For years I have been helping men with performance issues, premature ejaculation and erection problems. Something landed for me recently with this work, and the clue was in the question, or the problem. Performance. That's...
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There's something interesting about touch and pleasure touch, sexual touch. We think that we need to move, and move all the time. And for many of us the pattern of movement is hard and fast,...
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I want to touch you like the water With the safety of the womb With the rivers endless flow With the oceans tides As I stroke to your centre And gently away With the gathering wave Crashing its love on the shores...
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In my work, both face-to-face, and online, in one-on-one sessions and in workshops, I get to share many intimate moments with you. These are moments of awareness, moments of understanding, moments of release and letting...
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I held a man on his tears at the Water Flow Massage on Fri night, as I've held so many men and women over the years as they've cried, as I've been held in my...
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I am back in Johannesburg after an intense week of teaching in Cape Town. The learning, the sharing, the intimacy, the healing, the connecting on all the workshops, all the sessions, all the conversations was...
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Sunday morning at the Airport in Cape Town, going back to Jo'burg. I'm carrying the container with my new Yoni and Lingam, get to the security check. It goes through the scanner and they stop...
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There are many questions around aspects of sexuality that begin with how. Learning how opens doors of exploration, of discussion, of curiosity. It takes us to why, to communication, to openness, to sharing. In this open form...
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'Was walking around in a bit of a daze afterwards. It was amazing! I just relaxed and breathed gently through a kaleidoscope of colour. These beautiful sensations like tiny pulses moved up my body. Followed...
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What in the world have coffee and duct tape got to do with each other? My daughter asked me a question last night. She phrased it more or less like this, 'I don't know if...
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I found something recently, and there might be something for you in what I've found. I have always loved what I do. When people talk about having a job I've never really thought of this...
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From the ends of your toes to the tips of your fingers to the top of your head. Your Divine Body. There is a lifetime in your body, a lifetime of sensation, a lifetime of...
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I was recently asked to teach a course on Yoni Massage for a group of practitioners. This filled me with excitement for a few reasons. The first is I love to teach, and I love to inspire...
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I was watching an episode of Masterchef last week, the UK series. There was a man who had come pretty far in the competition and at one point, having got through to the next round,...
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Our mouths are incredibly intimate, and they hold a key to some deep releasing, healing, intimacy, expansion and pleasure. Over the past months I've been doing some work with the mouth and throat that has...
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For the past, it's nearly two years now, I haven't had a sexual partner, I haven't had a lover, I haven't had a relationship. Not in the traditional sense. This has been a time of...
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Kissing is one of the most intimate acts we can share with a partner, in fact there are times when kissing is more intimate than sex. Kissing brings us closer together than anything. Because kissing...
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The sacred in me arises when I sit before you, when I look into your eyes. The sacred in me arises when I kneel before you. The sacred in me arises when I sit between your...
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The energy of gratitude has such power. It brings us into awareness, into presence. It’s an element of intimacy. It connects us to ourselves, to another, to life, to the world. Gratitude heals. There is a sense of wonder in...
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It's been a while since I've written a Coffee piece, it's also been a while, a long while since I've written an erotic piece. I remember, she said, I asked you this long ago, a...
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Most people who come and see me, looking for healing, as that's where so many journeys into sensuality, into Conscious Sexuality, into Tantra begin, are looking for something. They're looking to connect with their sexuality....
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Conscious Pleasure Experiences have the amazing quality of being portals of learning, healing and growth. This is where we shift from having sex to making love. We shift from a goal-oriented experience, orgasm, to a...
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For so many men the masculine expression of sexuality is hard. It's driving, it's taking. Its need based, released based. It's about size, performance. It's driven by a model that has trapped men in a very...
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A while ago after a deep massage exchange someone said that she feels high, trippy, spacey. Just looking at her I could see that she was in an expanded state of consciousness. There was a...
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I'm for the slow…. For in the slow we feel. In the slow we savour. In the slow is the subtle. In the slow is presence. In the slow is appreciation. In the slow is awareness....
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Slowly, she said to me, slowly. Rest the head of your Lingam at the opening of my Yoni. Be still, breathe. Feel her open, feel her begin to invite you in, to welcome you. This...
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I talk about making love with life. I talk about how when we hear the term 'making love' our thoughts go to our genitals, to sex. I talk about how making love happens in so...
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G-Spot Holding is a deep practice of healing and release. It's a practice of pleasure. It's a practice of feeling and sensation. It's a practice of intimacy and connection. It's a practice of energy. It's...
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Coffee this afternoon is special, with one of my favorite things, Panettone, so deliciously sensual. I am so glad we only get them for a short time in South Africa, at this time of the...
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Coffee this afternoon is fascinating. I'm sipping it slowly, savoring the taste, the aroma. I'm looking at the sky, the garden, the clouds. I love watching clouds. I'm listening to the birds, distant traffic. I've...
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Coffee this afternoon is back home in Johannesburg. There's a rain shower, gentle rain, and I can see the sun shining in some parts of the sky, in the distance. The sound of the raindrops...
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Coffee this afternoon is back home in Johannesburg. There's a rain shower, gentle rain, and I can see the sun shining in some parts of the sky, in the distance. The sound of the raindrops...
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On Saturday I was at The Oranjezicht Market in Cape Town. There was a moment. A moment of such deep sensuality that my heart swelled to having no edges that I could feel. I was...
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I've been thinking a lot, writing about love. I've been deeper into love in myself. And I've been thinking about making love. There is often a question asked about the difference between having sex and...
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I've been aware of an expanding expression of love. Seeds that were planted, some long ago, some more recently, coming into flower. Deepening my Heart Breath practice, sitting more in my heart in healing, space,...
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Over the past weeks some new practices have emerged in my work. There's been a mixing of massage and meditation, and a mouth massage, both of these have deepened healing and pleasure experiences enormously. And...
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There are many ways to heal, to learn, to grow and to experience. The path I've chosen is that of gentleness. In gentleness we soften, we open. We relax, we release. We let go. We...
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One of the most intriguing aspects of this journey of teaching is the learning that keeps coming. During a Water Flow Massage experience I had a beautiful opportunity to do this. I don’t often participate in...
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Last week I had coffee with my social media coach, Bronwynne. (By the way, she is fantastic, if you're looking for help with social media, I'll happily connect you.) I showed her what I'd written...
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There is such power, such possibility in being relaxed, deeply relaxed, in pleasure. The body opens, energy begins to flow. From our sexual centre to the heart, and higher, spreading through the body. A wave...
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This idea arose from a place of deep pleasure, from a place of intimacy with my body, from a place of conscious connection and awareness with my body. For so many of us the relationship we...
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There is one thing we all need at the moment. Need. All of us, wherever we are on the rainbow of life, in every way there can be. Need. One of the effects of the...
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There is a really interesting aspect of being a good lover that we don't always connect with sex. Almost everyone who shares a healing and growth with me at some point says that they're amazed...
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There is something that I have intrinsically known that has come to conscious awareness. So many of our sexual issues are heart issues. We heal them in the heart. Yes they're in our bodies, in...
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There's something I teach which is so important when it comes to pleasure, to sexuality, to sensuality, to growth. It's also such an important element in relationships. There's a progression, a journey that starts with...
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Look into her eyes. Breathe. Just breathe. There are no thoughts in this moment. There is the opening to love. Breathe into your heart. Just breathe. ...
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Can you touch this body as if you were making love? Not making love as most of our world sees it. Making Love. Your hands expressing your heart. Taking care. Each movement gentle, slow, deep....
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I was looking through a Dropbox folder that had some pictures from a shoot we did a few years ago. There were some pictures of a double massage, two people massaging one person, four hands...
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Sexual Healing Is Life Healing. Our sexuality is connected to all aspects of our being. Many of our patterns manifest in our sexuality, and many of our sexual issues play out in various issues of...
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