.
When the body moves, when the body feels, it moves something inside.
It allows us to expand the pattern, change the pattern. Which means changing what we’ve done in the past.
It’s creating a new pattern, one of openness rather than contraction, of celebration rather than guilt, of relaxation rather than judgement, of belonging rather than separation.
We feel it.
Conscious Self-Pleasuring isn’t the chase to orgasm and just looking for release.
It’s a journey, an exploration, a discovery.
It’s a conversation with our bodies, all of our bodies with our hearts, with our pleasure, with our minds.
It’s about engaging all of our senses, it’s exploring our sensuality, and seeing how our sensuality is a path of awareness, of presence.
It’s about how we can meet ourselves in different ways, with honesty, with gentleness, with kindness.
In our bodies, in our feelings.
In touch.
It’s been said that the answer is in the question, in this case in the phrase, Self-Pleasuring.
It’s about us, ourselves.
Firstly, being a sensual, a sexual being, ourselves, for ourselves.
Not only when we’re in a relationship, not only when we’re having sex.
All the time.
Then it’s the pleasure.
Not only sexual pleasure, the pleasure of life, of living, of our senses, of all of our life.
Our tears and our sorrows, our loneliness and fears.
The pleasure of living, of loving, of feeling, of losing, of celebrating.
The pleasure of the breeze on our skin, morning coffee.
The pleasure of thinking.
Of being.
Of being a being of pleasure.
I invite you to join me for a deep dive into your sensual self.
A Live Online Self-Pleasuring Experience.
This is a guided experience for you to do at home, taking you on a journey of exploration into your sensuality and sexual energy.
I’m going to share the practices with you, show you how to do them, and you’ll be able to share the journey with others, in private.
We’re going to explore using the languages of the body, movement, sound, breath and touch.
The experience will be recorded, you’ll be able to do it whenever you like.
A few days before the event I’m going to send you a list of what you’ll need, and a playlist.
You don’t want to miss this one!
Wed 22, 8 pm, SAST
Here’s you link to book for this exciting journey: https://eroslife.co.za/product/conscious-self-pleasuring-an-experience-of-your-sensual-self/
