The way that many of us have sex, penetrative sex, is what we call friction sex. Because that's what it is. Friction. Skin rubbing on skin, building enough sensation until one of us, hopefully both,...
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I started writing a piece on the shame of desire. This came up a lot in the past week with my students and clients. How we've been made to feel shame for the desires we...
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The freedom to feel is the freedom to experience, feeling, sensation, energy, emotion. It's the freedom to experience the moment, in the fullness of all that it has to offer. To feel this requires us...
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In pleasure we meet ourselves. In deep, conscious pleasure we meet some of the deepest parts of who we are. My teaching journey began teaching about pleasure, particularly women's pleasure. This included offering touch, massage...
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Intimacy is a state of being. It's who we are. It's within us. Looking for intimacy, which is what so many of us are, especially now. Looking for intimacy is looking for ourselves. It's a journey...
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This first came to me in the context of Yoni, and Lingam Massage. As I sat with it, exploring it, I became aware of how it extends to all erotic and pleasure experiences. Erotic Humility....
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I've been working in the field of Conscious Sexuality for a long time, teaching and doing one-on-one. I love the journeys I share because of the depth we go to. That's really what interests me,...
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On the wall in my bedroom is a picture of a Lingam, and a stylised Yoni. They were made for me by a lover. I can't share the Lingam image with you, it's been deemed...
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A while ago I had a 3-way touch experience that was so beautiful, so sensual, so intimate. It was deeply arousing, with no penetration, no orgasm. It was just hands flowing over skin, bodies touching,...
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Recently a few people, both couples and single people have come to see me because they're sexually bored. I've been teaching in the field of Conscious Sexuality for over 20 years, and this is a...
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Much of my work is in the world of sexual healing. At least that's where many journeys start, then they become more about learning, growing, exploring, expanding. These journeys also become more about life, all...
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Yesterday I shared a post that I wrote a while ago, called What's Become of Us. It's on my page if you'd like to read it. It was prompted by a few things. Many women...
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The past weeks have been difficult for me. I've felt a little lost, alone, down. I'm usually quite focused, I've been scattered. I've been thinking about where I'm going in a way that's not directed...
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Much of my work is, or begins with sexuality, the relationship we have with our sexuality is, of course, a large part of this. This relationship forms the framework of the journey, it gives it...
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Last week I did a rope workshop facilitated by a friend in Australia. It was a very non-traditional approach, that wasn't really about tying, knots, positions etc, which is often quite technical. This was about...
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Our sexuality is a guide, a teacher, a path of personal enquiry, a way to experience energy, a way to access deep states of consciousness, a way to become incredibly intimate with ourselves, a place...
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We talk about all the different kinds of orgasms women, and men, can experience. Many people I, and I'm sure many other practitioners, work with, come to learn how to have these different experiences. In...
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Yoni or Lingam Meditation of Gazing is looking with, through, the eyes of your heart. It's a meditation on loving, accepting, acknowledging, in the giving and in the receiving. It's a meditation on presence, sexual...
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There is such power, such possibility, in one breath. In the world of pleasure we're often looking for more. More feeling, more sensation, more experiences, more technique, more partners, more toys… Most of these things...
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I talk about, teach about, Making Love with Life, and the limitless possibilities that that holds for us. Last week I had such a direct and beautiful experience of this. In these moments, Life, in...
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When we think of sex, of making love, we often think of our genitals only. Our whole bodies are sensual, sexual and filled with possibility, learning to make love with all of ourselves opens so...
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There are many questions around aspects of sexuality that begin with how. Learning how opens doors of exploration, of discussion, of curiosity. It takes us to why, to communication, to openness, to sharing. In this open form...
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When we're present, when we're in this moment, when we're connected to ourselves, when we're open, when we're in a space of intimacy, with ourselves, more than anything else, this moment is the best there...
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When I started teaching The Heart Touch the way I taught massage changed so much. ...
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Curiosity is one of the most important elements of vitality. It helps keep us interested and interesting. In a relationship it's one of the qualities that contribute to fulfillment. ...
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There’s a practice I teach called Slow Union. Over time this practice reveals almost endless gifts to us as it releases that which prevents us going deep into pleasure and the myriad, mystical, magical gifts we...
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We all have a Pleasure Being within us. And to many of us this wondrous aspect of ourselves is a stranger. ...
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Our sexuality is in the context of our lives. It's not, as many people think, and the way they express it, in a little box that they take out in very specific circumstances and use...
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How much of what we feel during sex, during touch, during pleasure is what we expect to feel? And because we expect it to feel that way, that's what we feel. ...
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When we go to the body we're creating a quietness, a stillness for the mind to begin its inward journey...
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