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Drop Into Your Body

Drop into your body. Drop deep, into the base, into the pelvis. On so many journeys, in so many teachings, it’s about moving up, moving away from our base. And it just may be that moving the other...

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Imagine That You Had a Lover

Imagine that you had a lover, and that lover wanted to explore your body, get to know your body, caress your body. Imagine that this lover wanted to find the ways and places you like...

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The Dance of Seduction

There is something so important in relationships, it's vital to the longevity of a relationship, to the excitement and intimacy of a relationship. Seduction. To keep seducing each other. Over and over again. Seduction is...

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Enter From Within

I learned something this week. Enter from within. It sounds paradoxical, it is, as is so much of life, when we really see it. Enter from within. It's expanding inside of me, showing more every...

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This Touch of Possibility

I was thinking about all the massage experiences I teach and do. Conscious Sensual Massage, a vast field of healing and pleasure, Taoist Sexual Energy Massage, Kashmiri Massage, Water Flow Massage, Yoni Massage in its...

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Three (Erotic) Things

Three things, just three things. And so much happens with these three things. They could be any 3 things, and today I chose these. Rope, a blindfold, a flogger. The strands of the flogger are made...

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One Journey, Thank You

We've shared a lot this year, you and I. Some in person, some on the other side of a screen, some reading what I write, some on my DVD's and programmes. I am grateful for...

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The Dance of the Heart

'My touch is the dance of my heart on your body.' I wrote this line and shared it in an image a few days ago, then I read it a few times. Earlier in the day...

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The Freedom of Sacred Saliva

Let's start with this. What makes saliva sacred? Nothing, other than it's an element of our Divine body, and as everything, every bodily fluid, is part of us, in this Divine body. And if we were more...

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Man to Man Kashmiri Massage

For a man to sit opposite another man and to look into his eyes is powerful. For a man to sit naked opposite another man is powerful. For a man to hold his hands out...

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Be Still and Know

I went to dancing on Saturday night, around the fire, with the wind and some rain. Sensual. And primal. Moments of just the music in my ears and my body moving, the earth beneath my...

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She Got Fire

She got fire. From deep in the earth. From the volcano that burns in the deep of the ocean. From the stars that give birth to worlds. She got fire. In her eyes, in her words,...

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What You Seek

The next thing is that we're going to create a space within us for something to happen. In this space, which is a space of intimacy with ourselves, a space of awareness. A space of...

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Out of Time Into Pleasure

There is a beautiful unfolding in the journey of teaching, which is the journey of learning. I talk, and teach, a lot about orgasms. I also talk, and teach, a lot, about how orgasms are...

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The Heart of Male Sexuality

We have, us men, these Hearts. We have this energy of connection. We have this space to hold you in. We have this fire to heat you in. We have this roar to appreciate you...

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Precious Tears

There have been a lot of tears this week. My tears, men's tears, women's tears. Tears of gratitude and celebration. Tears of hurt. Tears of what's been hidden, being revealed, and the lightness, the freedom...

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A Neck Nuzzle

I would like to share something with you that is so delicious, so simple. And like a lot of simple things in the world of sensuality there is such depth, such subtlety and such nuance...

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The Space of Male Pleasure Possibility

In many of the workshops and lessons and experiences I've been facilitating lately, and over all the time I've been teaching, I've seen something in many men. Regardless of what the workshop or experience is...

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The Penetration of Fire

There's an art of penetration that can deepen the experience incredibly for both partners. It's more about energy. About exploring sensation. About an intimacy, which is often lacking in friction sex. About the portal the energy...

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Sexual Awakening, Life Awakening

Recently I've been doing a lot of work with people, men and women, on sexual awakening. This isn't something new, I've been doing this for a long time, and over time the elements of this...

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Penetration of the Heart

The way most people have penetrative sex is what we call friction sex. That's exactly what it is, skin rubbing against skin. We generally do it harder and faster as the sensation builds to have...

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The Limitless Conversation of Touch

Touch is a language That goes deeper than words It's the language of the body That has a knowing That speaks to the heart To the places deep within us Learning to touch, to massage, is one of...

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Hey Man, Learn to Soften

I work a lot with men with 'performance' issues. And that's a big part of the problem. It's not a performance. It's not a race, a competition, an achievement. It's not something you have to...

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Intimacy Bypass

I was thinking about intimacy, sex, making love. I was contemplating a piece I thought I was ready to write called Foreplay of the Heart. That wasn't quite there, this was. Often, for many of...

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She’d Like You to Know

Over the past weeks, as over the years, I've had some conversations with women. These are women who are looking to heal, expand, change, improve their relationships. They'd like, love, want so much, to have...

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Heart – Centered Erotic Touch

The first thing I teach everyone I work with, the first thing we do on all the workshops and retreats, the first thing on all the webinars, is The Heart Connection. When I started teaching...

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Soft Sex

So often when we hear the term soft sex we think about a soft Lingam. That can be such a beautiful experience and has some amazing possibilities. I'd like to share something different with you...

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Divine Desire

I started writing a piece on the shame of desire. This came up a lot in the past week with my students and clients. How we've been made to feel shame for the desires we...

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The (Yoni) Freedom to Feel

The freedom to feel is the freedom to experience, feeling, sensation, energy, emotion. It's the freedom to experience the moment, in the fullness of all that it has to offer. To feel this requires us...

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Meet Yourself in Pleasure

In pleasure we meet ourselves. In deep, conscious pleasure we meet some of the deepest parts of who we are. My teaching journey began teaching about pleasure, particularly women's pleasure. This included offering touch, massage...

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The Intimacy of Being

Intimacy is a state of being. It's who we are. It's within us. Looking for intimacy, which is what so many of us are, especially now. Looking for intimacy is looking for ourselves. It's a journey...

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Erotic Humility

This first came to me in the context of Yoni, and Lingam Massage. As I sat with it, exploring it, I became aware of how it extends to all erotic and pleasure experiences. Erotic Humility....

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My Relationship With My Yoni

On the wall in my bedroom is a picture of a Lingam, and a stylised Yoni. They were made for me by a lover. I can't share the Lingam image with you, it's been deemed...

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Yoni Kiss

I offer you my mouth That you may experience your pleasure I offer you my lips, my tongue, my teeth That you may experience your Yoni In sensation, in feeling, in energy, in delight, in celebration I offer you...

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Sexually Bored, You Must Be Asleep!

Recently a few people, both couples and single people have come to see me because they're sexually bored. I've been teaching in the field of Conscious Sexuality for over 20 years, and this is a...

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YoniLIngam in the Body

Much of my work is in the world of sexual healing. At least that's where many journeys start, then they become more about learning, growing, exploring, expanding. These journeys also become more about life, all...

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For Whom do we Heal?

Yesterday I shared a post that I wrote a while ago, called What's Become of Us. It's on my page if you'd like to read it. It was prompted by a few things. Many women...

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What Else is There?

The past weeks have been difficult for me. I've felt a little lost, alone, down. I'm usually quite focused, I've been scattered. I've been thinking about where I'm going in a way that's not directed...

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My Genital Relationship

Much of my work is, or begins with sexuality, the relationship we have with our sexuality is, of course, a large part of this. This relationship forms the framework of the journey, it gives it...

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Coffee and Rope

Last week I did a rope workshop facilitated by a friend in Australia. It was a very non-traditional approach, that wasn't really about tying, knots, positions etc, which is often quite technical. This was about...

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