A FULL-BODY BREAST ORGASM
A full-body energy orgasm from having one breast, one nipple stimulated.
I share this with you because of the possibility.
I share this with you to show how limitless pleasure is.
I share this with you to show what’s in our bodies.
I share this with you to show the power of sexual energy.
THE AROUSING EXCITEMENT OF A CONSCIOUS QUICKIE
A while ago I shared an idea I had with a group I have.
It was to write a piece of erotica/sensuality in 20 words or less.
There was some delicious sharing in this, and it made me think about something.
BROKEN PANCAKES, CREATIVITY, LOVE, LIFE…
If you know me well, you know that I love pancakes.
This morning I made some blueberry cottage cheese pancakes, which were so delicious.
One bite exploded blueberry juice in my mouth, down my chin, sublime, a joy!
FREEDOM, CREATIVITY, PLEASURE – THE BEAUTIFUL POSSIBILITY
I’m running a retreat in a few weeks called The Erotic Encounter. It’s an annual event, this year the theme is Freedom.
Contemplating this, gathering the elements for the event, is so exciting for me.
I love to create, in many ways, I love to write.
And I love to create experiences, events, workshops, for both clients and lovers.
I AM LOST IN YOU
I am lost in you
I’m lost in your body
And nothing else exists right now
I’m lost in the landscape of your body
And there is no other place right now
THE RAW SENSUALITY OF BEING IN PLEASURE
Choosing pleasure is choosing to expand into the space within us, the space between us, the space around us.
It’s choosing to create, ourselves, anew, in many ways, through the experience of sensual awareness.
SLOW UNION, A DEEP PLEASURE ENERGY EXPERIENCE
There is an art of making love, an art of pleasure.
Its power is often found in subtlety.
Slow it down, slow it down, slow it down.
FROM PATTERN TO PLEASURE IN THE UNEXPECTED
And to know that our eroticism is an endless mystery to be explored.
When we go beyond the patterns, we discover dimensions of pleasure, of arousal, of energy, that keep expanding, and that keep expanding us.
LESSONS IN SACRED SEX
Slowly, she said to me, slowly.
Rest the head of your Lingam at the opening of my Yoni.
Be still, breathe.
Feel her open, feel her begin to invite you in, to welcome you.
2 PATHS ON THIS FASCINATING SEXUAL JOURNEY
I see 2 paths on this journey of sexuality.
They’re not mutually exclusive, we can weave and dance between them.
One can lead to the other.
And yet there are some fundamental differences between them.
MY JOURNEY, MY STORY OF PLEASURE
I have given pleasure to many people over the years, sometimes it seems countless.
So many strangers, in so many venues, places, days, nights, have lain on my table, or whose spread thighs I’ve sat between.
THEATER OF THE EROTIC AT THE LOVE EXPO
This coming weekend is The Love (Sex) Expo in Pretoria.
And, BTW, there are some special offers on my online courses, message me for details.
Besides the talks I’m giving, I’m presenting The Theatre of the Erotic, which are live experiences of Sensual Bondage Massage, Yoni and Lingam Massages.
There are things that I see every year at this event, which I always find interesting.
ENERGY MOVES IN THE PAUSE
Energy moves in the pause
Sensation is in the pause.
Feeling is in the pause.
Presence is in the pause.
Power is in the pause.
THE LIBERATING PLEASURE AND POWER OF SENSUAL PLAY
I had a play session with a lover a while ago that was just that, play.
We were giggling and laughing, hooting in delight.
We were growling and biting and tickling.
We were rolling around wrestling.
THE ENTICING INVITATION OF NUDEVEMBER
Nudevember has some wonderful opportunities and invitations for us.
One of these, and it’s such a big part of the work, the workshops, the journeys we share, is the relationship we have with our bodies.
THE BEAUTIFUL APPRECIATION OF SOFT-C&CK PLEASURE
This week is Soft-C&ck Appreciation Week.
And for many men, the vast majority, and women, it’s an anathema, it’s a fear, it’s a terror, it’s a nightmare.
It’s a space, a situation of such stress for so many men, and their partners, that even the thought of it causes even more stress.
WHAT IF I TOLD YOU THAT I DON’T WANT TO MAKE YOU CLIMAX
What if I told you that I didn’t want to make you come, in any way.
What if I told you that I wasn’t interested in asking you squirt.
What if I told you that I didn’t want any particular reaction or response from you.
GOING DEEPER THAN THE SURFACE OF PLEASURE
Many of us live surface lives, especially when it comes to our bodies.
Many of us live surface lives, especially when it comes to pleasure.
Many of us live surface lives, especially when it comes to sensuality, sexuality and eroticism.
THE SOFT, SLOW RELEASE OF DE-ARMOURING
I’ve been doing, and teaching De-armouring for a long time.
Yoni and Lingam, the breasts, the body.
My approach, and practice has always been soft, slow, gentle.
THE HEART OF INTIMACY AWAKENING
One of the meanings of Tantra is Weaving the Loom.
I love that, and keep coming to it in so many aspects of life.
One of these ‘stories’ came to me this morning.
I love how one idea, one thread, connects to another to another, and a ‘picture’ emerges.
THE TOUCH WITHIN THE TOUCH
It’s important because most of our communication is not verbal. In fact only about 30% is.
That’s one of the reasons that touch is so important, and more so, what’s in the touch.
THIS CONSCIOUS SEXUAL STUFF, THIS TANTRIC STUFF, IT’S FOR EVERYONE
This journey is for everyone.
It’s never too late.
It’s about you being comfortable with yourself, and coming home to yourself.
In all your delicious erotic beauty.
WHEN WE MAKE TALKING ABOUT &^* NORMAL
There is a question, an issue, that comes up a lot. It has, in all the time I’ve been doing this work, and more so recently.
One partner wants to heal, to grow, to learn, to explore.
The other doesn’t.
And this applies more to men than women, although it’s not exclusive.
TO FEEL LIKE A GODDESS FOR A BEAUTIFUL MOMENT
A while ago someone said to me after an experience, Thank you for making me feel like a Goddess, even for a little while.
This touched me deeply, and also brought some things to awareness.
IT’S IMPORTANT TO ME
I’m sitting here on a chilly Saturday in Johannesburg, contemplating writing a piece for my newsletter, and to share with you.
In a few weeks I’m sharing my Sensual Massage Workshop, A Lover’s Touch, as well the YoniLingam Massage.
LIFE IS TOO SHORT FOR BAD COFFEE, BAD SEX
Life is too short to have bad sex, and too short to have bad love.
It’s also too short to have bad coffee.
And a whole lot of other things.
Which begs the question. What is bad sex?
BECAUSE WHEN WE TOUCH SLOWLY…
Because when we touch slowly
We show we understand
The true nature of Yoni
And the time she needs.
THE TOUCH THAT INVITES TOUCH
There is a touch that seeks touch
There is a touch that invites touch
There is a heart that seeks another
There is love that seeks love
There is pleasure that seeks pleasure
There’s a beautiful concept that what we seek is seeking us.
THE IMPORTANCE, THE VALUE OF TOUCH
‘Twas touch that began this journey.
In the 1st year of a psychology course, studies on the impact of us not getting enough touch, adults and babies.
The physical, psychological, heart, energy, social impacts, how this affects pretty much every area of health.
That led to a 1st massage course, to explore touch more.
STEPPING INTO THE PLEASURE GAP
I shared a piece a while ago about some of the sexual and pleasure gaps we experience.
We talk about the orgasm gap, and that’s only a part of it.
One of the gaps, and it’s a big one, is the gap between what we’d like, and what we experience.
LESSONS IN SACRED SEXUALITY 6
Look into my eyes
She said
Look into my eyes
As you enter my body
That you enter my heart
That you enter my being
That you enter me
I’M A SENSUAL MASSAGE GEEK
Someone called me a name on the weekend, and I loved it. They called me a Sensual Massage Geek.
Yes, oh yes!
So much!
A while ago at an event someone came up to me and said ‘You’re the Massage guy.’
THE DEEP DESIRE FOR PRESENCE
One of our greatest desires
One of our greatest wants
In life
In love
In relationship
In pleasure
Is presence
A LOVER’S TOUCH
When you sit before another
And look into their eyes
When you breath into your heart
And feel the love that dwells there
ONE OF THE FREEDOMS OF CONSCIOUS TOUCH IS TO FEEL
One of the freedoms of Conscious Touch is the freedom to feel.
In this is the freedom to be present to feel everything.
The pleasure and the relaxation, the energy and the tension.
DON’T LET THE FIRE GO OUT
There’s a concept I use quite a lot when I teach, The Sexual Fire.
It’s a wonderful analogy for many things.
PLEASURE IS A HARSH MISTRESS
Pleasure is a harsh mistress
And a demanding taskmaster
She’s a savage lover
And a wild teacher
THE DESIRE TO BE SEEN
One of our greatest desires is to be seen.
Seen in a way that we feel deep inside.
Seen in a way that has a knowing beyond words.
Seen in a way that we feel beyond words.
THE YONI MASSAGE THAT MAY OR MAY NOT BE
Yoni Massage has become one of the Neo-Tantra Quasi-Spirituality Buzzwords.
And what many are offering as Yoni Massage is P**** Massage.
Which is fine, for what it is, and it’s a far experience from Yoni Massage.
OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS BODY OF PLEASURE
On Saturday I taught a Perineal Massage Workshop.
It’s a workshop I developed with a midwife many years ago, that’s based on a practice of intimacy and pleasure
THE SUBLIME PORTAL OF YAB-YUM
There is a way of making love that is sublime.
There is a way of making love that is surrender.
There is a way of making love that is about arising into the present.
THE LABELS OF PLEASURE
The labels of pleasure are often the limitation of pleasure.
I am a human being, a sensual being, a sexual being, a man of pleasure.
THE FREEDOMS OF SENSUAL AND EROTIC MASSAGE
Stepping into the world of sensual and erotic touch and massage is stepping into a world of permissions.
These permissions give us a freedom from and a freedom to.
YOU GOTTA LOVE LOVING
A big part of being a lover, of being a good lover, of being an amazing lover, in the fullness of that word, is to love loving.
To love looking, touching, feeling, tasting, smelling, sensing, listening, in every way.
To savour, to relish.
The body, the mind, the heart, the spirit, the being.
SOFTNESS IS THE INVITATION TO DEEP STATES OF PLEASURE
We enter deep states of pleasure through relaxation rather than through contraction.
We enter deep states of pleasure through softening rather than through tensing.
THE PAINFUL DISSERVICE TO MALE SEXUALITY
We have done men, and male sexuality a great disservice.
We have come to define successful male sexuality by 2 very narrow, very limiting things.
An erection, and the supposed ability to make a woman come.
THE INVITATION FOR PLEASURE IS IN THE PAUSE
For me, one of the really important aspects of being a teacher is to constantly be a learner.
I think so many of us learn something, a practice, a system, and keep repeating it.
The inner journey of healing, awareness, self-knowledge, exploration is vital on this path.
WHAT IT IS TO SHOW UP SEXUALLY
I was thinking about what it is to show up sexually, to show up sensually, to show up erotically.
To show up consciously.
And how different that might look from what so much of the world thinks it is.
THE TOUCH THAT REVEALS LOVE
A while ago I wrote a piece about making love that said we can’t make love, love is there, we reveal it.
I came back to it this week in a different way, a deeper way.
THE SUBTLE, STRONG AND ENCHANTING CLITORAL SYMPHONY
Most of us touch clitoris like Death Metal.
As hard, as fast, as loud as we can.
This amazing, this beautiful organ, is the entire orchestra, and the whole symphony.
It’s jazz and blues, it’s a mantra and a chant, an opera and a rock ballad, it’s new age and a raga…
