Pleasure, energy, sensation, sexual energy, moves, flows, dances, pulsates, throbs, spirals…
This is an idea that made its first appearance quite a long time ago, at dancing one night.
I do Biodanza, a conscious dance modality, once a week. It’s an important part of my life for inspiration, release, integration, presence, connection and more.
The idea that came was how little we use our bodies during sex, essentially our pelvis, and over time seeing how limited the movements we have are.
The next thread in this is how little women move during sex, especially when you’re on the bottom. When your body begins to awaken, you move more. But a lot of women are pretty still during penetration in that position. A part of this, something we’ve spoken about in quite a few ways is, in that stillness, sex is being done to you.
The third thread in the story is that we, so many of us, men more than women, have tight, stiff, rigid, contracted, tension-filled pelvises. We hold so much there, physically, emotionally, energetically. In this tension, the pleasure we feel is limited, sensation is limited, energy can’t move.
If we’d like experiences that are deeper, that allows us to feel more, and that involve more of our bodies, which is the beginning of full-body only, things in our bodies have to move and open.
We have to use our bodies differently, move our bodies differently.
Here’s what becomes possible.
‘I realized that I was very still, and into, during sex. The night after a session I moved my hips, my section, a lot. I’d been struggling with orgasms for quite a while, and had 4 or 5 really powerful orgasms. The difference was amazing!’
I’ve long said that if you can’t dance, can’t move, if your hips are tight, you can’t have amazing sex. Even just from the point of pure sensation and movement, never mind energy, intimacy, presence, connection, intention…
So much of pleasure is sensation.
Tightness in our bodies limits the sensation we feel. A relaxed body feels more.
Tightness in our bodies limits the movement of energy. It stays in our genitals and section.
When it comes to penetration, a lot of men get their ‘how to’ from porn, jackhammer style.
No subtlety.
Friction sex at best.
The head of a Lingam has 360’ of possible sensation.
Inside a Yoni there are 360’ of possible sensation. If all we’re doing, which most of us are, is a little bit of in and out, generally as fast and hard as we can, we’re missing out on the most amazing sensations, feelings and pleasure.
To have this experience, higher, deeper, we have to learn to move, and to move differently.
When we do, a lot changes.
We become more present in the movement, more in our bodies.
The more present we are in our bodies, the more present we are with our lovers.
The more natural exploration there is, because we’re out of the pattern, and the desire of the body to move in different ways happens naturally.
And then there’s more, that I’m starting to explore.
The whole body.
Because once our pelvis is moving more, which is the centre of movement in the body, the rest of the body can follow. From our hips to our bellies, legs, shoulders…the whole body.
Which takes us to a very different experience.
I love how much there is in this journey, how much there is to explore and experience.
How much there is to share.
I love how exciting life, love, relationships, pleasure, can be. For all of us.
I once said that if you’re sexually bored, which many of us are, because all that we’re doing is patterned, conditioned sex, you must be asleep.
We can awaken, awaken ourselves, each other, our relationships, again and again, sexually, emotionally, intellectually, energetically, spiritually…
I offer sessions, lessons, workshops, retreats, webinars, videos, programmes, in person, online, in the limitless art of conscious pleasure.
I invite you…
