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What Has Become Of Us?

There is something that I've been hearing so much lately in my work. 'I can't tell him that, it's going to hurt his ego.' Is this what we've become, us men. ...

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A Ritual of Offering

There is such power in ritual in a relationship. It's an experience of consciousness, of presence. In this space we come together with an intention. We come into intimacy, we come into our hearts, we come...

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Taoist Sexual Rhythm

One of the deepest practices that I offer and teach is Taoist Sexual Energy Massage. It's a full-body massage that works with the body’s meridian system, bringing healing to the entire being every time you...

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Words on My Lover’s Body

If you wrote a poem on your lover’s body, what would it say? Even your imaginary lover, the lover that you would like to have, the lover you dream about. Where on their body would you write...

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The Shifting Sands of Perception

Last week in my practice there were some amazing realizations that came through shifting perspectives and asking different questions. Asking different questions allows us to see things differently. When we can see things differently we...

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Disneyland and The Holy Grail

So many of us are looking for the Disneyland of sex, love and pleasure. We think that's where it is, the ultimate. It’s like a roller-coaster or ghost-train. It's a thrill. A quick thrill. There...

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Tell Me Something Different!

Most of my work is in the field of Conscious Sexuality and Relationships, which means that that’s what most people come and see me for, and that’s where most journeys start. However, as our sexuality doesn’t...

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Heart-Centered Healing

There's a model of healing I keep coming back to. It's challenging because it challenges the way we look at healing. It's not about fixing the problem. And that's the problem. We’ve been convinced we have to fix...

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Sitting With Love

I sat alone in the night and I asked Love to come and sit with me. I know Love in all its exquisite savagery, in all its terrible beauty. I know the gentleness and tenderness...

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The Questions We Shouldn’t Ask

There are some questions we shouldn't ask. Because the answers make us uncomfortable, they make us squirm inside. Because if we ask them we might have to do something about it. Because if we ask them we...

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You Think You Have Time

We think we have time. We don't. The people in our lives are there, and then they're not. Some will be for a lifetime, some will be for a day. For so many reasons. ...

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Sexual Healing

There is a way of making love that is deeply healing. It has a breath, a deep, gentle breath. It's in the element of presence. It's in the intention of intimacy, of love. ...

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A Celebration of Men

It was so beautiful to share the space with these men, to see how they allowed themselves to connect with each other, to hold and support each other, literally and metaphorically, to engage with the...

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Sexuality, Life, Healing

Our sexuality is in the context of our lives. It's not, as many people think, and the way they express it, in a little box that they take out in very specific circumstances and use...

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Sexsational! – Cape Town

Sexsational! Thurs 14 Feb, 7pm, Venue to be Confirmed,   R450/person So many workshops are about topics around sex. This is about sex, penetrative sex, and how to take this to the heights you've imagined it to be, and...

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Men Going Deeper

Last week in my practice I had two incredibly deep experiences. Both of these are connected to a different story of our sexuality...

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Men’s Story

As I look at a different story for our sexuality I turn to an experience I had recently and what it brought to mind...

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Makers of Love

During some deep discuss with me lover we've spoken about not knowing what certain words mean to us anymore. A good example of this is ‘spirituality’...

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