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These Are My Hands

Everyone has gifts and talents, one of mine is touch. These are my hands, and they are missing touching. So much of my work, and my teaching is with touch. I have been exploring, learning,...

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Riding the Orgasmic Waves

When I started teaching, a long time ago, one of the first workshops I taught was Expanded Orgasm. It's still one of my most popular workshops. Now I call it Expanded Orgasmic Wave, as my...

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Beautiful Woman

I love women, I worship Yoni. I've spent a great deal of my adult life, personally and professionally exploring pleasure, how to share pleasure with women, in so many ways. Most of the people I...

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The Healing is in The Connection

The relationship many of us have with our bodies, is at best, functional. The relationship many of us have with our genitals, is at best, AT BEST, functional. The relationship many of us have with...

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What Do I want Sexually?

One of the main reasons I do what I do is that it allows me to express so many parts of myself in so many different ways. It's been a long journey to get to...

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The Last Sexuality Workshop

On Monday night I taught the last face-to-face workshop for a while. The workshops continue online. Before I talk about, rather, write about the workshop, I would like to thank you for your comments, likes...

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Erotic Gratitude

These are intense times, with intense energies at the moment. In this are amazing possibilities of healing, growth, change, learning, expanding. And one of the most powerful energies we can engage with at the moment...

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The Choices We Make

When I created the logo and slogan for ErosLife I wanted it to represent a Path of Pleasure; A Path of Possibility. Possibility for me is about choice, about awareness. It's about moving from auto-pilot...

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Make Love

The past few weeks have been a time of an inner shift for me, a shift in perception, how I see things, life, healing, us, what we do, how we do. It's been an intense...

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Men Receiving

At the Expanded Orgasm Workshop I taught this week there were some really interesting questions asked, and some deep understandings shared. Before I share one of these, I'd like to share this. One of the...

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Conscious Sexuality

Last week I wrote and shared an article about the way we have sex. Someone posted a comment, 'Soooooo let me get this straight you put more expanded CONSCIOUSNESS in to sex...

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The Way That We Have Sex

The way that we have sex is the way that we live. In patterns. In sexual terms what that means is that we do what we do, we follow our pattern. We kiss in the same...

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Multiple-Partner Logistics

I was having a conversation with someone the other day, and multi-partner experiences came up, as they do in some people's lives. I said that I thought orgies were hard work, and not always a...

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Yoni Holding For Healing

I've been working in the field of sexual healing for almost 20 years, most of the people I work with are women. For so many women the tissues of the yoni hold tension, emotional blockages,...

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Expanded Orgasm Workshop

've always said that this was 'an important workshop', and I was thinking earlier about what that really means. What makes it important is that it expands, haha, the perception we have on pleasure....

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Permission for Pleasure

There’s something I talk about a lot, it comes up a lot in the healing journeys I share with people, on talks and workshops, and it comes up a lot in interviews. In essence it’s that...

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Learn About…

At a talk I gave last week on Conscious Sexuality someone asked a great question about sex in a relationship, how do you make it more conscious, what do you do? Earlier this week a...

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My Eroticism Went With Her

She left. And my eroticism went with her. It loved her. It loved the expression, all the ways it could express itself, the gentle, the tender, the fire and the beast. It loved the passion....

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Early Ejaculation and Receiving

I've been working with quite a few men recently who are dealing with the issue of early ejaculation. As part of the healing journey something really interesting has emerged with every one of them. ...

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Conversations With My Sexual Body

For the past 10 months my eroticism has been solo and inwards. For someone who teaches in sexuality this creates many fascinating possibilities. One of these has been the conversations I've had with my cock,...

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As In Sex, So In Life

For many of us sex is something very separate from the rest of our lives. Our sexuality is in a box that we take out in very specific circumstances, in very specific contexts, use it,...

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Sing The Song of Your Body

Sing the song of your body Sing the song of your life Sing your pain and your despair Sing your loneliness and loss Sing the tears you cry in the quiet of the night Sing the silent longing of your...

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Give Yourself A Gift

Give yourself a gift, the gift of yourself. All of yourself. Give yourself the gift of your life, of each moment, each connection, each relationship, each experience, each feeling, each sensation...

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The Healing of Being

There's a beautiful concept of healing that comes from a state of being rather than a doing. In the tradition of Tantra Yoga there's an understanding that we are whole. The experiences that we've had,...

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A Sexual Ritual of Acknowledging

I love ritual in sex, in pleasure. Ritual connects us to an intention, to a deeper energy and consciousness. Ritual brings us into being more present, more aware, more connected to ourselves, to the moment to...

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The Joy Of Sex

I was thinking about joy and celebration. I was thinking about the joy and celebration of sex, of lovemaking. And I was thinking that we don't often experience that. ...

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Sacred Sex

I love sex. All of it. I love the touch, the taste, the smell, the sounds, the sensations, the feelings, the breath, the energy, the orgasms. All of it. I love bodies. The skin, the...

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Male Sexual Control

An important piece of this work came to me today. There are so many men who struggle with early ejaculation, and are silent about it. There is still shame, despair and embarrassment about it. It...

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Choose Pleasure

For so many of us living in a place of pain is easier, simply because we know it. We know it well. It gives us comfort, it gives us safety. When we choose to live...

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Men Going Deeper

Last week in my practice I had two incredibly deep experiences. Both of these are connected to a different story of our sexuality...

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Men’s Story

As I look at a different story for our sexuality I turn to an experience I had recently and what it brought to mind...

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Makers of Love

During some deep discuss with me lover we've spoken about not knowing what certain words mean to us anymore. A good example of this is ‘spirituality’...

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