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Conscious Self-Pleasuring

Self-Pleasuring is a journey of not only deep pleasure, intimacy and love with ourselves, but also a path of awareness, presence and even health....

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From Pattern to Pleasure

May is traditionally known as Mast*******n Month, which brings so many possibilities to awareness. Possibilities of pleasure, of sexual energy, of self-love, exploration, growth, healing and intimacy. For a long time I've spoken about the...

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Life is a Sensual Environment

At almost every workshop I talk about creating a sensual space for experiences, for connection, for pleasure, for deep communication, for ritual etc. I talk about the elements of this space, being warm, music, candles,...

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The Freedom of Yoni Massage

There are many different expressions of Yoni Massage that I offer and teach. There's Quiet Yoni, a deep, slow, gentle meditation of touch. There's The Fire Massage, building sexual energy to a heightened state of pleasure,...

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Lingam Healing, A New Practice

There is a deep practice of Lingam Healing, male healing, heart healing. It's a practice of presence. It's a slow practice, it has very little movement. It's a practice of time, in two ways, the...

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We Can’t Make Love, It’s There

I was thinking about making love, and some interesting things came to awareness. Often in workshops and discussions there's a question that comes up, which is What's the difference between having sex and making love....

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The Place of Pleasure

For many of us pleasure is way down the list of what's important. And I'm not talking about sex and orgasm. I'm talking about pleasure, the energy that vibrates in every cell in our bodies....

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The Body of Possibility

In a few weeks, less than 2 in fact, I'm teaching a series of workshops in Ireland that we've called The Body of Possibility. And that's what they're about, the possibility that's in our bodies....

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Worship the Pearl

Last week was Coffee and Cunnilingus Day, which came about in response to Steak and Blow-Job Day, which came about in response to Valentine's Day. Makes me wonder what's next. I write a Coffee Blog,...

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Don’t Forget to Play

I had some deep and serious stuff to share with you today, and then I had a conversation with someone yesterday that changed it. Here's what it brought to mind. We take sex seriously, and in...

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Hello Tantra Massage

For so long I've stayed away from the term Tantric Massage. Mostly because of the sexual connotation that so many people bring to it. I get so many requests from people who want to learn...

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The Conscious Erotic

There is a moment, a Divine Erotic Moment. A Conscious Erotic Moment. It could be with my face in your neck, breathing your scent in, feeling the soft warmth of the curve there. It could...

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Connecting, Man to Man

There is a sensuality of men, between men, that few of us get to experience. It is rich in gifts, deep, vast. Gifts of support, of connection, of intimacy. Gifts of the body, gifts of...

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Deep Erotic Experience

There are moments of Erotic experience, moments of deep pleasure, moments of sexual energy, moments of intimacy, moments of the heart, moments of the body, that have no words. They're sacred moments, moments of an...

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Arousal from the Throat

For a long time I've been working with the connection between our genitals and throat. For many of us this begins as healing, releasing, opening. We hold so much there, so many unsaid things, so...

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Presence in Deep Yoni Massage

There is something fascinating that happens in Deep Yoni Massage. And I'm using the word deep in a few different ways here. And all of them are about presence, connection, intimacy, awareness, the heart. Which...

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Relax, It’s Important

There is something so important for both healing and pleasure that we tend to overlook. Maybe because it's so simple, and in its simplicity we forget about the power it has. To relax. We tend...

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The Receiving Man

A while ago I wrote a piece called What She'd Like You to Know. It sparked some deep and intimate sharing and discussion, about pleasure, about relationships and about communication. It also led to some...

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The Possibilities of Sexual Energy

As much as we might read about sexual energy, as much as we might read about the healing possibilities, the pleasure possibilities, the creative possibilities, the vitality, the life-force, the intimate possibilities, the spiritual possibilities,...

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The Deep Yoni Pause

There is something so important in Yoni Massage, both for healing and pleasure. Pause. Pause in your touch. Pause in your caress. Pause. Rest your hand, your fingers. Energy moves in the pause. Release is...

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The Pleasure In A Kiss

I love to kiss, and for me it's an experience of deep intimacy and arousal. There's a conversation in our kiss, in the delicate touch of lips and tongues we tell our lovers so much....

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My First Taoist Massage

I remember the very first Taoist Sexual Energy Massage I received. I had done many, taught it lots, and never received it. Then I taught it to a lover, who gave me the experience of...

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The Power of These Young Men

There is something so interesting happening lately, that is impacting on young men, mostly under 30. And what is amazing is that many of these guys are seeking help. This is big, as for so many...

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Expanded Energy Orgasm

Flow through orgasm into pleasure. Flow beyond orgasm into pleasure. Flow through sensation into energy. Flow from contraction into expansion. Flow from the end into the ocean of possibility. So much changes when we experience...

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Holding, A Touch of Presence

Holding. It's so powerful. It's so simple. It's so deep. Just holding. It can be a sacred experience, a meditation, on the body, on the warmth, on the texture of the skin, on what's beneath...

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Deep Cervical Pleasure

Expanding into potential. Expanding into Possibility. Expanding into the space within. The twin flames of energy and pleasure dance with each other in the body. The Heart opens. The Body opens. 'I felt the pulsations...

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After Valentine’s Day

I’m not a great fan of Valentine’s Day. More than anything else because of the commercialization which it gives us as an empty expression of love. You get the flowers, the chocolate the jewellery, the lingerie,...

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Surrender to Pleasure

We surrender to our sexuality, to our deep pleasure by becoming sex rather than doing sex, having sex. For many of us sex is a doing thing, it has a progression that we follow, which...

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The Sexual Energy of Self-Pleasuring Experience

I recently shared a piece about a Sexual Energy Self-Pleasuring Workshop and experience. Your response was great, so here it is, online, wherever you are.   The Sexual Energy of Self-Pleasuring Experience.   Through connection with out bodies, touch, breath,...

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Drop Into Your Body

Drop into your body. Drop deep, into the base, into the pelvis. On so many journeys, in so many teachings, it’s about moving up, moving away from our base. And it just may be that moving the other...

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Imagine That You Had a Lover

Imagine that you had a lover, and that lover wanted to explore your body, get to know your body, caress your body. Imagine that this lover wanted to find the ways and places you like...

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Sexually Bored, You Must Be Asleep!

Recently a few people, both couples and single people have come to see me because they're sexually bored. I've been teaching in the field of Conscious Sexuality for over 20 years, and this is a...

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YoniLIngam in the Body

Much of my work is in the world of sexual healing. At least that's where many journeys start, then they become more about learning, growing, exploring, expanding. These journeys also become more about life, all...

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For Whom do we Heal?

Yesterday I shared a post that I wrote a while ago, called What's Become of Us. It's on my page if you'd like to read it. It was prompted by a few things. Many women...

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What Else is There?

The past weeks have been difficult for me. I've felt a little lost, alone, down. I'm usually quite focused, I've been scattered. I've been thinking about where I'm going in a way that's not directed...

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My Genital Relationship

Much of my work is, or begins with sexuality, the relationship we have with our sexuality is, of course, a large part of this. This relationship forms the framework of the journey, it gives it...

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Conscious Self-Pleasuring, A Free Webinar

Where we live, in Johannesburg, South Africa, we’re back in a semi-lockdown. We’re spending more time at home, so let’s get intimate with ourselves. Conscious Self-Pleasuring offers us a world of possibilities, of sensations, of energy,...

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Coffee and Rope

Last week I did a rope workshop facilitated by a friend in Australia. It was a very non-traditional approach, that wasn't really about tying, knots, positions etc, which is often quite technical. This was about...

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Self-Pleasuring, An Inner Journey

Our sexuality is a guide, a teacher, a path of personal enquiry, a way to experience energy, a way to access deep states of consciousness, a way to become incredibly intimate with ourselves, a place...

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The Slow Magic

There is magic in slow. There is such power in slow. Slow brings us into presence. All else drifts away naturally when we are present. There is no struggle in slow, there is surrender, to...

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A Self-Pleasuring Energy Experience

This is a self-pleasuring experience that will allow you to experience your sexual energy. When we can build that energy, that beautiful, powerful, vital sexual energy, when we can build it and then keep it...

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