The music of the energy of intimacy is playing inside of us
And in our doing
We don’t hear it
The music of the energy of sensation is playing inside of us
And in our doing
We don’t hear it
The music of the energy of pleasure is playing inside of us
And in our doing
We don’t hear it
The music of the energy of love is playing
inside of us
And in our doing
We don’t hear it.
So much of our sexuality is about doing.
So much of our sexuality is about a goal, an achievement.
So much of our sexuality is about an expectation.
So much of our sexuality is about comparison.
So much of our sexuality is about judgement.
So much of our sexuality is about the mind.
So much of our sexuality is about technique.
So much of our sexuality is about time and space that’s not present.
We’re so concerned with being good lovers, even in the Neo-Tantric world, so concerned with getting it right, whatever that may be.
In this we’ve become sexual doings rather than sexual beings.
We’ve become so concerned with mastering sexual skills, breath, the manipulation of energy, the control of the experience, that we’ve forgotten to surrender.
The surrender is to listen to what’s inside of us, to the frequency of this ancient dance, and allow that to move us.
To sit together, in quiet stillness.
To listen, with our inner ears.
To feel, with our inner hearts, our inner bellies.
To sense, with our inner sex.
And to allow that to move us.
There’s a dance of presence in this, it may be subtle, soft, slow.
It may be fiery and explosive.
It may be a quiet whisper.
It may be a shout of exultation and celebration and joy.
It may be wild and huge.
It may be a gentle rhythmic wave.
It’s a dance of presence, it’s a dance of the moment.
It’s a dance of the elements.
That comes from within, and flows, through our bodies, our eyes, our mouths, our hands, our sex.
We put all that we know, all that we think we know, aside.
We put all that we think we have to do, need to do, aside.
We put all the practices we’ve learned, aside.
And we sit.
Together.
Entwined.
And we drop into ourselves, we listen, we feel, we sense.
And in time, it arises, it emerges, it flows.
We struggle with this.
There’s no pattern, there’s no recipe, no steps to follow.
Do we have the patience to sit?
Do we have the patience to go beyond what we think?
Do we have the patience to go beyond the mind?
Do we have the patience to wait for the invitation?
Do we have the patience to go where our sexuality is something other than we think it is?
Do we have the desire for a depth beyond reaching for orgasm?
Do we have the surrender to allow ourselves to dissolve into this energy?
This is a totally different path of sexuality than many of us know.
It’s a different model.
It’s not just taking some Tantric techniques and putting them in a more western model.
It’s taking it a step further.
It’s taking it to not doing sex, not having sex, to feeling the sexuality within us, and allowing it to dance us.
There’s a phrase in Asana Yoga, some teachers use it a lot, without, I think, really understanding it.
Let the yoga do you.
It’s a surrender of the mind to the body, it’s a surrender of the body to exactly where it is.
This is where the sex does us.
This is where the love makes us.
This is where the sexuality becomes an expression of the sacred.
There’s no trying, there’s no doing.
There’s the moment, the sensation, the feeling, the intimacy, the flow.
There’s nothing to achieve, reach, make happen.
There’s no ending, in the way we’ve been patterned, conditioned to end it.
The dance does that itself, as the inner music fades.
And there we are, flowing from one state of being to another, with natural ease.
The energy fills us, transmutes as it needs.
There’s a oneness in this, a flow with the ocean, not against the tide.
There’s a being, sexual being, life being.
This isn’t the way for all of us.
It’s simply an invitation for those willing to hear a different music, that arises from a deeper place.
It’s simply an invitation…
Come and spend some time with me, I’ll share the path to this experience with you.
