sexuality Tag

If I Were To…

If I were to write something today about sex and energy I would write that sex changes when it becomes an energy experience more than a physical one. That the physical, our bodies, our beautiful...

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My Massage Journey

My journey in healing began with massage and I have reconnected with this in such a beautiful and deep way. Bodywork, touchwork, have always been a big part of what I do, from the understanding...

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The State Of Orgasmic Potential

The body is a field of possibility. By being more in the body we can access that field. Orgasmic energy is a field of possibility. Be being more in that field we can be more in...

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Yoni/Lingam Holding Healing

Before the movement there is holding. Before the stroke there is stillness. Before the caress there is quiet. One of the most beautiful and powerful 'strokes' of massage is not moving at all. It's holding....

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Sacred Erotic Massage

There is a world of experience where the erotic is an expression of the sacred. There is a touch that comes from somewhere beyond the body, from somewhere else in my being. There is a...

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A New Massage

It's always been my intention, in the 30 years, I've been doing and teaching massage, touch and bodywork, to create beautiful experiences. In this, the exploration has been endless, and I've often said that the...

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Learning About The Fire

There are so many myths about sex. There are so many myths about sexuality. There are so many myths about desire. There are so many myths about what women want. There are so many myths about what men...

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The Slow Magic

There is magic in slow. There is such power in slow. Slow brings us into presence. All else drifts away naturally when we are present. There is no struggle in slow, there is surrender, to...

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A Self-Pleasuring Energy Experience

This is a self-pleasuring experience that will allow you to experience your sexual energy. When we can build that energy, that beautiful, powerful, vital sexual energy, when we can build it and then keep it...

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What Has Become Of Us?

There is something that I've been hearing so much lately in my work. 'I can't tell him that, it's going to hurt his ego.' Is this what we've become, us men. ...

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Heart-Centered Sexuality, A Free Talk

The Expanded Orgasmic Wave is a pleasure experience of deep fulfilment. It takes you into your body, into your sexual energy and into your heart. It allows you to experience the power of erotic sensation in waves...

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A Ritual of Offering

There is such power in ritual in a relationship. It's an experience of consciousness, of presence. In this space we come together with an intention. We come into intimacy, we come into our hearts, we come...

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Beyond Pleasure

There's a fascinating idea in Conscious Sexuality that allows us to look at sexuality differently, and opens up a world of possibility. It's about going beyond pleasure. ...

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The Meditation Of Touch

There is a touch that is slow, so slow. There is a touch that is gentle, so gentle. It comes from the heart, an energy that flows through your body into your hands so that your...

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We Remember The Sacred

There are not many women who have been fully sexually satisfied. Deeply fulfilled to the core of their being. Touched, soul touched, heart touched. Body replete. Given herself totally, utterly. Every level of her being open, exposed, safe, loved, respected,...

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Inside, Too Quickly

Many women have been penetrated too quickly, often way before their bodies are ready to have something inside. The impact of this is tension in the tissues of the yoni, often around and just inside...

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Healing The Body Slowly

One of the most important elements of what I teach is that we live in patterns and that most of our patterns are not conscious. We're not aware of them, we simply do what we...

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Yoni Disconnect

There are so many things that disconnect women from their sexuality, from their bodies, from their yoni's and from their pleasure....

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My Own Journey

Over the past months I've experienced a deep sadness. I've felt it in my body, in my being, in my energy, in my heart. ...

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This Place, Beyond

This experience is available to all of us. It can't really be described as our words limit our understanding. It can but be experienced. ...

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Stay In Your Body

Our body is an intelligence, a consciousness, an awareness. It's in the body and it is the body. To be with it, to experience it, to feel it, we need to learn to stay in...

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Yoni Healing

Yoni Healing is slow, so slow. It's gentle, so gentle. It's allowing, not making, not forcing, not rushing. It's allowing your body to release, to soften. To release the past. ...

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My Connected Male Body

The relationship we have, with our genitals is not conscious, at best it’s functional, and deeper than that it’s contractive, it’s fearful with comparison, with a level of performance, with a lack of information and...

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This Conscious Kiss

For so many of us kissing is a prelude, something we do that leads to something else. And for some people it’s something they have to do to get to the next step. Conscious Kissing is...

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Conscious Receiving

There's an element of touch that I don't think we're always aware of because we focus so much on the giving of touch. Receiving touch. Consciously Receiving your lover's touch. ...

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Sensual Bondage Massage

It's a touch experience that takes you deep into your body, into your energy, using a range of sensations. It's a place where sensation and emotion come together. It's an exploration of the possibilities of...

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The Best Time

When we're present, when we're in this moment, when we're connected to ourselves, when we're open, when we're in a space of intimacy, with ourselves, more than anything else, this moment is the best there...

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Sensual Curiosity

Curiosity is one of the most important elements of vitality. It helps keep us interested and interesting. In a relationship it's one of the qualities that contribute to fulfillment. ...

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Slow Union

There’s a practice I teach called Slow Union. Over time this practice reveals almost endless gifts to us as it releases that which prevents us going deep into pleasure and the myriad, mystical, magical gifts we...

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The Endless Touch

One of the most beautiful things about learning Sensual Massage, Heart Massage, Healing Massage, is the endless journey of discovery it offers. ...

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In The Giving

It's often been said that the receiving is in the giving. This is showing to be so true in the learning of Healing Massage. I was thinking about my journey, working in the field of...

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Healing Men

It's easy for me to talk about the fears that many men have around their sexuality, about the sexual problems they have, the impact these have on their emotional state, their relationships and lives. I...

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Taoist Sexual Rhythm

One of the deepest practices that I offer and teach is Taoist Sexual Energy Massage. It's a full-body massage that works with the body’s meridian system, bringing healing to the entire being every time you...

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Words on My Lover’s Body

If you wrote a poem on your lover’s body, what would it say? Even your imaginary lover, the lover that you would like to have, the lover you dream about. Where on their body would you write...

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The Shifting Sands of Perception

Last week in my practice there were some amazing realizations that came through shifting perspectives and asking different questions. Asking different questions allows us to see things differently. When we can see things differently we...

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Disneyland and The Holy Grail

So many of us are looking for the Disneyland of sex, love and pleasure. We think that's where it is, the ultimate. It’s like a roller-coaster or ghost-train. It's a thrill. A quick thrill. There...

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Tell Me Something Different!

Most of my work is in the field of Conscious Sexuality and Relationships, which means that that’s what most people come and see me for, and that’s where most journeys start. However, as our sexuality doesn’t...

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Heart-Centered Healing

There's a model of healing I keep coming back to. It's challenging because it challenges the way we look at healing. It's not about fixing the problem. And that's the problem. We’ve been convinced we have to fix...

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Sitting With Love

I sat alone in the night and I asked Love to come and sit with me. I know Love in all its exquisite savagery, in all its terrible beauty. I know the gentleness and tenderness...

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The Questions We Shouldn’t Ask

There are some questions we shouldn't ask. Because the answers make us uncomfortable, they make us squirm inside. Because if we ask them we might have to do something about it. Because if we ask them we...

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The Art of Sensual Massage

The deeper we go into Sensual Massage, the deeper we go into art. The art of touch, the art of communication, the art of intention, the art of presence, the art of awareness, the art of...

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Men Going Deeper

Last week in my practice I had two incredibly deep experiences. Both of these are connected to a different story of our sexuality...

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Men’s Story

As I look at a different story for our sexuality I turn to an experience I had recently and what it brought to mind...

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