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Hey Man, Learn to Soften

I work a lot with men with 'performance' issues. And that's a big part of the problem. It's not a performance. It's not a race, a competition, an achievement. It's not something you have to...

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Intimacy Bypass

I was thinking about intimacy, sex, making love. I was contemplating a piece I thought I was ready to write called Foreplay of the Heart. That wasn't quite there, this was. Often, for many of...

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She’d Like You to Know

Over the past weeks, as over the years, I've had some conversations with women. These are women who are looking to heal, expand, change, improve their relationships. They'd like, love, want so much, to have...

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Heart – Centered Erotic Touch

The first thing I teach everyone I work with, the first thing we do on all the workshops and retreats, the first thing on all the webinars, is The Heart Connection. When I started teaching...

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Soft Sex

So often when we hear the term soft sex we think about a soft Lingam. That can be such a beautiful experience and has some amazing possibilities. I'd like to share something different with you...

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Divine Desire

I started writing a piece on the shame of desire. This came up a lot in the past week with my students and clients. How we've been made to feel shame for the desires we...

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The (Yoni) Freedom to Feel

The freedom to feel is the freedom to experience, feeling, sensation, energy, emotion. It's the freedom to experience the moment, in the fullness of all that it has to offer. To feel this requires us...

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Meet Yourself in Pleasure

In pleasure we meet ourselves. In deep, conscious pleasure we meet some of the deepest parts of who we are. My teaching journey began teaching about pleasure, particularly women's pleasure. This included offering touch, massage...

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The Intimacy of Being

Intimacy is a state of being. It's who we are. It's within us. Looking for intimacy, which is what so many of us are, especially now. Looking for intimacy is looking for ourselves. It's a journey...

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Erotic Humility

This first came to me in the context of Yoni, and Lingam Massage. As I sat with it, exploring it, I became aware of how it extends to all erotic and pleasure experiences. Erotic Humility....

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My Relationship With My Yoni

On the wall in my bedroom is a picture of a Lingam, and a stylised Yoni. They were made for me by a lover. I can't share the Lingam image with you, it's been deemed...

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Yoni Kiss

I offer you my mouth That you may experience your pleasure I offer you my lips, my tongue, my teeth That you may experience your Yoni In sensation, in feeling, in energy, in delight, in celebration I offer you...

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Sexually Bored, You Must Be Asleep!

Recently a few people, both couples and single people have come to see me because they're sexually bored. I've been teaching in the field of Conscious Sexuality for over 20 years, and this is a...

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YoniLIngam in the Body

Much of my work is in the world of sexual healing. At least that's where many journeys start, then they become more about learning, growing, exploring, expanding. These journeys also become more about life, all...

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The Nurtured C***

For over 25 years on my journey into Conscious Sexuality I've been learning about men and male sexuality. Firstly by going into my own Sexuality and sensuality, and then by spending so much time with...

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My Orgasmic Gratitude

The energy of gratitude has such power. It brings us into awareness, into presence. It’s an element of intimacy. It connects us to ourselves, to another, to life, to the world. Gratitude heals. There is a sense of wonder in...

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Coffee and a Kiss

It's been a while since I've written a Coffee piece, it's also been a while, a long while since I've written an erotic piece. I remember, she said, I asked you this long ago, a...

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Our Sexual Connection

Most people who come and see me, looking for healing, as that's where so many journeys into sensuality, into Conscious Sexuality, into Tantra begin, are looking for something. They're looking to connect with their sexuality....

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My Love is My Arousal

Conscious Pleasure Experiences have the amazing quality of being portals of learning, healing and growth. This is where we shift from having sex to making love. We shift from a goal-oriented experience, orgasm, to a...

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Changing the Lingam Pattern

For so many men the masculine expression of sexuality is hard. It's driving, it's taking. Its need based, released based. It's about size, performance. It's driven by a model that has trapped men in a very...

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Expanded Energy Orgasm

Our sexual energy is a powerful force within us that we can use for healing, for meditation, for creativity and more. Expanded Energy Orgasm is a philosophy and a practice of pleasure. We'll talk about...

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Expanded Energy Orgasm

Our sexual energy is a powerful force within us that we can use for healing, for meditation, for creativity and more. Expanded Energy Orgasm is a philosophy and a practice of pleasure. We'll talk about...

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Yoni/Lingam Holding Healing

Before the movement there is holding. Before the stroke there is stillness. Before the caress there is quiet. One of the most beautiful and powerful 'strokes' of massage is not moving at all. It's holding....

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Sacred Erotic Massage

There is a world of experience where the erotic is an expression of the sacred. There is a touch that comes from somewhere beyond the body, from somewhere else in my being. There is a...

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A New Massage

It's always been my intention, in the 30 years, I've been doing and teaching massage, touch and bodywork, to create beautiful experiences. In this, the exploration has been endless, and I've often said that the...

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Learning About The Fire

There are so many myths about sex. There are so many myths about sexuality. There are so many myths about desire. There are so many myths about what women want. There are so many myths about what men...

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The Slow Magic

There is magic in slow. There is such power in slow. Slow brings us into presence. All else drifts away naturally when we are present. There is no struggle in slow, there is surrender, to...

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A Self-Pleasuring Energy Experience

This is a self-pleasuring experience that will allow you to experience your sexual energy. When we can build that energy, that beautiful, powerful, vital sexual energy, when we can build it and then keep it...

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Slowly, Deeply…

So many of us are looking for more pleasure, deeper connection and intimacy as well as a greater experience of sexual energy...

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Healing Your Sexuality

You’ll learn The Love Dance, Tantric Breathing, Sexual Rhythms, Slow Union, the importance of being present during lovemaking, positions and other sexual techniques....

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Orgasmic Gratitude

My learning of life, of consciousness, has brought me to see that everything is connected, and that everything has a purpose...

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Honouring Love

My learning of life, of consciousness, has brought me to see that everything is connected, and that everything has a purpose...

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