WOMEN’S DAY, WOMEN’S PLEASURE, TOGETHER IN LOVE

It’s Women’s Day in South Africa on Fri.
For over 25 yrs I’ve been sharing journeys of healing, growth exploration, experience and learning, mostly with women.
I share a lot about women’s pleasure, women’s sensuality, sexuality and eroticism.
And later in the week I’m going to share more about that.
I’d like to start the week with something different, something for men.

I talk a lot, write a lot, teach a lot, and I think, live a lot, with the idea of worship, women, the Goddess, the feminine.
And so often we read these words, we listen to them, we love the idea of them.
And, so often, we put them in the context, a narrow context, of sexual pleasure.
How much pleasure can I give you, which is actually not always about pleasure, it’s about orgasm.
How big, how many orgasms, how much can I make you come?
How much of this orgasm story is about you, rather than her, how much of that is your need?
I’d never say don’t give that pleasure, it’s so important, there’s a whole lot more.

There are some questions I’d ask, How much do you show your lover that you desire her?
How much do you show that you want her, in so many ways?
How much do you use your words, your body, express your heart, your feelings of desire?
How much do you seduce her, again and again and again?
How much creativity do you bring to pleasure, rather than doing the same thing in the same way, ticking the boxes of a pattern?

How much do you understand that her sexuality, her pleasure, is in a context, the context of her life, her body, her heart?
That the entry point for her is connection?
And that one of the biggest aspects of context is the space to be the fullness of herself?
For her rage to be present, for her fire to be expressed, for her power to be seen, as much as it might scare you?
For the power of a Goddess is just as destructive as it is creative.

How much have you learned about her body, her heart, her energy?
And our own?
How many of us still don’t know where her clitoris is, where her G-Spot, let alone the deeper pleasure spots are?
How much have we learned that it’s about presence, not the goal, pleasure, not the performance?
How much have we learned about slowing down?
How much have we learned about the time her pleasure takes?

How much have we learned about the power of her pleasure, her fire?
An inferno that burns us to the core, and what we need to bring to meet that, to hold the space for that?
How much control we need to surrender, and how much power we need to bring in a way that allows hers to flow, with space, freedom, vastness?
How much have we learned to ask what fulfils her, what her desires are?
And how much can we dance with its changes, with its endless expression?

How much have we learned about making her safe, feel safe, live in a space where all of her is welcome?
Where she’s not too much, where she has to be small, in any way, to make us feel OK?
A space where she’s heard, felt, seen, acknowledged, received?

How much do we grow in our relationships and connections?
How much do we engage, invest, share, learn, explore, discover?
How vulnerable are we willing to be, how much of ourselves are we willing to lay ourselves bare?
And how deep are we willing to go?

We are deeply connected in this journey, men and women.
And it’s being willing to walk our own path, of healing, of meaning, of growing, and to share that, that possibility opens to us.
And such beautiful, powerful, limitless possibility it is.

I look forward to sharing more with you in the week.
If you’d like to explore what I offer, please send a message or email, jonti@eroslife.co.za.