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After Valentine’s Day

I’m not a great fan of Valentine’s Day. More than anything else because of the commercialization which it gives us as an empty expression of love.
You get the flowers, the chocolate the jewellery, the lingerie, the dinner, the whatever.
I’m going to digress for a moment and drop a hint, I really like really good quality dark chocolate!
And then what?
What happens the next day?
So let’s not throw the baby away with the bathwater here, because there are possibilities. And the more time I spend learning, teaching, experiencing, exploring, the more I see how many possibilities are present in every situation.
And here’s the possibility.
Don’t stop there, on one day.
Every day, every single day.

Surrender to Pleasure

We surrender to our sexuality, to our deep pleasure by becoming sex rather than doing sex, having sex.

For many of us sex is a doing thing, it has a progression that we follow, which is mostly a pattern that is largely unconscious.
It has steps and boxes for us to tick off and check.
It often, mostly has a goal of orgasm, which keeps us in the pattern of doing, something we have to reach, make happen. It also becomes the criterion by which to judge the experience, was it successful, did we get there?

Did You Come? Such a Heavy Question

One of the things that emerged, as it does on so many journeys, that is so important in our sexual journeys.
Get away from the outcome into the pleasure.

It’s so simple, and it changes so much in so many relationships, in so many experiences and opens so many doors of possibility.
It frees us to feel, to experience.
It frees us to connect.
It frees us into intimacy.

A Shift in Perspective on Oral Pleasure

A while ago a woman asked me a question, How do I give a better Blow-Job?
On the surface it’s a simple question, and as I see more and more, the simple questions have such depth.

We spoke a little about it, and she said that her first thought was about techniques. She thought she didn’t know enough, and if she learned more of the skills involved it would improve her performance.
Then we had a discussion about that, performance.
I asked why she thought of it as a performance, who was she performing for?
She said she wanted to giver her partner the most pleasure.
I said that maybe performance and pleasure weren’t the same thing, that performance was about creating pressure, it was about being judged, graded, given a bronze, silver or gold medal, whatever the criteria were.
So we spoke a little about pleasure.
And whose pleasure. Aah, that struck a chord somewhere.

Drop Into Your Body

Drop into your body.
Drop deep, into the base, into the pelvis.
On so many journeys, in so many teachings, it’s about moving up, moving away from our base.
And it just may be that moving the other way, moving down, brings us into ourselves. Into the core.
We can’t wait to get higher, and we can’t wait to move.
And in this we so often force the movement, we force the energy.
And we’re sitting, literally and metaphorically with a pelvis of deep tension, contraction, tightness congestion. Emotionally, physically, energetically.
We’ve created a disconnect from ourselves, a distance in our bodies.

Imagine That You Had a Lover

Imagine that you had a lover, and that lover wanted to explore your body, get to know your body, caress your body. Imagine that this lover wanted to find the ways and places you like to be touched.
Imagine that this lover wanted to look at your body, turn you this way and that to see your curves, your valleys, the way your body curls inwards to the secret places of pleasure.
Imagine that this lover wanted to hear you moan and sigh and growl and scream.
Imagine that this lover wanted to taste your body, in all the places they could, your sweat, your juices.

The Dance of Seduction

There is something so important in relationships, it’s vital to the longevity of a relationship, to the excitement and intimacy of a relationship.
Seduction.
To keep seducing each other.
Over and over again.

Seduction is a dance, an invitation.
It’s a space we offer, not only of experience, but also of the mind, the heart.

Enter From Within

I learned something this week.
Enter from within.
It sounds paradoxical, it is, as is so much of life, when we really see it.
Enter from within.
It’s expanding inside of me, showing more every day.

I’m going to put it in the context of a Yoni experience, Cervix experience.
The orgasm, when it happened, and it arose spontaneously, came in waves that moved through her body, spreading the energy through every part of her body, deepening inwards. Feelings, sensations that were still there the next day.

The Sexual Energy of Self-Pleasuring

A while ago I facilitated a Self-Pleasuring Experience.
One of the first questions that comes up is how do you facilitate that, because I know how to do it?
My answer is this, you know how to masturbate, and Self-Pleasuring is actually a different experience, as is a sexual energy experience.

What we did in this experience was have the energy practices, of breath, of movement, of touch, of sound, and then have the genital touch experience.

This Touch of Possibility

I was thinking about all the massage experiences I teach and do.
Conscious Sensual Massage, a vast field of healing and pleasure, Taoist Sexual Energy Massage, Kashmiri Massage, Water Flow Massage, Yoni Massage in its many expressions of healing and pleasure, Lingam Massage and the different ways we can do that, Breast Massage, Anal Massage, Mouth Massage, Sensual Bondage Massage/Awakening the Senses, Earth Massage, Liquid Light and more.

I was thinking about how important touch is for us, more so at the moment due to the isolation, the disconnect, the loneliness, the fear so many of us have been in the past two years.
I was thinking about how when I developed The Heart Touch so much changed in the way I teach.

Three (Erotic) Things

Three things, just three things.
And so much happens with these three things.
They could be any 3 things, and today I chose these. Rope, a blindfold, a flogger.
The strands of the flogger are made of rubber. They give a sensation, a sting, not pain.
They can also be stroked across the skin, your skin, across your whole body. They can be stroked over your legs, your thighs, the inside of your thighs, your groin crease. They can be stroked over your Yoni or Lingam. They can be stroked over your belly, your breasts, your back, your neck. They’re not just for flogging. And even that can have different sensations. One stroke. And then a pause.
Maybe a few, maybe in the same place, maybe all over. Then a pause.
Then maybe my fingertips, so softly over where the flogger struck.
Or my mouth close to your skin, blowing.

One Journey, Thank You

We’ve shared a lot this year, you and I.
Some in person, some on the other side of a screen, some reading what I write, some on my DVD’s and programmes.
I am grateful for all of it.
I learn from our discussions, questions and comments, whatever they are.
I learn about myself, and this year, maybe more than ever, has been some of the deepest learning. It’s also been a year of looking deeper into myself than ever, with more truth than ever.
I learn about this journey, this work. As much as I can call it work, because it’s a joy to share what we do.

The Dance of the Heart

‘My touch is the dance of my heart on your body.’

I wrote this line and shared it in an image a few days ago, then I read it a few times.
Earlier in the day I shared a massage swap that began with an extended time of Eye-Gazing, Heart Connection, our energies merging.
I was receiving, as much as there is giving and receiving in this space.
My partner did things she’s never done before, and I felt things I’ve never felt before.
And as I read that line again I realized that that’s what massage in that deep space is.
The dance of the Heart.
And that filled me with wonder.
The dance emerges, it has rhythm and flow, rests and pauses.
It’s a dance that never was danced before, it never will be again.
Not quite like this.

The Freedom of Sacred Saliva

Let’s start with this.
What makes saliva sacred?
Nothing, other than it’s an element of our Divine body, and as everything, every bodily fluid, is part of us, in this Divine body.
And if we were more aware of this, we would probably do some things very differently. I certainly know I would have.

Now let’s talk about the freedom of saliva.

Man to Man Kashmiri Massage

For a man to sit opposite another man and to look into his eyes is powerful.
For a man to sit naked opposite another man is powerful.
For a man to hold his hands out to another man is powerful.
For a man to be acknowledged by another man is powerful.
For a man to sit with his heart against that of another man is powerful.
For a man to be held by, to hold, another man is powerful.
For a man to breathe with another man is powerful.
For a man to be touched, to touch, another man is powerful.
For a man to receive from another man is powerful.

Be Still and Know

I went to dancing on Saturday night, around the fire, with the wind and some rain.
Sensual.
And primal.
Moments of just the music in my ears and my body moving, the earth beneath my feet, the sensation on my skin.
In one way so simple, something ancient.
Moving to music.
It does do much, on so many levels for us, thus dance.
I often compare the dance to massage, the dance of my hands on your skin. The sensation of the touch, the space it opens in your body, the stillness within, the intimacy of our eyes meeting for a moment.
I feel new space open in my body, in my dance. The deep stillness when the movement stops.

The Gates of the Temple, A Ritual

The Gates of the Temple.
The Lips of your Yoni.

Approach the temple with reverence.
In your eyes, in your heart, in your hands.
This is sacred ground.
She is of the earth, of the stars, of the ocean.
The Divine Breath flows in her body.
The Divine Fire burns in her heart.
The Divine Nectar flows in the space behind these gates.

She Got Fire

She got fire.
From deep in the earth.
From the volcano that burns in the deep of the ocean.
From the stars that give birth to worlds.
She got fire.
In her eyes, in her words, in her belly.
In her sex, she got fire.

What You Seek

The next thing is that we’re going to create a space within us for something to happen.
In this space, which is a space of intimacy with ourselves, a space of awareness.
A space of energy.
A space of the body.
A space of the heart.
A space of softness.
It’s a space of connecting with ourselves, naturally.

Out of Time Into Pleasure

There is a beautiful unfolding in the journey of teaching, which is the journey of learning.

I talk, and teach, a lot about orgasms.
I also talk, and teach, a lot, about how orgasms are often a limitation on pleasure.

What we have done is made orgasm the criterion for a ‘successful’ sexual experience, instead of our experience being about pleasure.
In this we’ve created the pressure of having to have an orgasm, which takes us out of the moment, out of the sensations, out of the energy that we’re feeling now.
An aspect of the pressure is that we see orgasm as an achievement, a goal.
And a big part of this is time.
The time it takes us to have an orgasm.

The Heart of Male Sexuality

We have, us men, these Hearts.
We have this energy of connection.
We have this space to hold you in.
We have this fire to heat you in.
We have this roar to appreciate you in.
We have this quiet to lie with you in.
We have this vulnerability to share with you.
We have this presence, expressed in so many ways.
We have this softness to flow with you.
We have this rhythm to dance with you.

Precious Tears

There have been a lot of tears this week.
My tears, men’s tears, women’s tears.
Tears of gratitude and celebration.
Tears of hurt.
Tears of what’s been hidden, being revealed, and the lightness, the freedom this has brought.
The relief of not carrying that weight any more.
Tears of who we are, almost as a birth, looking at ourselves as if for the first time. Seeing with eyes that are more open, eyes that take some time to adapt to this new vision, looking with wonder.
Tears of release, of letting go, of softening.

I Have Become (Un)Comfortably Numb

We’re taught, from the time we’re small, not to feel too much, too deeply.
Or rather, we’re not taught, to feel, to be with our emotions, to digest them, to learn from them.
It’s a disconnect from the body.
It’s a disconnect from our heart.
It takes us out of being present.
It takes us out of intimacy.
And it takes us out of the possibility of deep pleasure.

The Divine Possibility of Yoni Opening

At the moment many women are reaching out with a desire to have deeper, more fulfilling experiences.
For some women it’s about being able to have sex without pain.
For some women it’s about having an orgasm.
For some women it’s about feeling desire.
For some women it’s about exploring, discovering.
For some women this is about internal orgasms, G-Spot Orgasms, A-Spot, Cervical Orgasms.

The Practice of Sensual Awareness

We use the word Sensuality in a variety of ways.
We use it connected to sex, as the foreplay, the lead up to sex.
We use it connected to experiences of touch, of sensation.
We use it connected to massage, and sensual massage usually means, not always, depending on our understanding, something genital.

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