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There are many ways to heal, to learn, to grow and to experience.
The path I’ve chosen is that of gentleness.
We live in a world with such harshness, such conflict.
A world that emphasizes differences and separation.
A world that teaches about struggle, conquering, fighting, winning and losing.
A world of comparison and judgment.
A world of power and powerless.
A world where might and fear are sought after.
In our relationships, in our lives and in our sexual pleasure so many of these principles are expressed. And so many of these cause us to separate from ourselves, disconnect from ourselves. They take us away from safety, in our bodies, in our feelings, in our hearts. They contract us, tighten us, harden us, shut us down.
When we seek healing, when we look to grow, to expand we bring the same ideas.
We have to overcome, ourselves, the past, patterning, conditioning, pain, limitation.
We judge the journey, how far we’ve come, how deeply we go, how much we experience.
It’s the same space, contraction, tightness, competition.
In gentleness we’re offered a different way.
The way of allowing.
The way of unfolding.
The way of quiet movement.
The way of flow.
In this we connect to the universal principle of unfolding, of emerging.
In gentleness we soften, we open.
We relax, we release.
We let go.
We can’t do that in tension, in contraction.
In gentleness we allow.
We connect to the wisdom within us, in our bodies, in our hearts.
We can hear, we can feel, the inner voice, the guidance.
We can move, literally and metaphorically, energetically, physically, emotionally, sexually, spiritually.
So much of the work I do, in touch, in breath, in movement, is gentle, slow, soft.
What’s so interesting is how the gentleness goes deep, so deep.
There’s no resistance.
The body softens, opens.
Energy flows.
We can let go.
We can feel.
We can breathe.
The extension of this is as we find more gentleness within ourselves we can find it in our relationships, in our words, in life, in the way we are in the world, and the way the world is with us.
This doesn’t mean there’s no fire, no energy, no passion, no power.
It’s there.
And we can access more of that, when we need, when we choose, as there’s more flow, more movement.
We can be as clear as we need, as direct as we need, as boundaried as we need.
Without force.
There’s something I’ve realized over more than 20 years of doing this work.
It’s something so simple that we tend to overlook the power and importance of it.
To relax.
We live with such deep tension, tightness, contraction.
In our minds, our bodies, our hearts, our energy.
We hold on, with everything we’ve got.
This past year for many people had been a time of incredible change, and so much stress and tension in this.
Gentleness is the space we can relax.
Our nervous systems can find a place of recovery, regeneration, renewal, revitalization.
We can take a deep, deep breath in, slowly breathe out.
And live.
On journeys of healing and growth what happens, which is so beautiful to see is how understandings, realizations, awareness, emerge.
And we see how we can do things differently, what the possibilities are.
We find space, space within us to expand, to grow, to connect with ourselves, with our essence nature.
From a pleasure perspective, and so many of us look for deeper pleasure, deeper sensation, intensity, gentleness is the key.
It allows us to feel more, because our skins, our muscles, nerves, are more open.
And from the base of relaxation we can light a fire that becomes a flame that becomes an inferno of feeling.
In a few weeks I’m teaching a workshop on Sexual Healing Massage. These are the practices I work with on healing journeys.
The touch in these processes is slow, gentle, allowing, connecting.
This is the space where we drop the masks, the armour.
This is the space where the defences and walls fall.
Gentleness allows us to release in a way that’s in harmony with an inner rhythm.
We’re guided by an inner wisdom, the wisdom of the body.
There’s love in this, love for ourselves.
Honouring of ourselves.
Gentleness.
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