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A Pleasure Practice

I was thinking about a Pleasure Practice. I was thinking that we have all kinds of practices, health practices, spiritual practices etc. But what about a Pleasure Practice, a Sexuality Practice, an Intimacy Practice, a...

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To Worship My Lover

I write a lot, I teach a lot about worship. Yoni Worship, Lingam worship. Touch and massage as a form of worship. Touch as a sacred expression. Worship of your lover, in pleasure, in breath,...

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All Orgasms Are Different!

For many of us the model of sex is based on what we think it should be, how we think it should be, how we think it should look. This is often a porn-based model,...

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The Exploration of a Body

The exploration of a body is the exploration of a life. The exploration of a body is the exploration of the world. The exploration of a body is timeless, limitless. It changes as the body changes,...

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Healing by Adding, Expanding

The framework of healing I've been sharing since I began this journey is about patterns. That's how we work. The patterns are in our minds and in our bodies, and they're mostly subconscious. We mostly...

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Erotic Inspiration

Erotic Inspiration is a delicious phrase, filled with such possibility. In all aspects of life. An Erotic Life is so much more than a sexual and genital expression of that energy. But that's what so...

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Sometimes Fulfillment is Elusive

I am so fortunate in getting to have the conversations, and experiences, that I have. And how much of one person’s journey is all of ours, how the learning, the understanding in one space can...

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From Pattern to Pleasure

May is traditionally known as Mast*******n Month, which brings so many possibilities to awareness. Possibilities of pleasure, of sexual energy, of self-love, exploration, growth, healing and intimacy. For a long time I've spoken about the...

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Life is a Sensual Environment

At almost every workshop I talk about creating a sensual space for experiences, for connection, for pleasure, for deep communication, for ritual etc. I talk about the elements of this space, being warm, music, candles,...

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The Freedom of Yoni Massage

There are many different expressions of Yoni Massage that I offer and teach. There's Quiet Yoni, a deep, slow, gentle meditation of touch. There's The Fire Massage, building sexual energy to a heightened state of pleasure,...

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Lingam Healing, A New Practice

There is a deep practice of Lingam Healing, male healing, heart healing. It's a practice of presence. It's a slow practice, it has very little movement. It's a practice of time, in two ways, the...

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We Can’t Make Love, It’s There

I was thinking about making love, and some interesting things came to awareness. Often in workshops and discussions there's a question that comes up, which is What's the difference between having sex and making love....

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The Place of Pleasure

For many of us pleasure is way down the list of what's important. And I'm not talking about sex and orgasm. I'm talking about pleasure, the energy that vibrates in every cell in our bodies....

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The Body of Possibility

In a few weeks, less than 2 in fact, I'm teaching a series of workshops in Ireland that we've called The Body of Possibility. And that's what they're about, the possibility that's in our bodies....

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Worship the Pearl

Last week was Coffee and Cunnilingus Day, which came about in response to Steak and Blow-Job Day, which came about in response to Valentine's Day. Makes me wonder what's next. I write a Coffee Blog,...

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Don’t Forget to Play

I had some deep and serious stuff to share with you today, and then I had a conversation with someone yesterday that changed it. Here's what it brought to mind. We take sex seriously, and in...

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Hello Tantra Massage

For so long I've stayed away from the term Tantric Massage. Mostly because of the sexual connotation that so many people bring to it. I get so many requests from people who want to learn...

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The Conscious Erotic

There is a moment, a Divine Erotic Moment. A Conscious Erotic Moment. It could be with my face in your neck, breathing your scent in, feeling the soft warmth of the curve there. It could...

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Connecting, Man to Man

There is a sensuality of men, between men, that few of us get to experience. It is rich in gifts, deep, vast. Gifts of support, of connection, of intimacy. Gifts of the body, gifts of...

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Deep Erotic Experience

There are moments of Erotic experience, moments of deep pleasure, moments of sexual energy, moments of intimacy, moments of the heart, moments of the body, that have no words. They're sacred moments, moments of an...

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Arousal from the Throat

For a long time I've been working with the connection between our genitals and throat. For many of us this begins as healing, releasing, opening. We hold so much there, so many unsaid things, so...

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Presence in Deep Yoni Massage

There is something fascinating that happens in Deep Yoni Massage. And I'm using the word deep in a few different ways here. And all of them are about presence, connection, intimacy, awareness, the heart. Which...

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Relax, It’s Important

There is something so important for both healing and pleasure that we tend to overlook. Maybe because it's so simple, and in its simplicity we forget about the power it has. To relax. We tend...

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The Receiving Man

A while ago I wrote a piece called What She'd Like You to Know. It sparked some deep and intimate sharing and discussion, about pleasure, about relationships and about communication. It also led to some...

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The Possibilities of Sexual Energy

As much as we might read about sexual energy, as much as we might read about the healing possibilities, the pleasure possibilities, the creative possibilities, the vitality, the life-force, the intimate possibilities, the spiritual possibilities,...

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The Deep Yoni Pause

There is something so important in Yoni Massage, both for healing and pleasure. Pause. Pause in your touch. Pause in your caress. Pause. Rest your hand, your fingers. Energy moves in the pause. Release is...

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The Pleasure In A Kiss

I love to kiss, and for me it's an experience of deep intimacy and arousal. There's a conversation in our kiss, in the delicate touch of lips and tongues we tell our lovers so much....

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My Relationship With My Yoni

On the wall in my bedroom is a picture of a Lingam, and a stylised Yoni. They were made for me by a lover. I can't share the Lingam image with you, it's been deemed...

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Yoni Kiss

I offer you my mouth That you may experience your pleasure I offer you my lips, my tongue, my teeth That you may experience your Yoni In sensation, in feeling, in energy, in delight, in celebration I offer you...

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Sexually Bored, You Must Be Asleep!

Recently a few people, both couples and single people have come to see me because they're sexually bored. I've been teaching in the field of Conscious Sexuality for over 20 years, and this is a...

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YoniLIngam in the Body

Much of my work is in the world of sexual healing. At least that's where many journeys start, then they become more about learning, growing, exploring, expanding. These journeys also become more about life, all...

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For Whom do we Heal?

Yesterday I shared a post that I wrote a while ago, called What's Become of Us. It's on my page if you'd like to read it. It was prompted by a few things. Many women...

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The Erotic Mouth

Our mouths are centres of delicious eroticism and sensation. Our mouths are centres of deep intimacy, and the many ways we can express that. Our mouths are centres of such freedom. Our mouths are centres of energy. Our...

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What Else is There?

The past weeks have been difficult for me. I've felt a little lost, alone, down. I'm usually quite focused, I've been scattered. I've been thinking about where I'm going in a way that's not directed...

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My Genital Relationship

Much of my work is, or begins with sexuality, the relationship we have with our sexuality is, of course, a large part of this. This relationship forms the framework of the journey, it gives it...

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Coffee and Rope

Last week I did a rope workshop facilitated by a friend in Australia. It was a very non-traditional approach, that wasn't really about tying, knots, positions etc, which is often quite technical. This was about...

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Self-Pleasuring, An Inner Journey

Our sexuality is a guide, a teacher, a path of personal enquiry, a way to experience energy, a way to access deep states of consciousness, a way to become incredibly intimate with ourselves, a place...

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Tears of Orgasm

We talk about all the different kinds of orgasms women, and men, can experience. Many people I, and I'm sure many other practitioners, work with, come to learn how to have these different experiences. In...

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The Yoni and Lingam Meditation of Gazing

Yoni or Lingam Meditation of Gazing is looking with, through, the eyes of your heart. It's a meditation on loving, accepting, acknowledging, in the giving and in the receiving. It's a meditation on presence, sexual...

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One Breath of Pleasure

There is such power, such possibility, in one breath. In the world of pleasure we're often looking for more. More feeling, more sensation, more experiences, more technique, more partners, more toys… Most of these things...

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Making Love With Life and Yoga

I talk about, teach about, Making Love with Life, and the limitless possibilities that that holds for us. Last week I had such a direct and beautiful experience of this. In these moments, Life, in...

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This Sensual Coffee of Presence

The afternoon winter sun, it's delicious in Johannesburg. Coffee and a few mouthfuls of something sweet. I have a weakness for pastry, and today it's a mini almond croissant. A digression, more coffee shops should...

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The Nurtured C***

For over 25 years on my journey into Conscious Sexuality I've been learning about men and male sexuality. Firstly by going into my own Sexuality and sensuality, and then by spending so much time with...

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Cl-itoral Pulsations

Part of Cl-iteracy, which is to be clitorally literate. To be literate with something is to know it, to have knowledge of it. And to be able to read it, to understand it. That on its own...

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The Subtle Power of Stillness

TThere's a thing with sex, as soon as we're inside someone, or someone is inside us, to move. It's almost as if our pelvis has a life, a will of its own, as if we're programmed...

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