pleasure Tag

A Pleasure Practice

I was thinking about a Pleasure Practice. I was thinking that we have all kinds of practices, health practices, spiritual practices etc. But what about a Pleasure Practice, a Sexuality Practice, an Intimacy Practice, a...

Read More

To Worship My Lover

I write a lot, I teach a lot about worship. Yoni Worship, Lingam worship. Touch and massage as a form of worship. Touch as a sacred expression. Worship of your lover, in pleasure, in breath,...

Read More

All Orgasms Are Different!

For many of us the model of sex is based on what we think it should be, how we think it should be, how we think it should look. This is often a porn-based model,...

Read More

The Exploration of a Body

The exploration of a body is the exploration of a life. The exploration of a body is the exploration of the world. The exploration of a body is timeless, limitless. It changes as the body changes,...

Read More

Healing by Adding, Expanding

The framework of healing I've been sharing since I began this journey is about patterns. That's how we work. The patterns are in our minds and in our bodies, and they're mostly subconscious. We mostly...

Read More

Erotic Inspiration

Erotic Inspiration is a delicious phrase, filled with such possibility. In all aspects of life. An Erotic Life is so much more than a sexual and genital expression of that energy. But that's what so...

Read More

Sometimes Fulfillment is Elusive

I am so fortunate in getting to have the conversations, and experiences, that I have. And how much of one person’s journey is all of ours, how the learning, the understanding in one space can...

Read More

From Pattern to Pleasure

May is traditionally known as Mast*******n Month, which brings so many possibilities to awareness. Possibilities of pleasure, of sexual energy, of self-love, exploration, growth, healing and intimacy. For a long time I've spoken about the...

Read More

Life is a Sensual Environment

At almost every workshop I talk about creating a sensual space for experiences, for connection, for pleasure, for deep communication, for ritual etc. I talk about the elements of this space, being warm, music, candles,...

Read More

The Freedom of Yoni Massage

There are many different expressions of Yoni Massage that I offer and teach. There's Quiet Yoni, a deep, slow, gentle meditation of touch. There's The Fire Massage, building sexual energy to a heightened state of pleasure,...

Read More

Lingam Healing, A New Practice

There is a deep practice of Lingam Healing, male healing, heart healing. It's a practice of presence. It's a slow practice, it has very little movement. It's a practice of time, in two ways, the...

Read More

We Can’t Make Love, It’s There

I was thinking about making love, and some interesting things came to awareness. Often in workshops and discussions there's a question that comes up, which is What's the difference between having sex and making love....

Read More

The Place of Pleasure

For many of us pleasure is way down the list of what's important. And I'm not talking about sex and orgasm. I'm talking about pleasure, the energy that vibrates in every cell in our bodies....

Read More

The Body of Possibility

In a few weeks, less than 2 in fact, I'm teaching a series of workshops in Ireland that we've called The Body of Possibility. And that's what they're about, the possibility that's in our bodies....

Read More

Worship the Pearl

Last week was Coffee and Cunnilingus Day, which came about in response to Steak and Blow-Job Day, which came about in response to Valentine's Day. Makes me wonder what's next. I write a Coffee Blog,...

Read More

Don’t Forget to Play

I had some deep and serious stuff to share with you today, and then I had a conversation with someone yesterday that changed it. Here's what it brought to mind. We take sex seriously, and in...

Read More

Hello Tantra Massage

For so long I've stayed away from the term Tantric Massage. Mostly because of the sexual connotation that so many people bring to it. I get so many requests from people who want to learn...

Read More

The Conscious Erotic

There is a moment, a Divine Erotic Moment. A Conscious Erotic Moment. It could be with my face in your neck, breathing your scent in, feeling the soft warmth of the curve there. It could...

Read More

Connecting, Man to Man

There is a sensuality of men, between men, that few of us get to experience. It is rich in gifts, deep, vast. Gifts of support, of connection, of intimacy. Gifts of the body, gifts of...

Read More

Deep Erotic Experience

There are moments of Erotic experience, moments of deep pleasure, moments of sexual energy, moments of intimacy, moments of the heart, moments of the body, that have no words. They're sacred moments, moments of an...

Read More

Arousal from the Throat

For a long time I've been working with the connection between our genitals and throat. For many of us this begins as healing, releasing, opening. We hold so much there, so many unsaid things, so...

Read More

Presence in Deep Yoni Massage

There is something fascinating that happens in Deep Yoni Massage. And I'm using the word deep in a few different ways here. And all of them are about presence, connection, intimacy, awareness, the heart. Which...

Read More

Relax, It’s Important

There is something so important for both healing and pleasure that we tend to overlook. Maybe because it's so simple, and in its simplicity we forget about the power it has. To relax. We tend...

Read More

The Receiving Man

A while ago I wrote a piece called What She'd Like You to Know. It sparked some deep and intimate sharing and discussion, about pleasure, about relationships and about communication. It also led to some...

Read More

The Possibilities of Sexual Energy

As much as we might read about sexual energy, as much as we might read about the healing possibilities, the pleasure possibilities, the creative possibilities, the vitality, the life-force, the intimate possibilities, the spiritual possibilities,...

Read More

The Deep Yoni Pause

There is something so important in Yoni Massage, both for healing and pleasure. Pause. Pause in your touch. Pause in your caress. Pause. Rest your hand, your fingers. Energy moves in the pause. Release is...

Read More

The Pleasure In A Kiss

I love to kiss, and for me it's an experience of deep intimacy and arousal. There's a conversation in our kiss, in the delicate touch of lips and tongues we tell our lovers so much....

Read More

My First Taoist Massage

I remember the very first Taoist Sexual Energy Massage I received. I had done many, taught it lots, and never received it. Then I taught it to a lover, who gave me the experience of...

Read More

The Power of These Young Men

There is something so interesting happening lately, that is impacting on young men, mostly under 30. And what is amazing is that many of these guys are seeking help. This is big, as for so many...

Read More

Expanded Energy Orgasm

Flow through orgasm into pleasure. Flow beyond orgasm into pleasure. Flow through sensation into energy. Flow from contraction into expansion. Flow from the end into the ocean of possibility. So much changes when we experience...

Read More

Holding, A Touch of Presence

Holding. It's so powerful. It's so simple. It's so deep. Just holding. It can be a sacred experience, a meditation, on the body, on the warmth, on the texture of the skin, on what's beneath...

Read More

Deep Cervical Pleasure

Expanding into potential. Expanding into Possibility. Expanding into the space within. The twin flames of energy and pleasure dance with each other in the body. The Heart opens. The Body opens. 'I felt the pulsations...

Read More

After Valentine’s Day

I’m not a great fan of Valentine’s Day. More than anything else because of the commercialization which it gives us as an empty expression of love. You get the flowers, the chocolate the jewellery, the lingerie,...

Read More

Surrender to Pleasure

We surrender to our sexuality, to our deep pleasure by becoming sex rather than doing sex, having sex. For many of us sex is a doing thing, it has a progression that we follow, which...

Read More

Drop Into Your Body

Drop into your body. Drop deep, into the base, into the pelvis. On so many journeys, in so many teachings, it’s about moving up, moving away from our base. And it just may be that moving the other...

Read More

Imagine That You Had a Lover

Imagine that you had a lover, and that lover wanted to explore your body, get to know your body, caress your body. Imagine that this lover wanted to find the ways and places you like...

Read More

The Dance of Seduction

There is something so important in relationships, it's vital to the longevity of a relationship, to the excitement and intimacy of a relationship. Seduction. To keep seducing each other. Over and over again. Seduction is...

Read More

Enter From Within

I learned something this week. Enter from within. It sounds paradoxical, it is, as is so much of life, when we really see it. Enter from within. It's expanding inside of me, showing more every...

Read More

This Touch of Possibility

I was thinking about all the massage experiences I teach and do. Conscious Sensual Massage, a vast field of healing and pleasure, Taoist Sexual Energy Massage, Kashmiri Massage, Water Flow Massage, Yoni Massage in its...

Read More

Three (Erotic) Things

Three things, just three things. And so much happens with these three things. They could be any 3 things, and today I chose these. Rope, a blindfold, a flogger. The strands of the flogger are made...

Read More

One Journey, Thank You

We've shared a lot this year, you and I. Some in person, some on the other side of a screen, some reading what I write, some on my DVD's and programmes. I am grateful for...

Read More

The Dance of the Heart

'My touch is the dance of my heart on your body.' I wrote this line and shared it in an image a few days ago, then I read it a few times. Earlier in the day...

Read More

The Freedom of Sacred Saliva

Let's start with this. What makes saliva sacred? Nothing, other than it's an element of our Divine body, and as everything, every bodily fluid, is part of us, in this Divine body. And if we were more...

Read More

Man to Man Kashmiri Massage

For a man to sit opposite another man and to look into his eyes is powerful. For a man to sit naked opposite another man is powerful. For a man to hold his hands out...

Read More