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Sacred Massage

There is something amazing you might not know, and it's even more amazing to experience. Massage, deep massage is a way to experience expanded states of consciousness, for both giver and receiver. I've been doing...

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The Massage High

A while ago after a deep massage exchange someone said that she feels high, trippy, spacey. Just looking at her I could see that she was in an expanded state of consciousness. There was a...

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Hello

It’s the beginning of the year so it’s a great time to introduce, and re-introduce myself to you. There’s also a lot that’s new in my work which is another good reason. But first, a digression, I...

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I’m For The Slow

I'm for the slow…. For in the slow we feel. In the slow we savour. In the slow is the subtle. In the slow is presence. In the slow is appreciation. In the slow is awareness....

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Lessons in Sacred Sex 3

Slowly, she said to me, slowly. Rest the head of your Lingam at the opening of my Yoni. Be still, breathe. Feel her open, feel her begin to invite you in, to welcome you. This...

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G-Spot Holding

G-Spot Holding is a deep practice of healing and release. It's a practice of pleasure. It's a practice of feeling and sensation. It's a practice of intimacy and connection. It's a practice of energy. It's...

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Coffee of Loving and Longing

Coffee this afternoon is fascinating. I'm sipping it slowly, savoring the taste, the aroma. I'm looking at the sky, the garden, the clouds. I love watching clouds. I'm listening to the birds, distant traffic. I've...

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A Conscious Pleasure Experience

Coffee this afternoon is back home in Johannesburg. There's a rain shower, gentle rain, and I can see the sun shining in some parts of the sky, in the distance. The sound of the raindrops...

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Giving Myself Away Over Coffee

Coffee this afternoon is back home in Johannesburg. There's a rain shower, gentle rain, and I can see the sun shining in some parts of the sky, in the distance. The sound of the raindrops...

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This Sensual Moment of Oneness

On Saturday I was at The Oranjezicht Market in Cape Town. There was a moment. A moment of such deep sensuality that my heart swelled to having no edges that I could feel. I was...

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Coffee and an Offering

I've been thinking a lot, writing about love. I've been deeper into love in myself. And I've been thinking about making love. There is often a question asked about the difference between having sex and...

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Birthday Coffee and Love Unlimited

I've been aware of an expanding expression of love. Seeds that were planted, some long ago, some more recently, coming into flower. Deepening my Heart Breath practice, sitting more in my heart in healing, space,...

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The Heart Touch and a Rush Of Love

Over the past weeks some new practices have emerged in my work. There's been a mixing of massage and meditation, and a mouth massage, both of these have deepened healing and pleasure experiences enormously. And...

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The Way of Gentleness

There are many ways to heal, to learn, to grow and to experience. The path I've chosen is that of gentleness. In gentleness we soften, we open. We relax, we release. We let go. We...

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Holding Presence

One of the most intriguing aspects of this journey of teaching is the learning that keeps coming. During a Water Flow Massage experience I had a beautiful opportunity to do this. I don’t often participate in...

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Cold Coffee and the Facts

Last week I had coffee with my social media coach, Bronwynne. (By the way, she is fantastic, if you're looking for help with social media, I'll happily connect you.) I showed her what I'd written...

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Expanded Energy Orgasm

There is such power, such possibility in being relaxed, deeply relaxed, in pleasure. The body opens, energy begins to flow. From our sexual centre to the heart, and higher, spreading through the body. A wave...

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A Conscious Mouth

This idea arose from a place of deep pleasure, from a place of intimacy with my body, from a place of conscious connection and awareness with my body. For so many of us the relationship we...

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An Embrace

There is one thing we all need at the moment. Need. All of us, wherever we are on the rainbow of life, in every way there can be. Need. One of the effects of the...

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Being A Good Lover Is…

There is a really interesting aspect of being a good lover that we don't always connect with sex. Almost everyone who shares a healing and growth with me at some point says that they're amazed...

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Sexual Healing, Heart Healing

There is something that I have intrinsically known that has come to conscious awareness. So many of our sexual issues are heart issues. We heal them in the heart. Yes they're in our bodies, in...

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The Curiosity of Love and Pleasure

There's something I teach which is so important when it comes to pleasure, to sexuality, to sensuality, to growth. It's also such an important element in relationships. There's a progression, a journey that starts with...

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Breast and Heart Massage

Breast and Heart Massage is the space where healing, relaxation, acknowledgement, sensuality, arousal, love and nurturing meet. It's often an experience of deep emotion, bringing so much to awareness. For many women breasts are symbolic...

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Tears of Beauty

I am in an incredible position, because of the work I do. I get to spend emotional time with men, vulnerable time with men. And one of the most beautiful, one of the most powerful,...

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Clitintimacy

The other day I was doing a clitoral massage. This was in the space of healing, of pleasure, of energy, of sensation. In the moment something came to awareness in an emotional rush, deeper than...

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Healing Through Pleasure

When we work with expansion we become open to different ways of doing this, different perspectives. We come to see the patterns that we've lived with, that keep us doing what we do, and we...

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Healing The (Sexual) Body

The cornerstone of my healing work is patterns. The patterns are in the body as well as in the mind. And we can only change the body patterns in the body. Thoughts, ideas, perspectives, are...

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Find Stillness

For most men sex is about doing. Especially in the body. Your body moves, especially your hips. Moving, thrusting, rocking… Find stillness. ...

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The Intimacy of Healing

I love to teach. I love to learn, and I love to share what I learn, to understand it, to see where it fits, what it connects to. I've been listening to some great teachers...

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Quiet Lingam

Male sexuality has many different expressions, which sadly not many men get to understand and experience. For most men sex is genitally, orgasm oriented, and this limits the experience men have of their sexuality, of...

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Coffee, Banana Bread and…

Coffee this afternoon is delicious, with home-made banana bread that my daughter made. I've been a single parent since she was 4, we're very close, a relationship that we've nurtured, grown and developed over time. We've...

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Yoni Massage As Worship

Greet your lover as an expression of The Goddess. Greet her with reverence, with humility. Approach her as you would the Divine in a place of prayer. Kneel before her. Be open to serve her,...

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Women’s Day, Women’s Pleasure

Most of my work is with women, and for those who don't know me, I'm a Conscious Sexuality Practitioner. I'm based in South Africa, and I work with women, and men and couples, around the...

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Slow Subtle Super Sex

Yesterday's coffee was a cortado. The easiest way to explain a cortado is an intense cappuccino. And delicious cakes, and even more delicious friends. And what, you may ask, has that do with Slow Subtle Super...

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Friday Afternoon Coffee

Friday afternoon coffee in the delicious sun, and I'm thinking about the week. It's been a roller-coaster. Waking up a few mornings with an incredible bleakness. The image was of a vast concrete plain, grey sky, cold,...

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Conscious Sensual Massage

I love women. Most of my work is with women. And I must say that I love working with men, and I get so excited, I celebrate when men come to heal, to learn, to...

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Looking for Intimacy

I have had some incredibly painful, sad and deep conversations over the past few weeks. These have been with men and women, single people and couples. So much of it comes to this. We're looking...

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Conscious Sensual Coffee

I'm sitting in the afternoon sun with coffee It's been cold for a few days in Johannesburg, this is the first afternoon that it's warm enough to sit outside. Coffee is an important part of my...

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The Feast of Your Body

I love food, I love to cook, and I love to eat. There is such sensuality in food, and coffee, in every way, texture, taste, smell, the way things look. I also enjoy watching food...

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The First Step

I get a lot of calls, message, emails, from people with sexual issues. A lot happens before people make these contacts. A lot of internal twisting and turning. It’s a difficult thing to do. It’s incredibly vulnerable,...

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Teaching Massage Online

For a long time I have resisted teaching massage online. Firstly I held the belief that it has to be in the same space to get the subtlety and nuance. There's a transmission of a...

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A Tender Moment

I've had a lot of conversations with people in the past weeks. People in relationships and single people. Mostly people who are dealing with issues and problems, some struggling deeply, some hurting, and some people...

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Exploring Sexual Healing

There is much of our world that has taken what is sacred and made it dirty. There is much of our world that has taken what is light and made it dark. There is much of our...

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Exploring Healing

Many people come to a sexual journey looking for healing. There's a problem, an issue, a blockage,a pain, a hurt. That's where so many journeys begin. A lot of my work happens in this space,...

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We Need Touch

We need to touch, and we need to be touched. We need to hold, and we need to be held. We need to pleasure, and we need to be pleasured. These are needs. Not wants...

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The Love of Desire

I've shared with you that over the past year I haven't had a sexual encounter with another. For someone who has had a rich and full erotic life this has been really interesting. For someone...

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In Service to The Heart Touch

I have been doing and teaching massage and touch for almost 30 years. The past 20 plus years in the field of Conscious Sexuality, Kashmiri Pleasure Massage, Yoni Massage, Taoist Massage, Lingam Massage, Energy Massage,...

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