Tag: #orgasmicenergy

The Dance of Yoni Massage

Look into her eyes.
Breathe.
Just breathe.
There are no thoughts in this moment.
There is the opening to love.
Breathe into your heart.
Just breathe.

The Massage of Making Love

Can you touch this body as if you were making love?
Not making love as most of our world sees it.
Making Love.
Your hands expressing your heart.
Taking care.
Each movement gentle, slow, deep.
Making Love with your touch.

The Making of an Erotic Massage Therapist Pt 19

I was looking through a Dropbox folder that had some pictures from a shoot we did a few years ago.
There were some pictures of a double massage, two people massaging one person, four hands on a body.

It’s a beautiful experience that heightens the sensations, sometimes radically. The Erotic aspect of it can be incredible. Four hands make so much more stimulation possible, so many places can be touched at the same time.

The Making of an Erotic Massage Therapist Pt 18

One of the biggest blockages to experiencing and exploring the world of erotic massage is the story.
The story is deeply ingrained and impacts on women more than men.
It’s a story that reflects the fullness of the story of sexuality and pleasure.

The story is in the past.
It’s rooted in judgement, inhibition, guilt and shame.
It’s religious, it’s political and it keeps us disconnected from the possibilities of pleasure.
It keeps us trapped in a system that represses sexuality and pleasure.

The Making of an Erotic Massage Therapist Pt 17

We live in a world obsessed with measuring things, with the rightness or wrongness of so many aspects of life based on measurement.
We judge people, give them value by how much they have.
This obsession has led to an incredibly warped view of what normal is.

The Making of an Erotic Massage Therapist Pt 16

I had a beautiful experience last week, I taught a sensual massage lesson to a couple in their seventies who have been married for 52 years.
It’s not the first time people this age have come to a workshop or retreat, and it is beautiful every time it happens.

The Making of an Erotic Massage Therapist Pt 15

One of the most beautiful, and most powerful, gifts that an Erotic Massage experience gives us, is the gift of receiving.

For so many women sex and pleasure come with many unstated rules and beliefs. There are many unwritten expectations that have not changed in a long time. Some of the deepest of these are that women’s pleasure is secondary, that pleasure is transactional and that reciprocation is a line with great unfairness.

Touch is a language, a communication that often goes deeper than words.
It tells of an authenticity that you feel deep inside, especially when that touch is from the heart.
The hands that touch you, hold you, caress you, stroke you, acknowledge your body.

The Making of an Erotic Massage Therapist Pt 14

One of the most beautiful, one of the most powerful, and one of the most healing ways of being seen and acknowledged is through touch.

Touch is a language, a communication that often goes deeper than words.
It tells of an authenticity that you feel deep inside, especially when that touch is from the heart.
The hands that touch you, hold you, caress you, stroke you, acknowledge your body.

The Making of an Erotic Massage Therapist Pt 13

There’s an interesting idea about healing, and life.
For so long we’ve been convinced that it’s about learning, about lessons, about fixing the problems, about diagnosing, putting it into a box with labels.
And then we’ll understand it.
And then we’ll know what to do with it, about it.

The Making of an Erotic Massage Therapist Pt 12

I was recently asked why I use the word ‘erotic’ and not ‘tantric’.

Every word has connotations, meanings, which are different in different parts of the world.
They’re also different internally, meaning different things to us individually. And that can change over time, and with the experiences we have, and as our understanding of who we are and what we do, how we express ourselves changes.

The Making of an Erotic Massage Therapist Pt 11

A while ago I was sitting with some colleagues, facilitators in different fields.
One of them said to me ‘I wish I was brave enough to attend one of your workshops.’
I was really surprised at that. These were people who do some pretty deep work.
But sexuality and pleasure are a different world, especially our own.

The Making of an Erotic Massage Therapist Pt 8

There’s something interesting that happens from time to time, with women more than men.
A woman will come and talk about healing because her body isn’t very sensitive, she doesn’t get very aroused from being touched and she’d like to change that.

The Making of an Erotic Massage Therapist Pt 6

The very first Taoist Sexual Energy Massage I did with a man was an interesting initiation. He had both nipples pierced, three genital piercings and various other piercings.
I was young, sexually, and body inexperienced. To say that this was a stretch was putting it mildly.
In time I came to experience so many bodies, types of bodies, variations, things people did to their bodies. I doubt that I’ve seen it all, simply because the human possibility in every way is without limits.

The Making of an Erotic massage Therapist Pt 5 – The Bliss Body

We have a pain body, and most of us know that well, we live from it.
We also have a Bliss Body.

We have a shadow, when we do growth work, healing work, we come to know the shadow well.
We also have a Bliss Body.

We don’t know the Bliss Body.
It’s subtle and deep, maybe the deepest part of who we are, and maybe the most subtle.
It’s the place where Source and Form meet.

Awakening The Beast – On The Path of Sexual Authenticity

A few weeks ago I wrote a piece called Exploring The Fire.
Since then I’ve had conversations with and Sat with people in my office who have all said something similar, and most of them have used exactly the same words.
‘I want to meet my beast.’

Men and Women.
‘I want to meet my beast.’

The Making of an Erotic Massage Therapist Pt 4

When you do this work from the heart, when you touch from the heart, it’s intimate.
Not only bodily intimate.
And the intimacy is what makes so much possible.
It opens the heart more and yet more.
It allows more energy to flow, through me, from me, through you, for you.
And for me.

The Making of an Erotic Massage Therapist Pt 2

When you know a little about energy, a little about sexual energy, a little about the body, a little about arousal, you can turn someone on really easily. You can take them to orgasm easily.
It often doesn’t take a lot if you know a little.
Especially the way most women have been touched.

A Crazy Little Thing Called Love

Nobody prepares us for love.
And maybe nobody can.
But we can go beyond the illusion.
Beyond what Hollywood and the media portrays love to be.
Beyond the myths we’re fed about love.

Because love is messy. It creates upheaval.

The Silent Suffering

For so many people sex is the place of silent suffering.
For so many men there is still such a stigma, such embarrassment, such shame about having a sexual problem.
For most men this is around erection problems, early ejaculation, loss of desire and libido, a lack of intimacy and even a lack of interest in sex.
Sexual performance, sexual prowess.
That’s what it’s become to be about for men.
And in truth what it’s come to be about is sexual pressure, emotional pressure.

The Making of an Erotic Massage Therapist Pt 1

I’d like to share some of my journey with you, what brought me to this point as an erotic massage therapist and teacher.

I’ve been doing this for over 20 years and it’s a journey of continuous learning, expansion, growth, exploration, understanding and connection.
It’s about the body, it’s about the mind, it’s about the heart, it’s about energy, it’s about sexuality, it’s about sensuality, it’s about eroticism, it’s about intimacy and more.

Sensual, Erotic, Tantric Poetry

You open your body and you take me into you.

You open more and take me deeper and even deeper into you.

Space within your Yoni seems to be without end, boundless, as you give yourself to me.

And I, I too take you into me.

Yoni Healing Massage Pt 2

I begin with guiding her through 3 breaths, each one deeper and slower.
One hand in her heart, the other on her yoni.
Connecting.
Slowing down.
Breathing.
Then 5 points on the pubic bone.

Yoni Healing Massage

Yoni Healing Massage and Yoni Pleasure Massage are not always the same.
Pleasure massage, with a heart touch, and an intention of Honouring, of giving, of connection, will always have a healing element.
Healing Massage is different.
It’s a specific practice, or rather, series of practices with a very clear intention.
To heal, to release, to relax, to soften, to open, to sensitise, to vitalise, to connect, to embody.

If I Were To…

If I were to write something today about sex and energy I would write that sex changes when it becomes an energy experience more than a physical one.
That the physical, our bodies, our beautiful bodies, and our genitals, our delicious genitals, Yoni and Lingam, are portals to worlds of energy, to worlds of experience, to worlds of intimacy that, like the universe, are without limit.

My Massage Journey

My journey in healing began with massage and I have reconnected with this in such a beautiful and deep way.
Bodywork, touchwork, have always been a big part of what I do, from the understanding that our patterns are in the mind and in the body.
We are energy, our bodies are energy.

The State Of Orgasmic Potential

The body is a field of possibility.
By being more in the body we can access that field.

Orgasmic energy is a field of possibility.
Be being more in that field we can be more in an orgasmic state.